As a dominant guy, I meet a lot of submissive women. Some of them are submissive pretty much at all times, but a whole lot of them are quite dominant in their day-to-day lives, but submissive in bed. I've even dated a few of them.
The latter have all said more-or-less the same thing: "in my normal life, I have to ALWAYS make ALL the decisions and be responsible for EVERYTHING! It's exhausting! When I come home to be with my man, I want to leave that behind, and I want HIM to make all the decisions and tell me what to do. I'll happily do whatever he says - just don't make ME make the decisions!"
Know this, though: I've also met women who were dominant at work and were dominant sexually, and I've met women who were relatively submissive at work but dominant sexually.
So, everyone is different, and we all have our own reasons for being what we are. The thing is: however we are, that's how we are, and we probably won't change, so it's important that we both accept ourselves and that we find partners we are really compatible with, who can accept us and who we can accept, because if you're expecting your partner to change, or they're expecting you to change, that's probably never gonna happen.
This has been my experience over several decades. I believe the psyche seeks balance and I've found that the more assertive and ambitious a woman is professionally, she's often that intense about her sexual submission. I love to tease my gf who's a senior manager at a data service in sing song: Cathy likes to get spa--nked! Cathy likes to get spa--nked!! She blushes and tells me to stop at which point I roughly yank her over my knee and give her one of those bare bottom spankings she loves.
Does that answer your question?
I'd say it's definitely true for some people. How far would a person get in life if they were always submissive? Oh, the cable company screwed me out of 100$. I guess they'll work it out eventually...
Being in a situation where you can turn over a varying portion of your responsibility is part of the appeal of the Dominant/submissive dynamic. It's also why a submissive's service is a gift. They can usually take care of things just fine but they're trusting a Dominant to do it right for them.
There are other people who are very assertive in their daily life and are assertive in the bedroom too though. And then there are other people who aren't into dynamics and just have a good time. It just depends.
It's NOT always this formula
but certainly can imagine
boobs at work need ultra control else the business will crash
so worn out but at home with someone trustworthy enough to know how to pleasure me
= submissive is A-OK
trusting in happy outcomes, as per past performances
WHY GO ANON? Nothing personal read here?
I mean, sexually speaking I get turned on by being put into my sub space by someone and having someone be more dominant towards me.
But in every day life if I roll over and take your shit, then I'm ill or you're a really, reallly, really close friend.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!There's no real way to answer this. Everyone is different. I'm sure there are plenty of people this applies to and a lot of people who have/want a girl like that. But everyone is different, t. Everyone has their own preferences.
What woman doesn't want a man who is tall sadark and hansome? I'm looking for chick who is into it. You think 50 shades of grey was kinky... You haven't seen anything until you experience 50 Shades of Black! I incorporate bdsm along with countless female orgasms into my system whether its by me or machines that I use on you while your tied up defenseless while I walk away to enjoy my sports or newscast for 45 mins to an hour before I return to decipline you some more. You will submit to me whenever or wherever I want it. You cannot rape the willing...
Well this was intense.
I think the article is right and that it applies to both sexes. A woman or man who is kind of dominant in everyday life can get a thrill from the change in behavior, and it manifests often in his/her sexual life since he or she is with a person they have a lot of trust in. So enjoying a little roughness in bed is okay because he /she trusts that their partner won't go too far, or will back off when told that they have.
I think that bondage play is an extension of the dominance/submissiveness thing but there may be more there. Also, acting out rape fantasies can be healthy but has a different basis than the dominance thing.
depend of people 's experience , as for me, independent women i know around here usually also dominant on bed..
its true for some but not for others. From what i hear though, its quite often true.
maybe it is because they are tired of having to be in control of everything all the time, and when they get to the bed room they just let the man take control
Because they are indecisive. I'm always dominant, in bed and otherwise.
Nope, I don't care if she's dominant or submissive in her daily life. As long as she understands I own that ass when she enters the bedroom. So no I don't think it's true.
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