Girls, what makes a man good in bed?

[Anonymous]

Attitude, technique, physical traits: whatever you think helps, please tell me and describe how it helps.

[SweetLily89]

I definitely can't stand the wham bam thank you ma'am kind of guys. It's literally just about them getting it in and getting off.

Every woman is different in what they like, but we all need to be warmed up if you know what I mean. I personally like it when a guy takes his time, lots of caressing and kissing then moving onto other fun activities. I'd say most of us women enjoy a good tease; I personally like to be practically out of my mind with desire before intercourse.

As far a actual sex goes, having rhythm is a necessity, but I also like when a guy switches it up some, fast, slow, deep strokes, short strokes etc.. but if your girl says, "Don't stop" "Just like that" it means exactly what she's says.

[Asker]

Thanks for answering. What role should oral play?

[SweetLily89]

Oral is one of the other "fun" activities I was referring to, but it should be done for both of your enjoyment. Don't treat it like a chore. 69 is a good way for couples to both have stimulation at the same time, it also cuts out the middle man of taking turns, but lets face it sometimes it's great to just lay back and enjoy your partner doing their thing. As far as technique, if she is moaning you and telling you how good it feels, rocking her hips back and forth then continue to do what you're doing. Also, it's important to encourage your partner to be open and honest about what's working and what doesn't as far as what feels good. Make sure she understands that faking isn't necessary and you genuinely want to please her and don't take "doing something wrong" personally either. Look at it as constructive criticism for future events and remember that what doesn't work for one female can rock another girls world.

[kaylaS91]

Granted that I'm with you, and you don't make 100% of your mind-set be that you reach your 'finish-line', I'll be fine. That means positions/speeds/depth that works for me without being too painful, some kissing here & there and just a bit of affection so that I don't feel like nothing but a piece of meat.

Not too picky with 'physical traits'. So long as you're not either of the extremes, like skinny as a toothpick or overweight, I'll also be a happy camper. My eyes are closed, looking at your face/dick throughout most of it anyhow. :P

[Asker]

Actually, I really want to be good at making the woman feel pleasure. If I just wanted to 'reach the finish line' I've got half to Internet to get me there. Good point. :) Wait, I thought girls where obsessed with penis size? ;P

[kaylaS91]

lol touche. &idunno, I think size queens, or girls who find penis size to be a major determining factor are sort of like guys who are only into big-boobs or skinny minnies. I'm sure there are advantages to being bigger than average, but that would come with a lot of downsides like easier for it to get painful for the girl and all. SO you can't change your size, but just because your dick is not as big as you'd like, that in no way means you can't still be great in bed. (slight angle/position changes, oral, playing with the clit manually, etc.) :)

[Asker]

Thanks. I guess what I'd most like to learn would be how to drive a woman wild with oral. It's the sexiest thing in the world in my opinion. Would that differ with every woman?

[kaylaS91]

oh ok haha umm.. I think the basics will be similar for most women. Like of course the hot-spot is the clit, the female equivalent of the head so that will be the golden ticket. A longer buildup is good though, like tease a bit both mentally/physically, let her wait before taking her over the edge. You can lick super close to the clit, everywhere but. Drive her a bit insane with that before you start licking/flicking or whatever you guys do to the clit to get her to cum. Ease up or better yet stop any contact with the clit post-orgasm, as it'll be super, almost painfully sensitive.

[Coffinspire]

Taking your time pleasing me like I please you. Techniques come second.

I'll be posting tips on my site www.AboutSexLove.com in case your curious

[Blue_Hef82]

You have a website? Anyone ever told you that you look like that chick singer from evanescense?

[Coffinspire]

Yes I do, pretty much about sex, toys, techniques. I'm still building it with the help of my husband, but I'll be writing an article on things like that so if you sign up you'd get an email about it.

[Coffinspire]

I forgot to say thank you for the amy lee comment

[Blue_Hef82]

Your welcome and I'll check it out... I had a question and tried to message you but it wouldn't let me since you don't follow me lol

[Coffinspire]

It should let you. You go to my gag page and press message.

[Blue_Hef82]

Nope it says you only allow messages from people you follow

[Anonymous]

Passion and lust for me. If he's super turned on and I'm feeling it's me that's driving him wild, if he just cannot help himself and just has to devour me. That's the sexiest.

[Asker]

Would you say you're more submissive or dominant in bed?