I have a confession! I took advantage of a drunk girl at a party and feel horrible and guilty! I am ashamed. ?

[Anonymous]

I can't keep this inside. Years ago at a house party this girl got so drunk to the point she was knocked out, her friends put her in a room and left her on the bed. An hour later when people started to leave I went into the room. In a act of pure lust and desperation I fondled the poor girl. I put my hands in her underwear and began to fondle her breasts and touched her vagina. All this happened in less than a minute. I walked out of the room unnoticed and to this day no one knows what happened. I feel shame and guilt, I do not condone this behaviour and it is so out of charachter for me. I am a normal decent guy with good moral fibre and I'm still confused as to why I commited this shameful and horrible act. I don't deserve forgiveness and I wish she could get her revenge on me. If I saw a guy do that to a girl I would think he is scum of the earth and the most pathetic human being I hate that I did that. I don't want to blame the alcohol because that's a lame excuse. I totally blame myself and feel an overwhelming sense of guilt and I also feel pathetic. I really hope that girl hasn't suffered in any way in all honesty I don't think she knew what happened as she was out cold. I just wanted to get that out there as I've kept it to myself for years. I don't want skeletons in my closet. I can't tell people as I feel they woul think less of me and maybe even change their views about me. I promise I'm not a bad guy, I just made a very stupid desicion as a teenager and I can't take it back. If you have read this feel free to give me shit I deserve it for doing that! I can't apologise to the girl but I want to make an apology for being an absolute scumbag. I'm not doing this to feel better about myself Im doing it to tell people of the dreadful act I carried out. I just wanted people to know. I'm so sorry!

[Anonymous]

Well, what you did is very wrong but you feeling that guilty is almost like revenge in and of itself. It's something you'll have to live with for the rest of your life. Yes, it's disgusting - but it is true that everyone does things they will regret. Does that make it okay? No. but unfortunately, there isn't much you can do about it now.

I am speaking from a place where I was the victim of rape, and it was the worst thing I have ever experienced - I actually knew the guy though, he wasn't a total stranger, and I have since seen him and had to face the person that raped me. I didn't report him to the police at the time because he was a good friend of my best friend, and I was too afraid that no one would believe me. The whole experience really messed with my ability to have sex with other men (I can be very, very squeamish and sensitive). However, because I knew I was too afraid to report him, I had to eventually learn to forgive him, not for his sake, but for mine.

What you did should be unforgivable, and you will probably never fully forgive yourself for it (you seem to be very sorry about it though, which is very good.)

It's very hard for me to give you this advice but I have had to learn to be understanding of ALL people, even those who do horrible things, but I will tell you this; you will always regret doing it, you will always feel bad for doing it, but the point is that you learned that it is the WRONG thing to do. I really hope you will use this knowledge to protect the women in your life. I really hope you will use your experience to perhaps teach others who are considering taking advantage of drunk girls at a party or wherever. That might help you feel better.

Experience is a brutal teacher, but you ALWAYS learn.

[Asker]

I'm really sorry to hear about your ordeal and I hope you can somehow come to terms with what happened and live a happy life. I hate that men do this to women and I hate that women can not always speak out about it, I can not begin to imagine what you have been through and I hope you find justice and peace. Reading your comment gives me faith in humanity, the fact that you have been a victim of such cruel act and yet you have reached out to me. You represent everything that is good in this world and I can not thank you enough. What you said made me feel a sense of solidarity towards women. I have total respect for women and would always go out of my way to protect them. What I did years ago is not a true reflection of me or my character and whenever I think about that day I shake my head in disbelief. I wish I could turn back the clock. I really appreciate your comments you sound like a very intelligent lady with a big heart, I hope, everything works out well for you, you are special!

[Asker]

God bless you!

[ArchDruidMordred]

Feeling guilty is half the battle. Do you know the girl well? If she's a good friend of yours than fess up and apologize. If you don't know her well then it would be best to keep it to yourself.

[Asker]

She's a stranger. That was the first and last time I ever saw her. I don't even know her name.

[Klaatu51]

at least i'm glad you feel ashamed of what you need... hope you won't make the same mistake again :-)

[Tokana]

At least you feel bad. Disgusting, desperate behavior.

[WitchKing]

You are weak. I use girls all the time, not when they are drunk though cuz thats illegal. And i dont feel bad at all, except one time. But i guess it feel different since she was drunk. best hope she doesn't tell the cops!

[Tokana]

Worthless man over here