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Is it bad that I'm disappointed at my new boyfriend's penis size?

My new boyfriend and I have been sexual for the past couple weeks. He's really good at oral sex and foreplay, but the actual penetration isn't too good. He's 4 inches long and has a 4 inch girth, my last boyfriend was 6 inches and thick, and that's what I'm used to, I miss that sensation of being stretched and filled. Before you say that it may be because I'm loose, I'm far far from it because I do kegels every single day and have very good control of my PC muscles. Am I a bitch for thinking this? I feel really bad but I'm not going to say anything about it to him.
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  • I don't think you're loose but I hope more that you can work around your BF's size. It sure seems like he's trying to please you. It might not be enough to satisfy you but it should tell you that he's invested in pleasing you. Getting dumped because you have a small dick is probably the worst thing that could happen to a guy. Liken it to this; men are very visual creatures, right - so what would you think if a guy dumped a girl because her boobs were uneven or she had large protruding labia's. Again I know its not the same because a pussy still feels like a sweet velvet pussy even though some are tighter that others. Give it some time do doggy and cowgirl for max penetration and clit rubbing. If after that you keep dreaming of big thick cocks then you should move on. Don't cheat on him and don't tell him it's his lack of penis that is making you bolt. Try to come up with a real reason you can't date him like your actually a lesbian or have incurable herpes [joking]. I'm glad you decided not to tell him the real reason - that would be devastating. The poor guy knows he has a small penis so try to come up with a valid reason so he doesn't know the truth.

    • I don't plan to break up with him at all, his size is not a deal breaker.

    • I'm really happy to hear that - I think it's great that you are placing more importance on the size of this man's heart than on his penis. A man is more than his penis just as woman is far more than her physical appearance.

    • How about anal for a more stretched feeling. You might consider it as I know many women who really really enjoy it.

  • Not a bitch. Just like guys who can't get excited over flat chested girls aren't bitches. But you'll have to decide how open your partner is to other ways of filling you up (dildos during oral? "extensions?" something else?) and figure out ways to bring them up - I recommend talking in terms of wanting to be very full rather than discussing penis size :p And mentioning enjoying sex with him, and also wanting this feeling of being very full. And making sure he'll get off in a way he quite likes. (some sort of added girth thing until you get off, then it comes off and you squeeze on him until he gets off? use your imaginations)

    If getting awesome oral but never getting a big cock in you would make your sex life unsatisfying, you need to make sure you work something out with him, or you should break up with him sooner rather than later. Plenty of girls *won't* mind, so if you're not working out, he should find someone else, and you should find someone else.

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  • Not a bitch. As long as you express this in a kind way. There are lots of guys who aren't satisfied at all with small boobs or asses either. And nearly all guys don't like loose pussy. Does that make them jerks? No. Just don't say it in an asshole way.
    But if you really *need* more penis, then maybe you should reconsider your relationship. Will you be satisfied in the long run? Will good oral suffice? For how long?
    Perhaps you can talk to him about it. There are some toys like penis extenders or something that add girth and length to the penis. Just be very kind cuz just think how would you feel if he were asking "my girlfriend's vagina is too big. I don't feel anything?"

    • Trust me he does feel something, he cums pretty fast. Yeah you're right, it's not a dealbreaker or anything so it's not worth leaving him for it.

    • If you're not satisfied, chances are he isn't either. But if you're not satisfied but wanna stay with him, suggest toys.

    • you could also have him focus more on foreplay including using toys

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  • Yeah, you sound like a total, slutty b*tch right now to be honest and that's coming from a female. What you're saying is really tacky. Maybe the problem is you're used to laying in bed like a dead fish while a guy's d*ck creates all the enjoyment... you don't know how to work your hips? Do you expect the guy to be a human vibarator and do everything for you while you just lay there and try to look sexy? If you actually know how to work your hips and you have your own arsenal of sexual knowledge, then his penis size shouldn't feel like the end of a good sex life. Maybe if you hadn't been with so many people his penis wouldn't feel so small in your vagina?

    • You don't know me or how many guys I've been with so who are you to pass judgement? I have used my kegel muscles to try and enjoy the sex, and 'working hips' is not the key to good sex, lol. I think you're the bitch, judging me in that way.

    • Actually honey, working hips is a huge part of enjoying sex. You might know that if you were actually good in bed lol I see the real problem here... you're used to laying down, spreading your legs, and letting the size of a man's d*ck be the source of pleasure instead of actually not being lazy and working that d*ck. Pathetic.

    • Sigh, do you think you're psychic or something? Because you're completely and utterly wrong. Anyway, you're blocked.

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  • Well, it's bad that you're not satisfied by his size.

    You're not a bitch as much as anybody else is a bitch for not liking something else on someone else.

    The question is, can you live with it?

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  • You don't have to like it if you don't, what you could do is try a few different positions. There are some that is better for those guys who are on the small side.

  • No but do the guy a solid and tell him you just aren't ready for this or something similarly vague when you break up with him. With you feeling the way you do (which is perfectly understandable), you're never gonna be happy.

  • seems like a troll to me, if it isn't then don't worry you will get used to it in a while

  • Now I see why guys ask questions about their sizes 100 times a day on here. . . .

    • Hehe. It does matter to SOME people, even if not to everyone ;)

    • Yeah I agree. I'll say anything about those questions again lol

    • I used to think it didn't matter to me, but all my partners had been 6+ with thick girths - so I was a naive little Gal. Then I became involved with a fella who was 4.5 and a thin girth, and it sadly became relevant.

  • His below-average size will never satisfy you, and you're not a bitch (unless you are unkind to him when you break up). Doing your kegels every day is good! So obviously you already know that sex is important to you. You're going to need a guy at least twice his size to be satisfied in my opinion.

  • It's completely normal to want what works for you.

  • if you're not satisfied with his penis then i guess you can always dump him :-P

  • you're not a bitch you're just not compatible in the sexual penetration department with your new BF. the question is; can you dig it or not?

  • It does not make you a bitch, sexual compatibility is important in a relationship.
    What you choose to do now is up to you.

  • damn... I don't know it sounds horrible but i can see why you feel that way
    i think your feelings are justifiable, does he please you in other ways like oral etc?

    if you think its too much of an issue that you won't be able to stay with him too long maybe you should rethink what you want in this relationship

    good luck =)

  • Definitely bad- strange that you know all the measurements. Do you keep a list?

  • No your not a bitch its totally normal, i'm sure there are some other things that can compensate for his penis size.

  • Penis size doesn't matter.

    A) There are only three inches of erotic nerve receptors in the human vagina. Everything past that is dead space.

    B)www.straightdope.com/.../does-average-human-penis-length-vary-among-ethnic-groups

    • Yawn, wrong. It does matter.

  • Not a bitch. You're just not used to it.
    Eventually you'll enjoy it and you won't feel weird anymore.
    have a nice day :)

  • it is of course legitimate to be disappointed at body parts of a new partner... its how you handle it, that makes it good or bad. if you decide not to make him feel bad for it, i think that´s very noble.

  • No it's just your used to a large one is and your not as pleasured by a small one

  • Try jelqing. Its just a way of stretching or pulling his penis..

  • I don't think your a bitch for it but its just something your just gonna have to sacrifice if you really love the guy.

  • And they say size dosent matter.

    Bull!!

    • For some, like me, it does matter. Sorry.

    • Well her last BF was 6" which is hardly massive. He's below average which has now been proven to be 5.17" Long x 4.59" Circumference when erect.

      nymag.com/.../...bers-on-average-penis-length.html

      I'd also guess that she's missing the girth more than the length.

    • Lol I'm not upset or anything. I'm not her bf. And I can careless what any girl thinks bout my "package" unless it's kate Middleton.

  • Have him try jelqing.

    • What's that?

    • An exercise to increase penis size. It isn't scientifically-confirmed to work, but many, many people swear by it.

    • Nothing is scientifically-confirmed to work for penis growth other than surgery and stretching which is extremely dangerous.

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