My boyfriend has a weird sexual fetish, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend for over two years now, and we've recently started having sex. He has a WAM (wet and messy) fetish.. He loves having cake batter, whipped cream, etc. all over him during sexual activities. I sometimes do it for him because I love him with everything that I am, but this just isn't my fetish. I don't enjoy it at all. It honestly turns me off and makes me want to cry when I'm alone. He doesn't want to do it everytime we have sex, maybe just a couple times every few months.. What should I do?

[Sorceress]

Ok, so I have a few things to say, hopefully I don't get lost in my train of thought. I'm about to rip off an episode of savage lovecast. Firstly, good for you for the last year trying to embrace his fetish, not too many women would want to even consider doing that. He's very lucky! Next, I think that if everything else in your relationship is good, you should try to get yourself in a mindset that this isn't something he wants to do all the time, so maybe you should consider giving in to his fetish, say, 4 times a year. So every 3 months. Tell him to mark the dates in his calendar, and it will give him something to look forward to. We all do stuff sometimes because it pleases our partners. Sometimes I'm not in the mood to do certain things, but I do it because I know it makes my partner happy, and knowing he's enjoying himself is a turn on for me. Lastly, be careful getting any foods and stuff in your va jay jay... You're just welcoming an infection if you get sugar and foods in there, not good.

All in all, I say, if everything else about your relationship makes you happy, you can probably squeeze in 4 messy times a year. Good luck!

[randomhobo]

Talk to him about it. You should both be perfectly honest in your sex life. Maybe negotiate or come to some sort of deal where you occasionally do it for him and he does one of your fetishes for you. Or come to some sort of midground which you are comfortable with.

[LittleSally]

Damn...
That's sad that you're sad.
To me that doesn't sound that bad, but I get where you're coming from. It's not something you're into. Maybe you should mention this and see what he says.

[truthbeknown]

Ok, every relationship always has some compromise. Yes, this fetish is a bit weird, but I don't see it as something that would make someone cry afterwards. I think you are overreacting or over thinking it. If you have just recently started having sex, I think it is too early for him to start bringing out the weird fetishes, so that is his bad. I think if you two had regular sex for a bit more time and increased your comfort and confidence level that introducing a fetish may be easier to take. Chances are rare that you will both have the same fetish interest. Just because this is something weird to you doesn't mean it has to be bad or negative. This is where being open minded and having a positive attitude goes a long way. Ultimately, you should never have to do anything you absolutely don't want to do. If this fetish is going to kill you then you simply have to tell your bf you hate it and simply won't do it. You have to be prepared and understand this may be something he won't live without and therefore may have to date someone else.

[arianna15]

well as u said it isn't that often, I would just put up with it as its not that often! you need to think of him as well, I would understand u being upset about it if he wanted it EVERY time you had sex or the majority of the time but it isn't that often

[Anonymous]

Just tell him its a turn off for you and not something you gain any pleasure from