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Is my fantasy BDSM?

This is my ultimate sexual fantasy. I would be equally happy being either A or B in the following situation: Person A wakes up from an otherwise perfectly normal dream that suddenly became uncharacteristically sexual a little before A woke up. Upon waking up, A immediately sees why: To A's shocking but completely welcome surprise, their wonderful and loving spouse* (person B) has been having their way with A for some time. "Oh, you're awake!" says B. "I'll stop if you want; I don't want to rape you." "No, it's fine." says A. "Do what you want to my body (except stick something up my ass, of course.)" "Heheh, YOUR body? This isn't your body... IT'S MINE." B then continues to enjoy and stimulate every inch of A's body for hours. Sex so rough, it is reminiscent of a starving predator enjoying it's quarry. After many intense orgasms, A's various erogenous zone's become hypersensetive as A struggles to get free, for B had handcuffed A's arms and legs to the bedpost in A's sleep. "Please stop. I can't take anymore!" says A. "No!" says B. "I'M NOT FINISHED WITH YOU YET." Over the course of much moaning, screaming, sweat, and even more orgasms, A's body becomes even more hyper-sensitive, to the point where A is jerking and shaking their body and rolling their eyes into the back of their head from sensory overload. Fearing a heart attack or other medical emergency, B decides to finally let up, but only after ooooone more orgasm. After B finally climbs off, and after six seconds of A trying to catch their breath, A slowly lifts their exhausted head, eyes half-open, slowly turns their head to look at B, gives a small grin, and falls back asleep, exhausted. Would this classify as BDSM? *I wear a purity ring. No, seriously I do.
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Maybe \ borderline \ sorta \ etc.
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That's not BDSM, but it is another fetish. I'll tell you which one in the comments.
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I should probably clarify something. I don't know what people normally use sex handcuffs for, but here they're there solely to keep A from kicking B in the face. Also, Being either A or B would be equally pleasing for me, but for different reasons. Being A would be fun because of the fact that my wife would want sex that bad, and the sensory overload would still be pleasure sensory input. Being B would be fun because being able to give my woman an experience that intense would make me feel
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make me feel like I had a superpower.
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  • This is not BDSM by any means. BDSM requires level communication, unlike how arbitrary this fantasy is. Nothing in BDSM should come as a really true surprise, as both partners are fully aware of what's taking place. Although you sound like you're enjoying the occurrences in your dream, there's not much you're necessarily anticipating in the scenario. There's also the component @lauren89 brings up, which definitely knocks it out of the BDSM radar. Lastly, if person A is suffering that badly, a safe word would be appropriate.

    I was drawn to BDSM at 17 and began to practice it once I turned 20. Maybe when you're married, that's something you guys could both look into. Unless she hates BDSM. Then you guys are kind of screwed on that one. Lol.

    • No, no. I hate the idea of abusing the one I love at all. What A's going through is What I assume is happening when A girl says "STOP! STOP! STOPSTOPSTOP! [pause] Why'd you stop?" During regular "vanilla" sex. Chains and whips do not excite me. I asked this question because, after really looking at this fantasy, I thought I might actually be into bondage, just not BONDAGE bondage. If that makes sense.

    • Fair enough. Still in the vanilla zone. But it sounds like that works.

  • That's too light to be BDSM. I'm serious. BDSM stands for Bondage and Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. Bondage - tying up of partner for sexual act
    Domination- the person running the show and constructing how the sex life goes
    Sadism- someone who like to inflict pain of a sexual nature on their partner
    Masochism-the person who likes to recieve pain of a sexual nature from their partner. But what you described was more of a... Umm... Vanilla-Type relationship with a little dash of spice.

    • This is light BDSM though. Like you said the acronym stands for three categories it covers: 1. Bondage and discipline 2. Dominance and submission 3. Sadism and masochism His fantasy falls within two of those (Bondage, check, and D/s, check).

    • Yes, but you can't scream Bdsm because of just one aspect of a relationship. Bdsm is in place when both partners discuss it itself, safe words, and things that they can handle and can't handle. Because you don't want anyone getting the wrong idea. This scenario sounds like they just put a little dash of spice in their sex life. People should study what it is before actually calling it BDSM. Cause it's much more than waking someone up with a blow job and handcuffed and having multiple orgasms. This "fantasy" is lucky that nobody yelled rape... But let's not go there. @Could_Be

  • Well since person A was asleep still when person B started having their way with them, that would be rape.

    bdsm is when both partners are consentful.

    • A does give consent, just not until they wake up. I thought I made that clear.

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  • It's not turn typical BDSM fantasy but it's certainly entertaining.

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  • Yeah, it's bondage and dominance... not sure about the pain aspect of it, though

    • Would the sensory overload qualify?

    • To be honest, I'm not really sure..

  • Yes, but probably a light version. It reminds me of the Anita Blake books.

    • How do you like Anita Blake books? I'm thinking about checking them out. Aha.

    • @SweetNovella The first 7-9 books are ok, but the later ones are pretty awful.

  • Yeah, there's the bondage aspect of it with the handcuffs. The beginning is basically rape though.

  • this is actually SO hot, I would love to be person A and I often have fantasies about someone forcing my orgasm while I beg them to stop.

  • It's Predator/prey D/s, sadism and bondage. Hell yes it's BDSM.

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