Guys, so my boyfriend of 3 weeks said to me last night when drunk. "You should stay away from me because in the end I'll hurt you and I don't want to?

[Anonymous]

so my boyfriend and I of 3 weeks got drunk last night at his. he's really hot and I already knew he could pick up chicks for one night stands all the time but we're actually seeing each other.a first he sais in 2 years since his wife left him. So he's spent 2 years just picking up chicks. Getting drunk a lot with friends and seeing his kids. I'll point out for such a lad he and I have tried to have sex a few times and he can't get an erection yet he wants to keep seeing me and I know he finds me hot. He's frustrated with this and embarrassed and said last night I just don't know what's happening here. When your not here I'm fantasising about you all the time yet when your here it's not working? He said maby it's coz he likes me too much? Anyway drunk before he passed out he said I should stay away from him because he'll hurt me eventually and doesn't want to do that to me. I asked how and he clearly struggled badly to tell me why. Not about other woman. I got the just of that when he quickly said no way it's not that. I'm just a prick and I won't be able to help it. This morning he had no memory of this. I asked him and he was like no! I want us to keep seeing each other I reall like you. But I understand if you want to finish it because I can't perform with you. The one girl I like and it doesn't work. It's killing me. I want you so bad that way. Any advice?

[alexander1991]

you seem like a good woman that need some help so I'm going to let you know that he needs to stop jerking off because jerking off it's bad because it depends how many times he does it every day. because by the time he wants to do it with you he can't because his mind is so focused on doing it on his own. when he's with another woman he comes neither too fast or his penis won't get hard.

[Anonymous]

He actually likes you and cares for you to a degree. He just knows himslef and knows he can be a bad guy at times. he may be one of the few bad guys that a woman can capture. He probably has some issues though but is trying to work through them. You might want to understand what those issues are before you go too deep into a relationship with him.

[Asker]

Thanks but why can't he get an erection with me? 3rd time now yet were both very attracted to each other. I know he thinks I'm hot. He was a lad until 3 weeks ago and picked up random girls regular for one nights and didn't have a problem then. Yet can't get it up for me? Yet he's asking for us to keep seeing each other because he said he really likes me? He's confused and so am I :(

[Opinion Owner]

Most erectile disfunction is pychological. He may be stressed or anxious or confused. Maybe he wasn't getting it a few weeks ago too, he just said that. Alcohol can cause probelms with it as well. Does he get morning wood? If so, his stuff works.

[Asker]

He was definitely getting it. Small town! Lol and lots of it. As for morning wood. Yeah can go hard but as soon as he tries to act on it, it's gone. Starting to think it's me so why ask to keep seeing me and saying he really likes me. Works fine for a random girl should work fine with the girl he decided to see :(

[Opinion Owner]

He is conflicted I guess and causes him stress. The other girls dont mean anything so no stress. He has some internal conflicts that he needs to work through before he dates anyone seriously. It is something big in his past or just a mindepset that he can't be a good partner.

[Asker]

Thanks. Definitely wasting my time I think :(

[Strider90]

Don't waste your time minding that. He was drunk.
I believe he said it as being desperate after his divorce that it won't work out with anyone and he is afraid of being alone. It is more likely that he said it to make you feel sorry for him.

[Asker]

Ok thanks, but for a hot guy who's used to single life for a couple of years and picked up one nighters regular. What's happening with him not getting an erection with me? It's clearly frustrating him and me. He's definitely really attracted to me. Wants to keep seeing me he's asked. and fantasises he said about me when I'm not there. Yet naked in his bed for the 3rd time. Nothing. He's gutted. Questioning how he could bed an unknown girl easily but can't get an erection with me but still wants me to keep seeing him coz he really likes me?

[Strider90]

Don't know what to say about his erection problem. I had the same problem but Im much more inexperienced than your man.

[Rocky96]

Sorry, its you future you have see, decide wisely. But still can't say what to do 😞.

[Asker]

Ah it's a tough one. Do guys speak the truth when drunk. That's the question 😐 x

[Rocky96]

Not ever, sometimes they do or sometimes they speak in drunk 😵. One thing more if he repeated the same again in conscious mind its mean something truth.