My boyfriend said he wants to try everything with me?

[Anonymous]

My bf is currently away in another state for work. He decided to ask me out after he moved. Anyways we talk on the phone and Skype a lot. He constantly talks about the things he wants to do with me when he comes back in a month. Besides the basic such as regular sex and hanging out he also wants to. He wants me to "toss his salad" Smoke with him He wants to do anal on me He wants to eat me out on my period because he believes it will bind us forever. And countless other things he wants to try with me. What does this mean? Could he be deeply in love with me which is why he wants to do all of these things? He also mentioned that he can't imagine doing these things with any other woman and only desires to do it with me. We also are pretty serious and love each other a lot. But I would like to think his fantasies are normal with any man who has found the one

[Kalinda]

Maybe wit he wanted you to do anal on him. This kind of sounds like he's using being crazy about you an excuse to get you to play out his deepest fantasies.

When you love some own it's not just ( or is it even at all idk) expressed through sexual fantasies which technically you can do with anyone. It's the things you so and plan together that are specific to the two off you. Things that show you know and care for each other and are willing to go out if your way. Fantasies at about him not you and it's just about doing want he wants. I don't know if that means love. I just don't. ... I mean do you even want to do any of those thing are there things you do want that he's boot mentioning? ( non sexual things)

He basically just ran down a list of things that's make a good p*rn video. He could just as easily have come to you and said we'd make a great video and I can't imagine doing it anyone else.

Something sounds off to me but I could be wrong. (I'm a virgin and haven't been in a Relationship yet)

Anyhow if he loves you and you love him that's great but don't do things you don't any to do and speak up about things you do want.

What do you want out if the relationship? Sexual or otherwise.

Now maybe he is the kind of person who only can do these things with someone he trusts and truly loves. But I don't think playing out sexual fantasies is necessarily a sign if love. Lust yes. Anyhow as I say could be wrong.

Just make sure to look out for yourself. People end up doing all sorts of things bc they think it's for love.

[Asker]

I love your answer and thank u. But he wants to do anal on me not me doing it to him. I just was wondering if men who are serious about a woman usually desire this kind of sex to keep the fire going. Its common in marriages

[Kalinda]

Yes I know he meant he wanted to do anal to you. Sorry I had a lot of typos. Anyhow I was saying if he wanted you to do anal on him thatd show some sacrifice. doing anal on you Itd just him getting off. Anal hurts a lot its not really a sign of him loving you to want to do anal. Ansl, theoretically is something you'd do for him that some people would say would prove your love Bc it's taboo and psinful. I don't think willingness to go through pain is a sign of love. Anyhow it doesn't matter bC were talking about him wanting anal from you being a sign of his love. And kdk. Prople do things in marriage to spice things up. Bc they've been together a long time. It's also in the context of the couple having Already done a lot of other non sexual things- like marriage vows- yo show their love for each other. How long have you guys been together? It didn't seem like yiud been together do long you needed to spice things up. Spicing things up isn't a sign of love.

[Kalinda]

It's a sign youve hit a lull and one or both of you want to get re enthused. I guess technically you could say it happens when in love bc instead of just breaking up bc you are bored, you try to relight the attraction. But fantasies in themselves are not a sign of love. They are a sign of lust. possibly trust. Depending on how shy you are. Fantasies can be a part of love but on their own it's not enough to know. Esoecuslly since it diesnt invokve snything you want. That's why I asjed what you wanted. Anyhow if you feel loved in other ways and if fantasies are soecusl to him than maybe. But there's not enough info. People in love do share sexysl fantasies but so do friends with benefits escort Ons a lot of different relationships. doesn't mean he's not in love with you. But don't do things you're uncomfirtable with just bc he calls it love. Love is about both of you not just one of him.

[AmyGirlyeaah]

This is so cute in a weird way, he finnds you super attractive which is good

[Red_Arrow]

Whoa, slow down. Really. When a guy is away from the gal he is currently dating, he begins thinking of lots of things he would like to do with her. And the longer he is away from her, the more he thinks about such things. Maybe he loves you, maybe not. But right now he is having a lot of sexual thoughts just because he is away from you. And someone's sexual interest is only a measure of their... sexual interest. It does not mean anything about love or commitment.

Wait till you are together again for a while and see how things are.

[Kalinda]

nice. One other poster who actually read the question. :-)

[Red_Arrow]

Thank you for noticing @Kalinda. I see that you are new on here but have been real buy asking questions. I am going to look at them now and probably have some opinions for you. ;-)

[Kalinda]

:-) Thsnk you. I'm a bit embarrassed. I can tell I wrote the question in a bit of an apprehensive state. It's kind of sloppy. I guess I was nervous. Update. I asked him out on a date to the park which we never want on bc it was freaking FREEZIznG. But I ended up going over to his place the day before the " date" and we just hung out fixed a tabke watched the history channel and fell asleep. He didn't try anything but I woke up with him holding my hand. Lol it was sweet. We went to his friends b day party the next day and I ended up staying over again and again he was gentleman. :) I assume he can tell I've never been with anyond bc everything he does surprises me and I'm alwats a bit shy. And he seems to easily take that into account. So I haven't really discussed where things are going bc so far im actuslly feel pretty ok with him... And Id rather take things one day at a time. And I'm learning the difference between uncomfortable and not liking something:)

[Kalinda]

I suppse before things get sexual we'll have to talk about my lack of experience. But I don't think we need a relationship talk in particular. Atm bc we both seem ok with things... It's ok to just take things as they come unless there's a problrm? I'm used to planning things in my life to keep it organized... But relationships seemed I don't know a different category. Anyhow thank you for answering my other question. I haven't read it yet. thought id update... thiugh I gyess I should gsve done ut on the actusl qyestion lol. Except I talk too much when explaining unfamiliar things... I do not think there's enough space:) . Thanks:)

[NovaLS]

Eh some of that is weird... But smoking, then sex is a lot of fun. I always get super horny when I am high :S I don't smoke much anymore though. Try smoking and blowing the smoke into the other person's mouth, second hand smoke haha. The rest is meh to me. Not really comfortable with any of that. Sex on your period maybe, but not oral... Ask me again in 10 years :P

[NovaLS]

If you meant tobacco smoke theeeeennn this is a bit awkward though.

[Klaatu51]

Everything i guess it means what it means... but everything it doesn't mean some weird fetishes like scat or piss i guess LOL

[Anonymous]

it's funny. :D

[Anonymous]

Everything minus the period part lol. A little odd but sure