How to deal with regret for having sex with a prostitute?

A month ago, I had sex with a prostitute. It was the first time in the last 2 years. I don't know what I was thinking, I could have just masturbated and that wouldn't have happened. I was thinking of my friends who also do the same, I was thinking of how bad my life is, how unlucky I am, I was thinking of how often I masturbate that having sex with a prostitute wouldn't make any difference, so I let myself to go to a massage parlour which is wrong decision. I regret it so much. Besides I am scared of catching HIV (eventhough I used a condom), I feel like I've commited a terrible sin. :( It keeps bothering me all the time, I don't feel like talking to my family because I feel like such a bad person.I am a shame to my family, they are very strong Christian. I wouldn't feel this bad if I just hooked up with a girl who wanted to have sex with me without money involved. Now, I fear all the time, I fear the punishment of God. I've broken a vow that I once vowed. How can I make myself feel better about it? I am not even religious now, so I don't think, going to church is a good idea.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • :o

    No way. I feel like I can understand you're frustration for some reason... but you could be a victim really too. I think we are all victims of a culture that has made sex and humanity nonchalant and glamorizes prostitutes and p*rn when it is just a temporary fill for what we all want, which is cliche but, love.

    It's like none of us are born with fantasies of being a prostitute or seeing a prostitute. there's a time when we adore someone and we just want them to love us back and have various intimate moments, maybe mostly without sex.

    And we get corrupted and lose that pure human need. We want money, we want to be empower, we have to down other people to feel powerful at the expense of what?

    I think it is a healthy thing that you regret this as you do, this is the beginning of change my fellow human being who makes mistakes :)

    • I don't necessarily agree with all that you said but I really like your point of view :)

    • @GirlsLie Thanks I'll take it lol I hope the asker opens up because itt can't change but knowing what he did was wronge is indeed powerful, because it alows him to go in deeper. I would actually recommend him going to a therapist ( a goo one because there are crooked weird ones too maybe a older woman) because you should never feel shame and keep it pent up it can destroy from inside out. this is a serious problem and I think the @asker should seek a therapist immediately if this is a result of depression and other thing out of control

    • Lol. I did mean it as a compliment, I love your answer and this one as well.

  • It's your body, as long as you were careful who cares, you didn't hurt anyone and if you regret it now, just don't do it again. You're allowed to make mistakes and experiment with things, you're human.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Don't over think it.. You are human we all make errors in life.. Just ask God for forgiveness you don't have to tell family members just pray.. Remember God forgives the biggest sins as long as it come from your heart.. Make a appointment at your clinic and you don't have to tell them about a HIV test ask for a physical and they ask you themselves if you want a test for HIV and tell them you do.. Don't overthink it.. Life goes on..

  • stop fearing sth that you don't even know if it exists or not nad have no regrets basicaly!

    having a sex with a prostitute isn't sth to be ashamed of!

    • Thanks!

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  • Brush it off: you cannot undo it.

  • you're a little risk of HIV its herpes you want to get tested for at a clinic that stuff is easily catchable even with a condom on

  • It's no big deal really