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I think I just agreed to anal, how did I get in to this?

Ok so I am married and I have been with my husband for years but we have never done anal. I have never done it at all ever. He has kinda asked about it over the years but I always kinda dogged it. Well hubby asked me yesterday and I just answered, sure if I can do you with a strapon first. My friend told me that's what she had said to an ex and he never mentioned it again. Well to my surprise hubby said, sure, if that's what you want to do. He then said he would order one and left it at that. I was shocked. I had never expected that he might agree to the deal. I never saw that coming at all. So what do I do? I'm not sure I want to do this to him, I guess I had never thought of it. I also don't want to just tell him I changed my mind, or say sorry, I didn't think you would go for it. I guess I could try, it's not like I have ever had any bad experience with anal, I'm just a bit scared. Should I still do it to him first? That was just to get him to drop the idea, but it might be fun to give it to him for a change. I just don't know.
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Ok, so we have it a go, I told him that if we are doing this I am going first and the toy needs to be around his size, not tiny like a finger. He was still all for it so on sat night we started with a small plug in him with be blowing him. When I turned on the vibrations he really liked it. After about 5min he said he was ready so I put on the underwear with the strapon in it and kind of spooned him. Very different being in that position. After 5 min he was begging me to "fuck" him harder
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Then to rub his penis as well. He was so hard. Well after about a minute he just came everywhere. Never seen him shake like that when he's cumming before. It was kinda hot. So on Sunday afternoon he went down on me with a small vibrating plug in. Surprisingly good, so I came. Then I blew him for a bit covered him in lube and turned around. Kind of intense to start with but after about a minute it was ok, much better when I rubbed my clit, almost good. He only lasted about 2 more min and came.
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  • best thing is to do it to him, that way he will know what it feels like and will be that bit more gentle on you.

    first step is to prep, both of you, you can't just shove a cock in your ass, real or fake, you need to build upto it, start with small butt plugs and work up, you can normally get them in packs of three. different sizes,

    when he is getting the strap on make sure he gets one the same size as his own cock that way it will be fair lol

    don't worry about using a strap on on him, if he wasn't up for it he wouldn't have said yes, guess what, when done right it is actually enjoyable, for males anyway, most females that i have heard of find it ok but would say it is much in the way of pleasurable, just try it and see

  • If you're against having anal then don't do it. Just tell him the truth. You're not comfortable with it and you asked to screw him with a strap on as a joke because you never thought he would actually agree to it. You shouldn't do something sexual if you don't have a desire to do it.

    • I will have to have a talk to him. But I'm kinda leaning to giving it a go. I do like to make him happy

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  • With anal, you really don't want to start with a strap on. Unless pain turns one or both of you on. Start with a finger and a lot of lube. Maybe a small plug. Being relaxed is key; if you are anxious about it, it will make things more painful. And if you aren't comfortable--for the love of cucumbers, speak up, woman! He's your lover. He wants to be open with you, in more ways than one! If you can let him stick something in your back door, you should be able to tell him you are hesitant about it. If he loves you, he will want you to be comfortable and not feel pressured. Who knows... you might even like it, and it could bring the two of you closer together.

    • Well we are both not interested in pain but we both like to turn each other on. I guess I'm gust going to have to talk to him about it. I'm sure he will be gentle and all, he is my husband after all. Can't hurt to try rite

    • Have you tried a strapon?

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  • My profile picture couldn't be more appropriate.

  • Have I got the article for you to read:

    jezebel.com/.../if-you-want-a-more-thoughtful-boyfriend-try-pegging-him

  • Just let him do you anal, you're his wife. I've fucked women I didn't even know their names in the arse.

    • Well I guess some people like to know who's fucking them

    • Oh no, don't get me wrong. I knew them, I just couldn't remember their names.

  • Come on, be a soldier and do it. It could be fun as fuck, you guys are married, so this type of freakyness is inevitable.

    Also, props to your husband, that man is a trooper.

    • Yeh he is. At first I thought he was joking, but when he said he was ordering one I was like, wow never saw that coming. Going to be an interesting chat with him

    • If he's willing to take it up the ass, as a MAN. No reason you shouldn't be down for it as well.

    • Would you let your girl do it to you?

  • Trying new things in the bedroom is very important to keeping a happy and healthy sex life in a marriage.

    That you're even agreeing to try all this is a big plus, even if it ends in disaster.

  • I don't think CIA would need to know about your sex life anymore...

  • It could be painful. Is he well-endowed?

  • If you're willing to try either of those things then go for it I guess, but don't do (either) if you're not comfortable with the idea.

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