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Why would a woman be Afraid to give a blow job?

I have read this in many posts. The woman states she hasn't done it (or her friend hasn't) because she is afraid. Of what? You really can't do anything wrong other then too much teeth. if it is your first time the guy is going to understand you need LOTS of practice. So... please help me understand what you would be scared of? I mean when I was young and before I even went out with a woman I knew I wanted to eat pussy... It has been an obsession since I hit puberty. The night I lost my virginity, even though I was shocked I was getting pussy, and a blow job for the first time... I still got down and ate her out. Problem is we were in the front seat of a fairly large size car (I am not a car person so have no idea what it was) and I am 6' 3"... so i couldn't stay down there long as I wanted.. but I didn't worry about if she liked it or not, I just knew I wanted to do it and since who knew if I would ever have sex again... lol... I went for it...
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I think some are going to bring up Deep Throat. I personally tell the woman right up front not to do it because I don't get anything from it. Why have her choke for no reason. I know a lot of guys that don't like it. We might get a little turned on by a woman choking but that is more to do with because it is a turn on to have her sucking our cocks and makes us think we are too big for her to handle. so you can't loose in that situation.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Even with a hubby a novice not only has the fear of failure & being naked while humiliated by a critic, she certainly feels a semblance of Master-Servant roles such as she may never had prior. This is very different from a job=pay or student-teacher roles and to even suggest this might be similar to how one serves in business brings thoughts of... business = prostitute. So that's some of the mental hurtles others may tag onto here.

    As far as your sexual appetites, I'm sure there's gals out there that parallel, even exceed some of them but people are so diverse, why wonder about those NOT having similar desires? Another way to say this would be... consider some very popular venues that YOU don't care for and wonder WHY others would spend SO much time/money in pursuit of them... be it football, ballet, church, AA, etc. Then you'll realize that they might wonder about you, in similar fashion to how you wonder about gals (in the question you posed) that hesitate on BJs

    As for me, never a problem, so long as The One is respectful, very clean, appreciative & slim on the criticism. In fact, my appetites might shock most guys, so they are... in the vault.

    • Are you sure you posted this in the right question?

  • I think the biggest reason is probably being gagged or forcefully choked by the guy. It should be up to the woman if she wants to deep throat or not, not the guy. I've heard some guys just go for it and they think the girl is cool with it because they saw it in p*rn or something. It's the same with facials, etc.

    Another reason may have to do with past sexual experiences that were negative, like maybe she was assaulted and forced to perform oral sex, or abused and manipulated into doing it.. That is psychologically damaging.

    • See I would never have even thought about cumming on a woman. As a matter of fact I did it for the very first time, at age 46, just over a week ago. The woman I am with, that I have fallen for completely, said she likes it on her face or chest. she took me to see 50 shades movie (she has seen now 4 times *sigh). anyway, we went back to her place and that as the first time we did anything sexual. I ate her out and she came. then she sucked me until I was about to cum then wanted me to cum on her tits. so I did. I don't get it. I don't see what the appeal is. I mean I can understand the face a little bit and i am kinda looking forward to it. cum on her face an mouth might be hot.. but I much rather cum inside a woman (mouth, pussy, ass) much bigger turn on.

  • It's def a self conscious thing, at least for me, and I've given blowjobs before and I still get nervous every time. It's really enjoyable but it's still really stressful and a million thoughts about if he likes it or what he is thinking about or if he's close or if I look completely stupid while I'm doing it. So for the first time it's all of that plus not knowing what to expect at all!!! :o)

Most Helpful Guys

  • There's a lot to worry about both about her wellbeing and yours.

    Concerning her directly she has to hope she doesn't catch an STD since everyone does them without protection really. She can also choke and stuff too. There are also a lot of mean guys who will destroy a girl's reputation afterward and talk about it publicly which can cause the girl's reputation to get real bad. Throw in her doing it poorly and that just makes for more embarrassment.

    With you, she can be afraid of not only teeth but other mishandling issues in general. I've had experiences where the girl struggled and did cause me some discomfort but luckily she knows I'm not critical or the type to be mean about it so the girls that have done this with me didn't have to worry about being judged.

    • yes all if this for me. That is why i only do it with the guy i love and in a relationship with. He would be more caring and would keep our sexual endavours private. And if we happen to break up and then out of spite he blabs about sex then it wouldn't matter because the sex was obviously done with somene i loved and cared for and within a loving relationship And it would not tarnish ones reputation because society treats womem who have sex within relationships better than women who dont.

  • I think their more afraid of getting a mouthful and if they will not like how it tastes. Or of the guy being rough and choking her. I wouldn't want anything stuffed down my throat

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  • I only do it with the one i love and trust. i could never trust that other guys are really as clean or that they wouldn't be rough with me and try to choke me. Guys see women in p*rn and think that regular women are gonna be just like that, not having any concerns and just always ready to please a man without caring about her pleasure and safety.

    • Also i trust that my fiance can keep our sexual endavours private whereas other guys who are not in a relationship will spread a ladies name around and make her out to be a whore because he doesn't really care about her.

  • this may help understand why

    www.netdoctor.co.uk/ate/infections/203091.html

  • a girl is scared she's gonna mess up my bf asked me for one and my stupid response was no i was worried i was gonna mess up, even though it may not seem like a big to do for you guys like hahah she messed up girls find it really embarrassing thats why

    • For what? If we're laughing about it, obviously we don't care. Every other day girls find something to be ashamed and embarrassed about, you guys have the ultimate victim complex.

    • Tru dat... I actually read a post were a woman didn't have sex with her boyfriend because the "light was unflattering"... OMG... like if we are getting pussy we really give a shit about lighting.

    • true i don't know i guess like its the fear of messing up now that like u guys commented there's nothing to really be embarrassed about when i really think about it

  • I don't know why bc as i recall i was kind of excited.

  • Lack of sex ed, don't want to get pregnant. ;)

    • It is scary how true that is. I cringe from some of the posts on this site. And I never had "the talK" when I was a kid. So there are still things I don't know about what goes on down there with women... but women SHOULD know all that stuff

  • Well some girls are probably scare because when doing blowjobs, guys be shoving their dicks in their mouth like it some kind toy and expect the girl to deep throat.

    • many guys, like myself, do not like deep throat. Or I should say it does zero for me so I tell the woman right up front not to bother. why choke yourself when it means nothing. Sometimes it is a turn on when a woman chokes a bit but not so much I want her to do that.

  • Could of been through a horrifying experience thier first time. Like who know.

  • When I gave my first Bj to my bf indeed I used too much teeth lol but then we just let it with my bf..
    After some days I gave him a Bj again and he sais it was the best BJ he has ever received. And now I am an expert in giving BJ's. girls shouldn't be afraid of doing it

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