i don't want to be a lesbian?

[Anonymous]

When I was young I masturbated to normal things, I watched videos of a couple and that was it. Until I passed the lesbian page. Now im bicurious. I hate it!! Because I don't feel like me. This wasn't meant to happen this way! I dont wanna be like this. I don't feel like 'oh yeah she's sexy whenever im with a girl' so that's a good sign. Its like a wickedness. Its really hard to live normal when you have the opposite sex on ur mind. I only get turned on when I think dirty about them. Does anyone know how to prevent this from getting any closer to becoming a full lesbian. Should I stop masturbating?

[Alexzktra]

Hey, sweetie, I'm an actual lesbian.. yeah. And, we are not so bad. We are not wicked. We're not evil. But, you don't come across to me as one of us. It hurts me though that you think it wuold be so bad if u were. But this sounds like just fantasy, and that's okay. It's all okay. If u were a lesbian, it would be okay. But you do like men, if what yr saying is true.. so you are not a lesbian. I don't doubt u are straight! You shouldn't worry about this, but pls reconsider why u think it is bad to be lesbian.

Anyway, I won't lecture you on watching p*rn underage, bc you probably wount listen :P And I was watching p*rn at 17, soo..~ but, silly bean, stop that! Honestly, I don't think yr ready 4 these feelings. That's okay, too. It's all okay. <3

[Asker]

Sorry if I offended you. Its just I live in a family where religion is just too numb 1 priority. My parents always told me these things are bad etc. I personally don't think its that bad but when I start to panic a lot of things come out. I know its not a choice to become gay, it's just natural and the hormones that decide itself. The reason I sound like I'm against it (sorry again) was because I've always wanted to be with a guy and grow up old and have children. With the guy im with now, I love him to absolute bits. I don't want him to upset etc. Im not against gays, so sorryy if I said things wrong that'd hurt you. :) x

[Alexzktra]

I know. I can hear yr fear, and I want you to know that it's okay. It's okay to question, to be afraid, to be upset. It's okay to like girls, as a girl.. though you don't seem to, honestly. I think you are straight, and just worried due to yr upbringing. That's not yr fault. It would be scary to be gay! It was scary for me. I was very upset. I can relate, in some way. I'm glad you are happy w/yr boyfriend. I'd suggest saying away frm p*rn , tho, tbh. It's not a good place 4 u, obviously. <33

[overthinkingmind]

All it means is that you like lesbian p*rn .

If in real life you don't find other girls attractive, you're NOT lesbian.
Many girls/women enjoy lesbian p*rn but are straight. It's just like some girls fantasize about being raped, but obviously they don't really want be raped.

[overthinkingmind]

PLEASE, relax. Seriously.

[overthinkingmind]

And thanks for MHO (:

[Asker]

I was just so damn worried! Thankyouuuu :)

[overthinkingmind]

I like lesbian p*rn too and I have a boyfriend :p Never felt attracted to other girls! You're welcome! ^-^

[Zendrya]

This is ridiculous... you are either a lesbian or not... if you still like guys than you aren't a lesbian obviously and even if you are bi you can still just date guys if you want... I don't see what is wrong with being bi or a lesbian though.

[Asker]

Being a bi, is not a damn choice. its a damn mistake to me. I never wanted this. I have to get this outta my head.

[Zendrya]

It wasn't my damn choice either. I was born this way... so if you wouldn't mind, stop being so damn rude. I didn't want it either but it is the way it is and I have accepted it and am happy with it. There is nothing wrong with liking women... they are beautiful and wonderful beings.

[Asker]

You're in a complete different environment as I am. But were not in the exact same situation. However I don't want my thoughts to lead to being a lesbian. I have a boyfriend. I don't want to become a lesbian, im sorry I can't accept such thing for the inner me. Sorry if I insulted you, its perfectly fine with u but thats okay. For me I just don't want this.

[Zendrya]

If you are this against it and still like men you probably aren't bisexual or anything for crying out loud. It isn't a big deal and I am offended.. you are being a hypocrite.

[Asker]

I have a boyfriend. Do you think its just a thought of mind or will this become something more bigger in the end. Once im into women that way (like thinking about them in a dirty way) it will never go. Thats what im worried about.

[Alexzktra]

Asker, you will be okay. You are obsessing about this. Many straight people have the fear they are gay.

[Zendrya]

I don't think you are bisexual or a lesbian. You like lesbian p*rn which is normal as you get to see girls get what they want rather than watching a guy bust his balls all over one. If you don't find women attractive in real life then you aren't gay. I have a boyfriend too by the way and being bisexual has never affected our relationship in a bad way... it only makes us closer. If you are that dead set against it you probably aren't. don't worry about it.

[Anonymous]

Tbh you do not need to hide your true feelings let it go according to flow if you change your course then you will end up on any other part in society which be be more uncomfortable. If you let it go with flow you will at last be at comfortable zone.

[Asker]

Im not. My true feelings are, I'm im deep love with a guy who I want to marry in the future. I never chose to be a bi. I didn by mistake. I shouldn't have done that but I was a kid. I didn't know anything, I was so dumb.

[JCT666]

Now let that be a lesson for under 18s watching explicit videos and getting scarred for it... Just don't watch it again and you should be fine.

[Asker]

Its really hard to give up on masturbating, you know!

[JCT666]

Well yes, but it doesn't have to be over explicit lesbian sites, does it?

[Asker]

Yeah but, the ways of masturbating through girls is different. we visualize. And if I do that, my mind instantly pops up with girls. I can't get those images out of my head.

[Neko_Chan]

Aren't you overreacting? If you don't want to be with a female, then don't. I don't understand the problem.

[Asker]

Its not being with a female. It's how kne thing leads to another.

[Illusive_Man]

You don't have a choice.

[Asker]

I can try and stop thinking about them. I still am attracted to men. I just need to keep my distance from watching p*rn videos of lesbians and shit.

[Illusive_Man]

If you think it'll work who am I to say , I'm not a lesbian

[Klaatu51]

sorry but you can't change the way you are. embrace your sexuality, it's not sth to be ashamed of

[Anonymous]

What's so wrong about being gay?

[Asker]

There's nothing wrong. Its literally the environment that I'm in, it's pressuring me a lot. I have a religious family; they'll kill me if I told them that I was looking at lesbian porn!

[Opinion Owner]

There's nothing wrong with being gay. If your parents can't accept it, too bad. That's who you are. Don't let them have you deny that

[Anonymous]

I enjoy lesbian p*rn but I'm perfectly straight. I think you are overreacting.

[Anonymous]

your probably turned on to naughty things not lesbian your brain says its not right then your other brain is like ea its not ;)... get it?

[Asker]

But its hitting the direction towards liking girls but that actually kinda makes sense. Cuz I don't like girls in real life but when I look at videos I get turned on and sht.. Maybe its that. But it needs to stop for me.

[Opinion Owner]

its a fantasy calm down its normal it will go

[Asker]

Are you even sure. Its hard to get rid of a obbsessive fantasy.

[Opinion Owner]

trust me im sure it will go when love replaces it

[Anonymous]

You're bi curious. You should have sex with another girl and see how it goes. This might be something you'll end up enjoying. There's no shame in being bisexual. Or you might decide you don't like sex with girls after all.

[Asker]

I want a boy. I want to get married with a guy, and raise a family. I don't wanna do such things like that. Should I try to stop thinking about girls?

[Opinion Owner]

Well then it's just a fantasy. You don't have to stop thinking about them. They're harmless. There's nothing wrong with fantasy and having an active imagination. Share your most intimate fantasies, whatever they are, with your boyfriend / husband. Don't feel guilty for having fantasies. Enjoy them.