Why does being called dirty names turn me on?

Question

I used to think it was vulgar and insulting and I didn't enjoy it. But now, it really turns me on when someone talks dirty to me during sex or calls me names. It doesn't make sense to me now looking back. I'm not sure what changed in me, like a switch went off or something. Is it that my mind craves for more to make things more stimulating?

Editor · Accepted Answer

Being called dirty names makes a woman feel submissive and makes her partner seem aggressive and dominant. This makes her feel more desired. It can also allow her to enjoy what's happening more since she doesn't have to take full responsibility for it -- her partner is in charge. It often allows her to act more sexually adventurous and try things she would be embarrassed to suggest if it was entirely up to her.

You probably won't like it all the time, but there's nothing wrong with it. Sometimes you'll want it tender, sometimes you'll want it rough, and that's normal.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

You found your sexually submissive self. What we do privately sexually has nothing to do with who we are in the "real world." If it turns you on, my sweet slut ;), then ask him to tell you what kind of a bad girl you are. Are you inclined to want him to be physically dominant: manhandling, spanking, a little light bondage, rough nipple play? Any of that speak to the new subbie in you?

ladieslady50 · Accepted Answer

I think it's because it's naughty that this increases the thrill, especially as it's associated with a sexual scenario. In general, you'd be offended if you were called those names or spoken to in that way in a public forum, someplace asexual. Plus, we are always told from a young age, that being a slut is bad and that sex should be done in secret, so this allows for that wickedness for those brief moments. I hope I'm making sense

incognito121 · Accepted Answer

When you are younger people that are called these names are usually girls that have slept around but with age knowledge and understanding of sex you realise that between a partner and you it's ok. I love being called a filthy little slut strange but true. Although when I was younger if someone was called this it was because she slept with most of the boys i knew lol

Bethany-Louise · Accepted Answer

Because if someone were to call you those for real, it's 'degrading' So to be enjoying being spoken to like a 'little whore' is sexy because it's kind of taboo, and you give up a lot of control :)

Bellibooo · Answer

Because it's freaking hot, that's why.

BlacklightShade · Answer

It gives you a sense of the forbidden and dangerous perhaps. You get to get away from being the nice girl for a change.

rthomas43 · Answer

I don't know the reasoning behind it, but tons of women are the same way.

kain7th · Answer

You got a dirty, bad, side you never knew about ;)

ponpokopen · Answer

yeah my gf is also like that.. i'm curious lol

Xwtxx · Answer

You associate these words for sexual excitement.

TheSpartan · Answer

I don't know, but it's insanely hot when women have your attitude!

Anonymous · Answer

I love it as well. My boyfriend calls me his dirty little slut when he's pounding me from behind and it drives me crazy! He also says what a good slut I am to take his load inside me as well. It all turns me on to no end.