Girls only, I was fingered to orgasm, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

I was at a party, sitting on the couch next to my friend and this random guy. He put his arm around my waist then grabbed my ass. I really didn't care to be honest, guys were doing it all night so I just got used to it. (I do have a pretty nice, big ass, I won't lie lol) So anyway as he had is hand on my ass he slowly slid it under, (I was wearing tights and a thong) and he rubbed my vagina quickly. I got wet, not soaking but enough to have me kinda turned on. I didn't like it too much but he stopped right away. I looked at him but ignored it, I was too busy talking to my friend. Anyway, he put his hand on my ass and moved closer, then quickly he put his hands in my pants and grabbed my ass and then moved down to my vagina before I could stop him. He started to finger me very hard, and of course my friend Nicolet next to me held me down and said, "You'll enjoy it". So it hurt at first if course, then it started to feel good, but at the same time reality kicked in and I wanted to make it stop but it felt good. So this went on and on and eventually I reached my climax and squirted. It felt very good, and I don't hate Nicolet, she's my best friend and we have done stupid things before. So people I knew where there and saw, I'm afraid this will get out and people will know, + some random guy not only saw me naked, but fingered me! What if people video taped? It could be anyone, that's child P*rnography , I'm 16. I haven't told my mom, what should I do? I know I could have stopped it, and I'm not going to the police. & does this count for losing my virginity? Please help, I liked it but I also feel violated. Please answer to help or answer the poll.

[Frost_Byt3]

Even if you liked it, you never gave him consent. This could fall under the category of sexual harrassment. Its not serious enough to be considered rape because it didn't hurt you at all, and you technically didn't lose your virginity, but if you tell your mom, things will get out of hand and the authorities will get involved. Its likely that all lf your friends and classmates will find out eventually. Infact its ineveitable. Not everyone will believe it, but the news will spread, and prepare to be labeled as a whore and/or slut for the rest of HS. Don't expect go get anymore BFs in HS, because most will refuse to date you, and the few that do date you, will end up using you for sex. Sorry, that you had to hear this, but almost all of this is VERY likely to happen. And if the authorities get involved, not only will all of your classmates hear about it, but almost all of the town will hear about it. And to add to all of that, Nicolet wasn't being a very good friend. If you were uncomfortable with it, she should of stood up for you, and definitely not force you down.

Buuuutttt. Maybe none of this will happen if you, Nicolet, and the guy were the only ones in the room. But if anyone else was in the room, you should prepare yourself for the worst.

[Asker]

Thank you, and I won't tell my mother or the authorities, you're very right, it will get way out of hand. Nicolet is a very, how do I say it, sexual active girl. She lost her virginity at 13, and has sex almost on a daily basis. Me, personally, I have not. So I can understand why she did it, but at the same time she shouldn't have. I don't recall seeing anybody video taping, because that is child P*rnography , nor do I recall seeing anybody familiar. So I am prepared for the worst, but I doubt it will get any worse, because even if somebody did video it they would get in a lot of trouble. Thank you for the opinion and advice :)

[katedepp32]

don't freak out. there's nothing wrong with it.
it was kinda risky though, because it was in public. but it's not sure that anyone saw you or videotaped you. and even if someone did saw you at the party, maybe they didn't even remember it the next day because of the booze.
however, if someone videotaped it and put it online or dare to blackmail you, you might need to tell your mom.
but no matter what, don't panic. you did nothing wrong. there's nothing wrong with enjoying yourself. if it felt good and you liked it, then go for it and don't give a damn about people who think otherwise.

[Tarnya]

Same thing happend To me when I was 13 knew the boy from school we was all round my friends house watching a film he was on the sofa with me we had a blanket covering us and he was rubing my leg i liked it so I dident stop him then he kinda put his hand right up the top of my leg and touched my errr private area!!! I thort omg really then his hand went down my leggings and yeah I liked it so no big deal

[Anonymous]

Get a lawyer. You were raped. Take the mother fuckers for all they are worth... they fucked up big time... and it's time for you to cash out for all your pain and suffering. You said no, and they didn't listen. NO MEANS NO BITCH.

[Opinion Owner]

If the act was recorded.. EXPECT DOUBLE THE "PAY"

[Asker]

It's not actually rape, it's sexual harassment. I do not plan on reporting it to the police, it can make things worse.

[Asker]

Also, im 16. The authorities might not believe me, or think im just a little girl overreacting, or that teens do that kind of stuff. Also, I will get in trouble myself, I won't go to the authorities.

[Drooogie4]

Hahahah. Ahh..
Um.. What?

[Asker]

I know, but shit happens lol.

[Drooogie4]

But really. That's not okay. That's assault. And in public at that, with your "friend" supporting it. That's total violation and you could press charges.

[Asker]

If I somewhat enjoyed it, and they say I was it could go south. I don't plan on going to the authorities, because that will put me in a deeper hole, and trouble with my friends, family, and possibly my future.