Ladies, could you please answer a question about blowjob etiquette?

[Anonymous]

This is going to sound like a complaint, but it isn't. Please read the whole description. With my wife, sex almost always involves me going down on her for a long time, which I love to do. She doesn't have the same staying power as I do and she gets tired after what seems like a short time. I'm okay with this; after all, I then get to penetrate her! But this brings up a few questions to me. Ideally, I'd like to receive a long blowjob from her sometimes but I don't know if it's selfish to expect half an hour or so. Almost always we both want me to cum in her pussy, but every once in awhile I want to cum in her mouth and I just can't do it if it only lasts 5 minutes. And that leads to a more sensitive question, at least for me. If it's only going to last a short time, I like more stimulation. When the goal is for me to climax in her mouth, would you consider it okay to thrust in her mouth? I don't want to make her feel degraded or used or anything, and I don't want to make her gag or hate sucking me. The few times I have thrusted, I held onto her head to keep her still while I basically fucked her mouth. I'm not imitating p*rn ; that's just the best way to control the depth of my thrusts so I don't go too deep. Is this acceptable or is it bastard behavior? I'm especially interested in the opinions of women who are married, or in serious long-term relationships. Thank you!

[AustinMan]

Dude, if you're really 48, it's time to man up. Take her out for an intimate drink and have a very calm, direct and matter of fact conversation. Tell her how much you love her and that you want to talk about sex with her. I feel like you should be able to tell her that you like for her to work on developing a lot more sexual stamina. That you want more/longer oral sex in both directions. Ask her how she feels about gentle face fucking and a little rough sex. Ask her what you need to do for those things to happen.

Then shut up and hear her completely out. The most important thing in the world to a woman is to be heard, not just tolerated, but listened to in an intent and active way. When she's done. ask her if there's anything else, anything at all. You need her to open up.

Then, if thing have gone okay to this point, ask her about her favorite fantasies, the darker the better. Our darkest fantasies tell us out major sexual hot buttons. Then tell her yours and propose working up a scenario for one of them that you both like. Get ready, get deep into role, be someone else for a bit, and have the hottest sex of your life.

If you want a true account of a role play I had one time that resulted in the hottest sex I've ever had (and that's saying something), message me and I'll email it.

[Phoenix0429]

It a depends on the woman. Some like it rough some don't. Some love giving oral and some don't. It all depends on your woman. You should be open with her and ask her what can You do to make her experience more pleasureable in hopes she will ask you the same.

In my opinion that isn't my cup of tea. I have been dating the same guy for 4 years and giving him a blow Job for more than 10 minutes hurts my jaw and makes my mouth feel weird. So the 10 minutes he has of it I make it the best.

The most important thing to remember is the quality of the oral matters not how long she does it for. A woman can give you oral for hours but
What really matters is the quality. I've had a close friend tell me that they would rather have a really good short bj compared to a long one that doesn't feel good.

[AthleticMom]

She won't know if trusting face-fucking is hot until you try it. Certainly this would not be for me on dates but with SO/hubby, I DID get very hot being "abused" for his lust satisfaction in this way.
Your goal can also be helped with vibrators, her squeezing your balls, her humming while oral, etc.
Most report there's no such loving as inside her cumming
and after swallowing, if she will tongue clean everything, then kiss the little head... oohlala

[princessmanna]

Uhhh, I was in a pretty serious relationship with my now-ex, and I was glad to have him thrust in my mouth. Sex is all about pleasuring the other person for me, and if that's what gave him pleasure I was all for it. If you talk to her about it first you may find she doesn't really mind. Hope that helps :)

[purelle100]

probably, it's not that she doesn't want it, but, it does hurt if it takes awhile though... then the moods sets it off. For you guys, it's easy because you really don't have to open your mouth for quite sometime, but for us - it takes its toll

[Anonymous]

You need to talk to her about this. A bunch of strangers cannot give you the answer. She will be different and like different things. Talk to her about this. You are old enough that you shouldn't find talking about sex with your partner demeaning.

[Anonymous]

My ex used to thrust, and I didn't mind as it actually meant I could stay still for a while, as it really can ache your jaw! Although be careful about going to deep in without asking - it would make me gag a bit sometimes which isn't pleasant. The best way not to get tired as alternating between handjob and blow job I find, my ex liked it as it took more time, was more comfortable for me and you got alternating speed.

[Anonymous]

You gotta ask her.

( Though it starts to hurt our jaws if we go on for too long.)

[Anonymous]

You have to ask her that. I might say it's not but, she will feel it is. We can't answer for your wife.