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My GF basically told me she likes bigger dicks than mine. How should I feel?

We have been going through a rough patch lately. Dating 5 1/2 months. She has a lot of trust issues and is always suspicious of me cheating. Anyway we have been living together recently and she has been having some anxiety over that. She needed "some space". I figured she was pretty much ready to break up with me, but we talked it out and she came to sleep at our place last night. At first she was fine talking to me, but would not be physical with me in anyway. She gave me a kiss when I asked for it, but that's it. She was laughing and talking like nothing was wrong. We talked about what happened a little bit, and said sleeping alone was amazing and she mentioned she would sleep on the couch bed... I was like ok, you obviously are still feeling some type of way. She said she just doesn't feel close to me like that right now and definitely didn't want to have sex right now. I said if this is going to our relationship now, than we can just break up. She said she will be able too, just not right now. And that she wants to be with me. So I go to sleep in my room. 10 mins later she comes in and is apologizing saying that she isn't trying to be mean, and she layed down with me and cuddled for a bit, kissed a few times. Then she went back out to the couch. Another 10 mins go by, she calls me out to watch a movie with her. We are cuddling kissing, talking... Somehow we got on the subject of different races dating. She is mixed I am white. I mentioned my friend was dating an indian guy. She said, "of she likes small dicks". I was like ok? Then she started describing the different things she likes about dicks shape a size and stuff like that, none of which sounded like me. Which made me ask the question I shouldn't have asked. "well what do you consider to be too big" She says, "10 inches... 9 can be cool, 8's good... so is 7 (my size by the way, which she has always said is perfect)... but 6 can be good if it's thick. Anything under 5 is too small"
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This obviously made me feel inadequate, I was basically her minimum size, and I have had women tell me I am big. Small white girls though. She went on to talk about a dream she had of me cheating, but I was quite thinking about how I wasn't enough for her. She said something about me or the dog needing to get out of the bed, so I went to my room.. upset about our convo.
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Then she comes in basically accusing me of cheating and trying to get me to admit that I did. I have never, It actually makes me think YOU are cheating the way you are acting now. She says will you admit it if I do? I said yeah because I didn't cheat on you and don't plan too. Then she says she did a few weeks ago... my heart sank... I asked who she said she couldn't tell me that, then is smiling... Then admitted she made it up to get me to admit.
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  • bro , listen. your gf shows some disturbing signs. some red flags:

    1. witholding affection
    2. suspcious of you cheating
    3. lying
    4. manipulation.
    5. insults

    the list goes on... and on.. Your gf seems disturbed to me. I'm talking out of experience. Look up '' borderline personality disorder '' . shrink4men.wordpress.com/.../

    she insults, she doesn't trust you, she lies, and makes you feel bad about yourself. I think she did cheat on youm that's why she acted so strange. withholding affection from you. She felt bad and needed it of her chest. So she did , and in the end it wasn't about her, but about you. Amongst people who have dealed with borderline individuals, professional or on a personal level, a loved one, they call it gaslighting i believe. deflicting the issues concerning her, and making it all about you.

    my advise, look it up, start analizing her behaviors a bit, and if you think she shows clear signs of borderline or any other cluster b personality disorder. you leave her, you can't help these girls. they will never admit that they are wrong. I tried it, i loved that girl to death, i still do but she hates me. she did and said some of the cruelest things someone ever said to me. i would rather take a good beating than.

    listen, i never listened to others. people warned me about her, about her dating other men, going from guy to guy. they were right. she got pregnant from me, and as sad as i feel about her miscarrying our child, she would have taken away my child and had other men around my child. thats not worth it. i already fell into a depression because everything, and imagine what would have happened when she did have our child, and would have taken it away from me.

    save yourself dude! hope you do some research because i know exactly were this is going to end, and dont say it doesn't affect you. these people are extremely intelligent when it comes to manipulating others. good luck dude

    • every guy on here, is advising you the same. walk away from her. If she can't see that her behavior is wrong, than she most likely has a personality disorder. No sane person, would manipulate you into feeling bad about yourself, while she is the one who should feel bad. Everybody is responsible for his or her own mistakes and these individuals never take responsibility. the moment you question their sanity, they will turn it around in such a way, that it's you who is crazy. happened to me, she said she needed a psychotherapist, i showed her home much i respected her , 1 week later, she canceled it, said i was the one who needed a psychotherapist. yes im seeing one now, because i feel depressed. but unlike her, i admit my own mistakes and short commings. my ex gf will never, your gf will never and in the end its you who ends up hating himself while they happily move on to their next victim.

  • What a load of bull. There is no need to feel inadequate. If she is so interested in big hardware she obviously has never had any before and has no idea how painful it might be and second - she'll gonna have to look for one for quite a long time.

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    • No she has, I'm very aware of it. And it's cool, I mean she doesn't have the tightest pussy I have ever had sex with so whatever... difference is, I'm not talking about other girls pussies while I'm with her.

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  • I really think you've moved far too quickly in the relationshio, 5 and a half months and already moved in together? phew! i'm not suprised she's anxious and scared, i don't think it was the best move at all, you need to take things a lot slower with each other, a relationship shouldn't be rushed because 5 and a half months is barely enough time to really fully gain each others complete trust. The fact she isn't even ready to have sex with you yet suggests you really did move WAY too quickly and i think you should re-consider this... you are still kind of strangers never mind full on in-love. I don't think you should be questioning your dick size at the moment but on how fast you both seem to be moving, falling in love is already scary enough but moving in together this fast... id honestly be scared off right from the start lol, but the way she is acting too makes me feel you shouldn't of moved in together. You can't tell who someone is entirely even in 8 months... it takes years to fully know someone, so i think consider moving back out.

    • We have sex all the time, just not lately because we have been fighting. I never said we didn't have sex. And everything else has been great, we both seemed to be head over heels so I suggested it, and she agreed. Then started having second thoughts.

    • Yeh i definitely feel your having second thoughts so i think you definitely did move too quickly with things so i think talk to her and say to her you think you've moved too fast and that maybe you should both move back out again, i don't see it going to great if you do stay living together, it's just too soon.

  • My GF basically told me she likes bigger dicks than mine. How should I feel?
    Perhaps appreciative that she overlooked a factor of her sexual attraction for how much she likes you for being you.

    You likely are more attracted to other gals but you chose her. It is highly unlikely you will be your partner's ideal in every way or even most ways. Rather than negatively focus on what you don't have it may be suited to focus on what you do have.

  • Leave her. She disrespected you and she sounds like an inconsiderate b*tch.
    You're not even official, you've just been dating for almost half a year and she's already causing this much distress. Move on. You can have a much better experience.

    • We are official and have been for about 4 months. I just can't bring myself to do it right now. Hoping things will go back to how they were.

    • This ^

    • @Asker well alrighty it's your choice Also you need to respect her when she tells you she needs space instead of guilt-tripping her into snuggling with you. It's kinda too soon for you guys to be living together, the relationship is in it's baby years, and you being pushy and all in her face is only going to make her want even more space.

  • Ouch man. She sounds like she has some real issues. If I were you I wouldn't be willing to stay in a relationship like that. And just to say, most women don't care too THAT much about size. Very strange.

    • *remove the too lol

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  • Bail. She's manipulating you to think of yourself as inadequate, so that you rationalize her cheating as being your fault and not hers. Been there, done that. Get out, immediately.

  • No one should never said things like these while in a relationship! I have heard stories as well where the boy said: " I like bigger breasts" or " I like smaller breasts"! It is so disrespectful to say that, and so was what your gf said!
    I would say move on..

  • Any girl who says that and also cheats on you is immature and you're better off without her.

  • If I was u I would find a woman worthy... if your quality can't make her happy nothing will make her happy... she wants her way... put your foot down

  • Break up, your relationship is pretty much crap and she's crazy. No relationship should have problems like this, so early.

  • My boyfriend is nearly 6.5 and I die from that! You should never make a partner feel inadequate, And she definitely shouldn't have "lied" about cheating. You deserve much better than that. She sounds very inconsiderate.

    • That's actually a big size. Bigger than most.

  • she sounds so childish, telling you she cheated then saying she didn't, how could anyone trust someone like that, run, get away from her, the term bunny boiler comes to mind

  • Tell her tighten her pussy. Seriously though how old is she? There comes a time in a woman's life where she realizes size does not matter. I guess she is still a little girl.

    • Some girls just like bigger dicks. Doesn't have to do with age

    • @oriondude If a girl likes bigger dicks that is because she believes that smaller ones can't satisfy her or that you can only get pleasure from a large penis and if that were the case a lot of women are unsatisfied right now.

    • I am 28 she is 26. We were having sex all the time, she cums basically every time, unless she or I are just too tired or not in the mood. It's not really a matter of whether she enjoys it or not for me, I know she does. It's just the thought that she would enjoy it MORE if I was an 1-2 bigger. Nothing I can do about it though. I shouldn't have asked, and she shouldn't have brought it up in the first place. I've always been secure with my size in every previous relationship. Even been told I was a little too big sometimes or I was girthy. But she didn't seem as impressed. She is mixed and has dated a lot of black guys, but mostly white but maybe that has something to do with it. I really am comfortable with my size, but hey... every guy wants to be a little bigger, unless you are already a freak of nature. I think I am a good size, but it doesn't help when I hear all this shit about dicks from her all the time. Literally has never been an issue in any of my previous relationships.

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  • this girl sounds like a master manipulator and likes to play games with your emotions and heart. My suggestion... get as far away from her as you can buddy!!

    • agreed, she sounds like a borderline / narcissist . same advise as you gave. walk away. but dont be like her, just tell her that you love her but you can't live like this. argueing with these girls is impossible. everything is your fault, even if they cheated on you.

  • Then why is she wasting your time? Forget her. You deserve better :).

  • Bet she is cheating on you...
    You deserve better

  • Thats so rude to say :/

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