My boyfriend says he has a low sex drive?

[Anonymous]

I want to have sex at least every night I see him. We only spend the weekends together so I want to have sex Friday and Saturday night (the only days I see him!) When I go over there he has no interest in having sex. He will let me go down on him and then he loses interest when I get on top. I don't think he is masturbating before I come over (who knows) but he does masturbate on the days I am not there during the week. I have talked to him and he says it's not me bc really that is the only explanation I can think of is that he is not attracted to me anymore. Sex ALWAYS happens when he is feeling it. He never cares when I want it. Ever. And he rarely ever makes me cum anymore. Should I just move on to someone who cares? Or is this a phase guys go through? I have offered to dress up in sexy outfits and even watch p*rn together... he didn't seem interested. We've been dating about 2 years now and both of us have gained some weight. Please help.

[Anonymous]

My husband's sex drive was always a bit lower than mine but then I gained a bit of weight and he rarely wants it - only when he feels like it. It is seriously depressing. I even turned down a hot guy recently - good looking with the best set of guns I've seen - clearly he wasn't worried about the weight despite his own incredible body (I guess he likes tall blonde women)... and after the excitement died down I went home and cried... get out while you can and find a guy who seriously wants you even if you do gain a couple extra pounds.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

Uh... how lame. He's wanking himself stupid during the week but doing nothing when he gets a real life lady to have.

Dump his useless ass, it's two years in, you shouldn't be having to do all this work it should be a joint effort by now with regards to working out issues.

Is he depressed? On medication? Does he work? Two years is a long time to date and not consider moving in... is there a reason for that?

[Asker]

Not depressed or on medication. He does have a pretty stressful job, and recently got a promotion. We have talked about moving in together, I am not ready. If he doesn't want to fuck me when I'm there 2 nights a week I am afraid what it would be like if we lived together...

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

I'm with you but for me, personally, if I didn't feel ready after two years I would be thinking this isn't the guy for me, I would want a deeper connection after 25 months of seeing the same dude. Doesn't sound like you have that.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

24 months sorry, I can count!

[MoshingExec]

Discuss it with him. It astounds me how many people say they have a problem like this and will ask strangers if they should break up but they never bother to discuss the issues with the sig. other to resolve them.

However, if he has a low sex drive it could be low testosterone. Tell him to get checked.

[kheserthorpe]

" I have talked to him and" They have discussed it, likely over and over.

[MoshingExec]

Yes she has talked to him and he says he has low sex drive. The point is that she now needs to talk to him about getting it evaluated medically. Don't leave it at "i have low sex drive." Tell him that since he thinks he has low sex drive go get checked out.

[Asker]

I feel like I shouldn't have to spell it out for him if it is important to me. But I should talk to him clearly to express that I'd like to work on it together

[MoshingExec]

He may have no clue that it may be a medical issue and that he could possibly be treated. That's why you need to communicate.

[kheserthorpe]

Dump his ass.

A: it's a big issue.
B: he's showing no interest in working on the issue or compromising.

Get out.

[joaninhagirl]

Same opinion!

[Levi9incher]

cos you gained weight i would imagine

[binny91]

He probably finds you unattractive now or is too tired and not in the mood.

[Dannyisfine]

He's just not that into you.

[Exxplosive]

aww so bad
if i were there
everyday everyday

[Anonymous]

Maybe try losing the weight. I don't know

[Anonymous]

You could try to get him to exercise and eat healthier, that boosts sex drive. If that doesn't work I would just leave him.