How do I build the courage to give a blow job?

I've only ever given a blow job once and it's truly not my thing? But my fiancee loves doing it to me. I want to return the favor. Plan to be with him forever. How would I even start. I'm extremely nervous and I want my first attempt with him to be worth it for both of us? What do I do?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Because every guy is different, you're going to have to find out what your boy likes. Sure, there are some things that'll probably work well for any guy, but you'll have to learn the right speed, angle, etc... and the way to learn that is practice :) I'll tell you a story:

    I am dating someone who felt like she was terrible at oral - I had no idea for the longest time. It's very hard for me to cum from oral, and she could rarely get me off. So she thought she was terrible. And there I was, lying on my back, eyes closed, brain turned to mush from pleasure... I was thinking she was pretty damn good. So I offered her all the practice we get squeeze in ^_^ Because damn, it's fun practice.

    So... your 1st blowjob with him may or may not be spectacular, but unless you're scraping him raw with your teeth, you should be able to find something fairly quickly that he enjoys... and if it doesn't go much farther than that, well, there's intercourse to get him off ^_^

    My suggestion is to get practice playing with him in your mouth as foreplay - foreplay that might end up with him cumming in your mouth, but is certainly going to end with him satisfied, one way or another. ... and then more practice the next time. Or more blow jobs ;)

    And have fun playing with him - enjoy yourself :)

  • It is actually very simple communication. Talk to him , the way you have posted here show how much you think of and feel for your man. Your feelings for will help you because you want to do it for him to please him and return what he is doing for you are a very positive way to approach this.
    If you can pluck up the courage to tell him what you have posted here he would be thrilled to know you want to try and do this for him. Then when the time comes to do it he will help you not apply pressure but just let you do what you can. Tell him if you need to stop or don't want to go any further this time you will make love or give him a nice hand job. Just so he knows he will get to come even if it's not from oral.
    One of the things that makes a BJ so special is the woMan wanting to do it because it comes across when she is doing it. Such a special giving act as all your attention is focused on your man's pleasure.
    When giving a BJ there are so many things and techniques you can use you don't have to rush or take him fully into your mouth it is possible to make love with your mouth and tongue. Good luck I think you will be fine and may even enjoy it when you hear and feel all the pleasure you are giving him.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Ok, here's what you need to do:

    Set the atmosphere: Dim the lights, light some candles, and put on some relaxing music. The general mood should be one of supreme relaxation.

    Surprise him with sexy clothing: It is your first time, it should be fun for both you and him. Give his eyes something pleasant to look at while your "doing the work"

    Accept you will need practice: Let's be real here. Unless you're a complete pro, your first time will not be mind-blowing. But look at it this way - you have the rest of your life to practice - and you can only get better ;)

    If you want to shorten your learning curve, see if you can get your hands on Jack's Blowjob Lessons - it is the only resource you need to become world class at giving bjs :)

  • I was really nervous too when I gave my first blow job. It wasn't my thing either but after several tries it became easier. i think I was probably nervous because I didn't know how do it or what to do. Therefore I wasn't sure if he would like it which made me nervous. But then I read tips on doing it so now when my boyfriend wants one, I can do it comfortably.

    But the main thing about giving a blow job is asking him what he likes and doesn't like. That way you'll know how to satisfy him.

    Also in order to giving one without feeling nervous, you also have to feel comfortable doing it. Let him know your limits. For example, If you don't want him to cum in your mouth, tell him. that way you wouldn't have to feel nervous either.

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  • By being 35 and not 15.

  • practice with a cucumber first :-P

  • Embrace the penis before you deep throat.

  • A little alcohol will go a long way. Reduces your inhibitions.
    I have found also that positioning into her-on-top 69 oral is giving her excitement and helps her to want to do the same when she is face to face with it. The only time I get oral is during 69.

  • you keep telling yourself you gotta suck this dick. its part of life, i love my fiance, i will save this relationship, dicks are meant to be sucked, i love to suck dick... chant this day in and day out.

    come talk to me if this hasn't worked in a few weeks.

  • dont do it..

  • As simple as lollipop sucking...
    ahahahahaha

  • Start with a banana

  • Where are u from?

  • A girl under 18 teaching a 30 something year old how to give a blow job. Got to love GAG. . .

  • You can't really prepare yourself for it. Sounds weird but watching p*rn see how they do it and you can get tips from them. Have a little fun, if you feel forced into it you're not going to enjoy it. WATCH PORN!