My roommate is a complete slut and it's ruining our friendship?

[Anonymous]

"you aren't suppose to slut-shame".. ya I don't care so please don't comment that. I'm only 16, and I live in boarding school. My roommate and I became BEST friends at the beginning of the year. Now the school year is almost over and she's had sex with 14 guys, and hooked up with 10 (24 total). I personally find this absolutely gross.. I'm shocked, upset, and lost all respect I had for her. I'm surprised she doesn't have an STD.. or she's not pregnant by now. I'm stuck with her for another 8 weeks- but I need to know what to do?? HELP! Also, she's now flirting with my X-boyfriend on purpose just to piss me off. I just can't have a friend who doesn't know how to close her legs.

[parkway]

She is putting you in a very bad spot. Having sex with a lot of people means she is dealing with some people who could be very dangerouse and you are sitting right in the middle of things. Guys think different when there is a slut around and their thinking will be ' birds of a feather flock together". You dont want them to think you are like her.

If your boarding school is private or state, sex is not allowed, so tell on her and get rid of her, she is nothing but trouble for you.

Hitting on your ex is crossing the line. I know one of the rules with my friends was not to hit on an ex without permission for 3 years.

There needs to be a cost to her pissing you off with the ex, get her kicked out she has earned it. You will be the last person she screws over without their being a cost.

Stay clear of her, she is soon will be hooked on something, because that is what boys do when they find a girl dumb enough to give it away for free and like it, she gets turned out.

[Makeitso]

Suck it up for two months and be done with her. Easy.

[aamy811]

So you say her beig sexually active is what's ruining your friendship. So consensual sex that in no way affects your life and that you wouldn't even know about if she didn't tell you.
But you don't see anything wrong with judging your friend, and calling her rude names. Maybe that's the real reason your friendship isn't working. She's done nothing disrespectful to you prior to your judging of her actions.
So she's not the problem here you are. You chose not to stick by her and you chose to call her names. Your the perpetrator and now your trying to play the victim.
Your friend has done nothing wrong. You've chosen to make her sex life your problem.
My only advice is to try to be nice and rough things out

[Asker]

hahahaha I have done nothing. She's flirting with my X-boyfriend (who just turned 15.. he's younger than me) and I wouldn't be surprised if they've had sex by now. That's just completely breaking girl-code on so many levels. Maybe she should just having sex with dozens of guys in my bed? And maybe get an actual life?

[aamy811]

Have you actually talked to her about it, because if you haven them she wouldn't understand the problem. She's breaking girl code, he's your ex and you've already decided your not friends anymore (or at least it may seem that way to her). And who cares if he's younger than you and having sex, sex is normal.

[Asker]

Because I know for a fact he doesn't care about her. It's so obvious the only reason he's even interested in her is because he's horny- and wants to use her. Once he gets what he came for- he'll leave. Just like every other guy who fucks her.

[aamy811]

And instead of being a good friend and trying to talk about her history with guys, you just called her a slut and ostracized her. That doesn't help the problem

[lunglady15]

If she is having sex in your room while you're there or having it in your bed, that is a problem and isn't "slut shaming"--it's wanting your personal boundaries respected. Talk to her about how it makes you feel (corny, I know), and if she can't respect that you don't want her doing those sorts of things in your presence, maybe talk to an RA or whoever is in charge of dorms at boarding schools and see if you can resolve the conflict that way, or at least get a new roommate.

[xPoison]

I could care less about how many sexual partners someone has. As long as it isn't affecting me in anyway, I don't care.

Since she's your friend and a roommate of yours, I could understand why you're bothered. It could possibly ruin your image and have people mistaking as a easy... if it hasn't happened already. If I was you just wait it out. Eight weeks would fly in no time.

[Asker]

hahaha "possibly ruin her image?" lol her image/reputation is already complete destroyed. No one likes her except for horny high-school boys who take advantage of her a few times and then leave. I honestly have no idea how she's even okay with this? Being naked in front of so many guys/ being known as "the whore of the school" is so embarrassing... what a shame.

[xPoison]

No, I'm saying it could possibly ruin YOUR image as to why I understand why you're bothered. If she's having sex in your bed... that's just plain disrespectful. Be blunt and call her out on it.

[Anonymous]

I don't think there is anything you can do about it. I'm not familiar with boarding schools or their rules and regulations. I agree with you on the slut shaming though. I don't have any right to judge people, but if she's a slut, she's a slut.

[justbe]

Why is it any of your business who she sleeps with? He's an ex for a reason. Be happy you aren't her and worry about you

[Asker]

Why is it my business? Hmmm... I don't know. Maybe because she's fucking guys in my bed? Her newest "boy toy" was literally fingering her under a blanket while I WAS IN THE ROOM. If that's not the most disgusting and disrespectful thing I've ever witnessed, I don't know what is.

[justbe]

Then kick her ass out. Or say something

[Asker]

I did... she doesn't do anything about it. I'm starting to get really pissed.

[justbe]

Honestly you just need to worry about you. This is what gets people into trouble. He's your ex, get over it. Move on. Deal with the sex that's in your room or say something to an adult. Worry about your own life you'll be happier. And don't ask a question when you aren't ready for the brutal truth

[Asker]

I'm not going to move on. There's much more she's done to me.. but I won't get into that. The bitch wants to ruin my life? Let her just wait and see what I have in store for her. Hopefully she learns her place.

[SweetCamaro]

@justbe you're the man... she's hating cause she just got burned!!!

[PinkFreud]

Here is a song to live by, by Salt N Peppa

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wLoZWzXGoHQ

[Asker]

It's completely my business. She's having sex on my bed.. I'm not okay with that AT ALL. Plus, I've asked her many times not to be friends with my X- and she started flirting with him JUST to make me mad. She's a whore. Plain and simple.