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Do I leave him alone after he cums?

So I read and have been told that guys like to be alone a few minutes after they orgasm. Normally I snuggle really close after he orgasms, so I wonder if I'm being annoying. He puts his arm around me, but he could just be doing because he thinks he has to. I mean should I leave him alone? If so how long? What do most guys prefer?
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Well, I just straight out asked him in a text and this is what he said, "I don't give a f***. What were you going to do leave after I nut then come back?"
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Thanks for all the great answers and advice. He kind of p*ssed me off right now anyway and I'm ignoring him. At least until I prove a point. He has been an ass lately.
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I told him to f*** off. :)
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  • If a guy loves you or at least really likes you he won't want to be alone after he cums. He'll want to cuddle and be close to you. If he's into you mostly just for sex then his true feelings will come out after he cums, and if he wants to be alone then that most likely means he's finished, and doesn't need you right then because you're mostly a sex partner for him. After he gets over that initial period of rejuvenating his senses he may want to be close again or he'll just want to leave. Couples that love or really like each other want to be close to each other, before and after they have an orgasm. It's kinda a time or reassurance and holding the other one close and showing affection. You shouldn't be annoying him if you snuggle close to him after he's finished if he really likes you. Don't pay attention to all you read and hear all the time because you can often be misled. If he put his arm around you then give him the benefit of the doubt and cuddle even closer. If he ever starts rejecting you when you do that, then that's the time to leave him alone and at the same time be wondering what kind of a boyfriend you really have. I prefer a girl that snuggles close. Good luck!

  • That is one weird boyfriend you have. If you ask me, he's not worth cuddling after.

    Anyhow when we come, were naturally sleepy and tired afterwards. So we don't think your annoying and we don't necessarily want to be left alone. It's different for every guy, but we are naturally tired after having sex.

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  • If you're talking about just being intimate in your position, then no. Cuddling or whatever isn't really an unwanted thing after sex, of course, that all depends on the guy.

    What you probably heard was called the 'refractory period', which only exists for males (at least, what has been found so far). It is the period of time after a man has an orgasm that his penis is extremely sensitive to any stimulation, no, it is NOT a good type of sensitivity, it usually results in pain if you do try to do anything. Men also normally aren't able to get erections during that period of time as well, so there isn't much of a reason to continue going there unless you want to hurt and annoy him. It has nothing to do with cuddling, so you should be safe there. Just don't go rubbing on him right after, because it literally feels too good.

    • Response to Update: Dude's a loser. Let him 'nut' in a tube sock and go find yourself a better guy.

  • Ask him every guy is different

    • If I ask him I'm afraid he won't tell me the truth cause he won't want to hurt my feelings. Would you feel comfortable telling your girlfriend you wanted to be alone after sex? Don't you think she would be mad?

    • Well I don't like to be left alone I actually like to cuddle so idk.

    • If she truly loves me...it shouldn't matter

  • If I'm on top, I just like to lay there still on top of her and kiss her face. If she is on top, I love it when she continues and grinds herself to another orgasm with me still in there.

  • After reading your update...This guy is a looser and an ass you can do better than this piece of sh*t. And I apologize on behalf of the rest of us for this dirt bag.

  • I've never wanted to be left alone after I cum. It does take a lot out of a guy, sex that is, at least if he's doing it right ;) I mean sex is a work out for guys and when we come our body releases a flush of hormones that act as calming agents. He may seem like he wants to be left alone but my guess would be that he just needs to relax for a minute as his body adjusts to the hormones and the intensity. I much prefer my girl to stay and I love holding her afterwords.

  • The quick release of hormones after an orgasm can alter behavior temporarily, just like an adrenaline rush. Some handle this differently. It's different for me if it's a long time GF than someone I just met and started sleeping with. Before sex our hormones are pushing us for procreation, so to be totally honest, %50 of the time with a girl I haven't known long I regret sleeping with them, but if it's a girl I've been with for a while and really like then I can be around them because I do not regret my actions. It's in our nature and instinct to want to reproduce, but we also have a human side that can love, it's the combination of the 2 that make a good relationship, but it takes time. Hope my perspective helped.

  • Don't you like giving someone the "best answer"?

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