GIRLS: How would you feel if a guy said this to you during sex?

[Anonymous]

Say you're having doggystyle and he hunches over you and whispers in your ear "say you're my bitch". How would you feel? He's not aggressive with me. He's gentle but can also screw hard in a gentle way too. Doesn't force me to do stuff, but he did whisper that in my ear while we were having doggystyle. Would you be turned on or offended?

[heatherlu]

I think it really depends on the guy and our relationship. I think in most cases I'd be okay with it. With a one night stand or something similar, then, eh... He just fancies some slightly kinky sex.
With a guy I was in a relationship - granted that it only happened during sex, and wasn't a regular, every time we have sex it's like this, thing, then yeah... Fine.

As long as the guy isn't trying to be offensive or demeaning, then generally, I'd be okay with it.

[Asker]

Right? It's not like he called me a bitch. That's different. I would leave if he slapped me in the face or something but his comment seemed more of a "you're my woman, reassure me"

[udolipixie]

GIRLS: How would you feel if a guy said this to you during sex?
I would feel it's time to dump him. I'd immediately stop the sex and dump him.

Would you be turned on or offended?
A. Insulted
Offended. I'm not into being insulted, demeaned, degraded, or called derogatory names. I find I'm an extreme outlier as it appears most gals love being demeaned, insulted, and degraded.

[Asker]

I didn't find it degrading. It felt weirdly intimate. It just felt like he was calling me his gal. He needed me to reassure him that I belong to him and only him. I don't see it as an insult.

[udolipixie]

Different views. You see 'my bitch' as 'my gal'. I see 'my gal' as 'my gal' and 'my bitch' as 'my bitch'.

[Asker]

Are you submissive or dominate in bed?

[sexyredhead]

You find that as a term of endearment? It is extremely disrespectful and demeaning

[udolipixie]

Neither. I'm egalitarian. I'm guessing you're submissive which may be why you associate/equate 'bitch to woman' so my bitch means my woman?

[udolipixie]

@sexyredhead Some people have different views. Plus some people enjoy being disrespected and demeaned especially submissives it seems.

[Asker]

You guys seem more offended than I am. Egalitarian? During sex? Are you kidding me? I can be both dominate and submissive. We take turns. I get on top of him, he gets on top of me. We're doin stuff sideways, but there's always somebody in control.

[udolipixie]

@Asker Egh you don't find it offensive so reasonably I'd be more offended then you. Now if you're trying to bs that I'm telling you how to feel or acting offended for you... cut that sh*t now. I didn't tell you how to feel. I didn't impose my views on you. I didn't act like my view was better. I didn't act like your sexual taste was unfathomable... like you are doing now with your 'are you kidding me?' about my egalitarian preference. I stated we had different views. That's it.

[udolipixie]

I even responded to another user questioning how you could see my bitch as a term of endearment by stating 'Some people have different views. ' So do tell me how I seem more offended than you if you're trying to bs that I'm telling you how to feel or acting offended for you.

[Asker]

You're setting a tone. "Some people like to be disrespected" Get off your high horse lady.

[udolipixie]

I'm not setting any tone. The commenter said the term was disrespectful. I stated some people have different views AND some people like to be disrespected. The some people like to be disrespected was to the other part of her comment. I covered both areas. People who don't find it disrespectful and people who like it for being disrespectful The only one on a high horse is you acting as if my preference is unfathomable.

[udolipixie]

HER: You find that as a term of endearment? ME: Some people have different views. HER: It is extremely disrespectful and demeaning ME: Plus some people enjoy being disrespected and demeaned especially submissives it seems. Don't bs as if I'm casting negative labels on your tastes when I've repeatedly said it is a matter of different views. Not once did I make it out as my view good your view bad. Again you can cut that sh*t out now.

[GirlsLie]

I would love it, if he's not aggressive with you any other time and doesn't force you to do things then why should you be offended? It's just hot in the moment.

[Asker]

That's what I was thinking. I never said I was tho, so he was just kinda left hangin there

[GirlsLie]

Lol. It's understandable if it just caught you off guard though, I love when my boyfriend dominates me, it can be a really fun experience.

[Outofthegrey]

lol what the fuck? Who says that?

Next time you have sex you should punch him in the balls as he climaxes and tell him to say he's your bitch.

[Asker]

Haha well I've never been good at dirty talk because it all sounds so stupid to me but I have slapped his balls before. I kinda abuse him but he's ok with it. We don't really insult or demean each other. I just wanted to see if others have had the same experience

[WitchKing]

I would be insulted, but then again imma straight guy...

[ReedBetweenTheLions]

he sounds kinky lol

[Asker]

He IS

[ReedBetweenTheLions]

Maybe its because you were in that position and bitches are female dogs?

[Asker]

I have no idea. He's a weirdo. I still like him tho

[sexyredhead]

disgusted and shocked at the lack of respect

[tinyclit]

I'm submissive in the bedroom, so if he tells me to do so, I'll eagerly say, "I'm your bitch!" I don't have any trouble with that at all and I can't think of a single reason why I should.

[Hannajenky]

Depends but in general talking dirty is a good thing

[Pmnm-325]

When he's about to climax u should firmly squeeze his nuts and say fuck yeah ur my bitch lol

[jmmmfi]

I never did that before, did you do it?

[Asker]

Yes. That's why my question is so specific.

[eskilon7]

It's insulting bcos u ate not acting p*rn and u weren't in a one night stand. Let him know that you are with because u r his woman. But if u liked it , then that's ur own case.

[Anonymous]

If the dick good I’ll say “yes daddy “ lmaoo

[Anonymous]

Hmm.. He sounds like he's into S & M lol but you say he's gentle. If you're still thinking about it, I'd bring it up to him

[Asker]

He's into cosplay

[Anonymous]

If you dont like it just ignore it and pretend he never said it but if you get hot over it, do as he says