Did my boyfriend take advantage of me when I was drunk?

Question

My boyfriend and I are on spring break this week and we rented a condo at the beach with a few friends. I had a little to much to drink and decided to go pass out in bed about 1:30 this morning. I remember taking my sundress off and laying down in my bra and thong in our room. I had intentions on putting on a shirt to sleep in but I was a little to drunk and just fell asleep. 

I think it was about 3:30 that I was awakened by something, when I open my eyes to see what was happening I saw my drunk boyfriend trying to unsnap my bra (in was one that snaps in the front) I didn't pay much attention to it and just passed out again. Well a few min later I was awakened again to my bra open and my BF was straddling me and he was cumming on my face. I remember asking him "why are you doing that?" And telling him to wipe my face off but I'm pretty sure I passed out again right after that. 

I didn't wake up again until almost 10 this morning and I was freezing cold. I realized that I had slept on top of the covers all night, my bra was completely off and my bf was passed out naked next to me. I could still feel that his cum was dry on my face and I could even tell some went in my mouth from the taste I had in my mouth. 

I went to get out of bed and when I rolled over I saw that there was another guy laying on the floor in our room and the bedroom door was not even closed. i didn't have a clue where my bra or dress was so I covered up my boobs and ran to the bathroom to get a shower. 

My BF doesn't seem to remember much except jacking off on my face, he apologized for doing it but I still feel like I was taken advantage of. Not to mention his random friend seeing my boobs and thong. I was even told by someone else today that a few people were walking in and out of the room at like 4am and I was passed out with my boobs still out. 

I know this is partly my falt too and I'm owning that but do you feel like my BF took advantage of me? I feel disrespected.

FALLENCHRISTEY94 · Accepted Answer

he might did or maybe not but maybe he did my point is there's a possible chance he did because why would unsnap your bra firstly because I had the same experience before but similar I don't wear bras I would see my bf touching me and all of a sudden I pass out and but he shoving his penis in my mouth and I get cum on my face and in my mouth then I taste it I ask him what happened he doesn't remember at all expect for shoving his penis in my mouth and cumming on my face and in my mouth I told him tell me the truth before I dump your ass I told him you know that's date raped see I said if I did too you while you were knocked out you would put me in jail for that right? he said yes I would and I said im going to do the same I same if you don't tell me so he told me partly some and I said the whole thing didn't tell me ill never know too this day it sucks I still get that spine chill he raped me but if he don't tell you he never well and it sucks too if he doesn't :(

aamy811 · Accepted Answer

Your boyfriend is an asshole. Just because your in a relationship doesn't mean you can do sexual thins with them whenever you want. Sexual actions are a consentual thing and if they don't consent it's assault.
I'm assuming you don't want to take it to court Or anything but I still highly suggest you talk to him about boundaries and how this has made you feel.

RayNavy · Accepted Answer

1st, it is never a victim's fault so stop blaming yourself. 2nd was the friend there before you passed out for the first time. If he wasn't then ask your boyfriend why he was there and why all the other people were going in and out. Seems to me your boyfriend isn't telling you everything. And lastly, go to your local police department and report this. Tell them you are not sure if you were "sexually assaulted". They should know what to do from there. The only advice I can give is that if this happens again and you feel you were "raped" get up, do not take a shower as doing so would wash away any semen if any, and report the incedent.

DocT1977 · Accepted Answer

Let's put it this way. If he knew you were not going to do those things sober, Then it sounds like to me, He waited until you entered into an intoxicated state where you could not give consent nor deny his actions as your judgment, or the ability for you to give consent was obviously impaired. That's called date rape.

Your_boss960 · Answer

It sounds like he did. I would break up. If you are under 18.. Get away while you can

1brudda · Answer

He could have tried having sex or doing other more sexual stuff but he only cummed on u and didn't even touch ur vagina so dont jump to conclusions.

Anpu23 · Answer

It was rape, it's up to you to press charges. An intoxicated person CAN NOT LEGALLY give consent. Even if you pulled his pants off and did it yourself it was still rape. This works both ways, if you went down on him, and he was drunk, same situation.

Monsters · Answer

Honey that is rape

Caliguy88 · Answer

I mean. My ex was ok with me masturbating when she was too drunk but I’d never cum in her face. I just minded my business. Maybe felt her butt a little which she was totally cool with and knew. But that was like just a hand on it. She was 99% of the time awake but just didn’t want to. But you both gotta be ok. If you want him to do that. Fine. People are ok with different stuff. I think it’s safe to say I’ve never done anything to a girl not welcomed. Even if I wanted to, that’s serious stuff and legally super not ok. I’d say it’s flat out rape.