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Boyfriend told me to look at his favorite p*rnstars. What the hell?

( i'm not into the whole lets watch p*rn together thing and he definitely knows i'm not into that kind of crap) Today my bf sent me a huge ass list of his favorite pornstars. He told me to look up one in particular and to "look at her ass!" more than one time then said that she was "his favorite"WHAT THE HELL? And she looks the exact opposite of me, she has blonde hair I have dark brown hair, she has brown eyes I have central heterochromia with green grey and blue, she's a stick I'm not a stick but I'm not fat by any means, she has small boobs I have big boobs. WHAT THE HELL? but that's not what I'm pissed about it's the fact that he told me to "look at her ass" more than one time. why the hell would I want to look at her ass, what the hell was he thinking? WHY?
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Oh he also kept telling me he liked her ass
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I know pretty much all guys watch pron. But it's the fact that I'm extremely top heavy and I don't have a big butt. He tells me he's a butt guy, he knows I don't have a kardashian butt so it feels like he's rubbing it in because she has pretty much no boobs and a big fake butt.
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  • You aren't into the whole watching p*rn together thing, but do you get him to watch the romantic girly flicks with you? (It's technically the same thing, since his fantasy makes you feel like he's putting false expectations on you, and our fantasies put false expectations on them.
    Have you ever watched a chick flick and asked him why he wasn't more like that, or tell him you wished you could be treated more like that?

    The comparison to the p*rn star wasn't about her hair color or her eyes, he was simply referring to her ass being the same as yours. He wasn't saying anything like "You need to look like her." He simply said look at her ass, in reference to yours. He wanted you to know he found your ass sexy and made the observational comparison.
    Similar to you saying "I love when you kiss me like that" pointing to a scene in the notebook or something.

    • actually no. I don't ever tell him stuff like that or even wish he would do movie scene stuff because I know it's fake and real life is a lot more toned down than the notebook movie.

    • and look at the update

    • I think you see her as having a big butt compared to yours, but I don't think he see's it that way. He see's yours the ways he sees hers. Whatever his reason, I don't believe he is doing it to shame you or make you feel bad. It wouldn't benefit him to make you feel uncomfortable with your body. I know myself that I had moments where I judge my body incorrectly because it was my body and we all have issues with ourself, my bf started to get annoyed with me saying it constantly, so one day he cropped a pic of my bum that he took that I hadn't seen before and it didn't look anything like it could be me and he showed me and asked what I thought of "her" bum. I was annoyed and said "yeah, I want a bum like that! Is that what you find attractive", and I was prepared to fight him about it, and he flicked to the full image where I could see it was me, and I got totally embarrassed but realized that my perception of how I looked was subjective to my ideas of myself. I understand now.

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Most Helpful Guys

  • First of all, relax. I think it's best when girls don't see p*rn as a rival to them. I myself use p*rn (a lot) and need it to climax when sex is not a possibility. But there's no way I see porn-stars as potential mates. Nor are they rivals to my partner/s.

    Secondly, some of us guys feel that this let's-watch-porn-together can be hot. It's particularly nice when she warms up to your taste and starts enjoying it. My partner and me do watch p*rn together (though admittedly she starts reluctantly).

    Lastly, I think guys watching p*rn should however be sensitive to how their partners feel. Don't make her feel insecure. Don't let her see them (the plastic girls) as rivals. Just explain why we visually-oriented guys need to get off to some images of 'fairy tales for adults' sometimes.

  • Actually if he loves u y he would watch p*rn or send u videos of his fav p*rn stars im sorry but this is sick , if I gotta gf I would not do that cuz It's not about sex it's about feel'n great with the one u r in love with & it's enough 4 me to watch her just stand'n in front of me being there for each other Not just for sex & this is how it workout...
    I'm sorry about this but he don't appreciate u & treat u the way it suppose to be cuz sex is 5% from love so I think that he thinks u r just a sex machine for him & sooner or later he will dump u ... i hope ull find someone who appreciate u & treat u the way it suppose to be.

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  • i like bi girls because i can't often decide between blond or brunette and i can just share. dont trip. its like showing you his favorite superhero. p*rn is just fantasy fiction.

  • Tell him you don't feel comfortable him telling you to "Look at that ass!" and such and be stern with him.

  • He is trying to make his interests your interests or probably wants you to get a body size like one of hie favorite stars.

    • well I don't want to get breast reduction and make my D's into A's and I can't afford ass implants. Some girls are just born shaped a certain way we can't exercise our bodies into a different shape

    • Maybe your bf is just stupid?

    • You don't need to change your body.

  • p*rn has a lot to do with looks, but often times having favorite p*rn stars has more to do with how nasty and dirty she is, not always her looks. Who is this p*rn star, btw? Is it Alexis Texas? Sounds like her.

    Oh, and I'm a huge butt guy, but if a girl with a small butt and big, beautiful breasts wanted to go out with me, I'd still take her in a heartbeat.

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