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To the girls, after having the best sex ever, how do you feel about sub-par sex that comes after?

Hello girls of GAG, I have this question for girls with some sexual experience. Truth be told, I don't have any real sexual experience, just kissing and fingers. It took a while, but I'm kind of ready to do something more. I know that the psychology surrounding the sex is what contributes to great sex, (and a bit of technique and rythm), however, assuming if I had sex with a girl, and gave her the BEST TIME EVER... I wonder, would it affect her outlook on how sex should be in the future? When it comes to sex, there's good sex, and there is GREAT sex. Sometimes it takes a while before finally getting to that incredible GREAT SEX experience. But if the great sex didn't last forever because of relationships ending, and sex returned to normal sex... After having an incredible sexual experience (earth shaking orgasms and intense emotions, etc), let's say that experience was only a one time thing, and then you went with a guy barely made you feel sexy, and the orgasms were weak... So with this, do you ever compare your sexual experiences? Do you find there to be a difference? And when applying hindsight, would you say that before experiencing this incredible episode, you would have used to consider yourself having great sex... but after that, would consider all the previous sex as okay sex? Also, after knowing the difference, does 'great sex' then become a requirement for you in terms of compatibility? This is something that I'm curious about, if sexual experience would affect your perception of how sex should be. Be as harsh as you like =D. Personal experience would be nice.
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  • great sex depends more on the person that you are with than on how skilled that person is. I mean, you could learn everything that is needed to be learnt and still suck at it, you could have years and years of sex and still suck at it. To me, a guy that sucks in bed is a guy that is not connected to you during the act. A guy that goes for what he wants and never cares about his partner is simply a bad laid. Women do compare, but mostly about how connected they felt or how good he was in this or that, but a common thing is that a guy that never cares about their partner sucks in bed.

    • Hmm, I'm kind of dealing with an isolated point here. This assumes that the 'ideals' are met. There is emotional connection. However, sex is still partly technical, there's no talking a girl into sexual bliss without some form of stimulation. Also, some people have had incredible sex despite emotional distance or discord, through sheer sexual tension. I was wondering from that point of view, rather than "What would you consider to be great sex?".

    • what's your question then? sexual experiences won't change someone's perception on how sex should be, it would be different with every partner because we are all different, it's up to every experience how good it is or if it's GREAT. But if you are thinking that you wanted to be GREAT and during your first sexual experience you think it was just good, don't think that great won't happen, it will and you can only know that after doing it more than once. hope that helps

    • So you're saying you never had sexual experience that you could compare with? O. o K gist of answer would be something like - "I had great sex once, and okay sex after that, but Okay sex is still great and I don't pine after great sex" or "I had great sex, and it forever changed my view on what sex should be like. I used to think that missionary style, comfortable state of mind, no orgasm was considered GREAT sex cos it made me happy... but after that one experience... omg, no more mediocre sex for me! It's time to work on our sex life!" I'm not asking for guys point of view because frankly speaking, I'd say, I had an incredible handjob once, it was so damn good, it forever changed my mind about what my body could feel/do, and I suppose that it's going to be a benchmark that I'll subconsciously compare every other orgasm to.

  • welllll, like "good sex" for me anyways, is honestly where you love the person, you both had a good orgasm, (you'll know when you have one :)) and honestly just was happy to have sex with the girl is important, its different for us so like I don't know for a guy but pleasuring a guy is fun when you're comfortable with the guy. just wait for when you're ready, having had sex with like 5 different guys in long term relationships at age 16. take your time.

  • For me no. I've had the ultimate sex of my life, amazing sex, great sex, regular sex. Bad sex, really bad sex, and rape. None of These affected the other. If i did not have the best I masturbate to get my satisfation or porn or both. I know not every time is gonna be good so I domt get to down hearted when it happens. If you want more details on the matter message me

Most Helpful Guy

  • I know what you mean. I have had incredible sex worse part is now I can't go back!

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  • not sure mate

  • I think it’s just like eating an AMAZING meal. Yeah the meal after that is like oh. But then you get used to having good meals and only happily remember the amazing meal sometimes.

    However if you grew up having amazing meals. Or had an ex who gave you mind blowing sex then you can’t go back without being a little disappointed for quite a long time.

    • Well here's what you have to do, irrespective of physical attraction (level of eroticism) associated with that, you must communicate with your lover. Most men aim to do a good job, personally getting you hot gets me hotter, so you need to simply state what you want with no inhibitions, this is a turn on for the partner too. makes both experiences better, and of course it works both ways. Some people go their entire lives having so-so sex because they're too inhibited to discuss it.

  • lol i always compare my sexual experiences. yes, i want great sex, but obviously it's not always great. i like sex and i make sure that i cum too. it's only fair xd

  • If there's a cock in my pussy, it's a good day

  • Don't even get it

  • I know my size helps

  • I never compare it but ya... orgasm matters

  • Size And Especially Girth Matter!

  • nah cause we know that each guy is different but if your dick game is trash and the next guy we fuck did it just right then we're gonna tell him how much better he was than you

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