If no guys approach me, do I have a cold unapproachable aura?

[MysteriousChick93]

So i am shy, but i've had guys tell me i am attractive an a lot do stare, whistle, raise eyebrows,smile etc. Only ones who come over are ofcourse players an bad guys. So i've never had a ltr, all were short term. As i've only dated.confident or arrogant dudes due to my shy nature. I know no excuse. I can say i have asked for a guys number before,an gave a guy my number before. An he called an asked me out an guy who i asked for his number. We hung out once. However i wouldn't do it again, as you can never tell how a guy feels when you go for them as you can't see if he genuinely liked you enough to go for it or whether they saw an got an opportunity an took it in the moment. So since then i've not made a move on a guy. I can break out of shyness when i have an idea a guy fancies me as i got enough to go on to actually be sure he likes me back . Since my break up in January i have remained single. As i did get hurt badly the guy was 28, an he didn't make enough effort to see me an didn't make me.feel special He was selfish an iwas so giving an kind to the wrong guy. I've had one date since an didn't go.good guy started ignoring me after i didn't kiss him on first date when there was no moment an he didn't even try go for it either so very silly. I meet immature, selfish, horny dudes. Nobody who can hold down a relationship . I am not perfect an i wouldn't want to be but i am a caring, supportive,fun, loving girl who wants to make a guy happy an to be loved in return. I know it all takes time. I am unconfident so i look awkward shy sometimes but more when i likes a guy i can never tell when a nice guy is flirting as they are less obvious right? I did like a guy at local store. He stared, smiled, made bit of convo, was extra polite . Stared when i walk by.raised eyebrow. But is it flirting or just attraction. I am ready to date but i don't kniw how to meet an talk to men

[Mamusaurus]

Personally, i like shy girls because they dress more respectable (cover more like stomach), let me lead the conversation while still contributing and give me that look to them I find very attractive (I love it when they blush at me!). I would love someone to come into my life now but love comes to you. I'm just waiting and making new friends each day so that I can only hope the one will come into my life. Do the same and have fun. I know its annoying but I'm assured it is worth while!

[MysteriousChick93]

Thank you x

[AustinMan]

It's my pleasure. Thanks for the MHO. Your reaction is a testament to your maturity and tolerance.

[MysteriousChick93]

Ah thanks a lot

[AustinMan]

I hear you that you're shy. That often gets misinterpreted as aloof. I'd suggest you dress up, sexy but classy. Smile a LOT!! Keep your body language open: not crossed arms or hunched shoulders. Make eye contact with men that are interesting. Have a story or two about yourself that reflect in the most positive light so you'll have something in your hip pocket to say if the conversation bogs down.

Questions?

[MysteriousChick93]

Yeah always interpreted as that tbh or rude, stuck up when i am actually a sweet kind girl underneath shy, reserved character. I do give eye contact despite being shy

[AustinMan]

Do you make a point to smile and esp to laugh and smile while talking to a guy? If he seems like a keeper, touch him some: on his arm or shoulder. Make sure you wear enough eye make up to make your eyes pop. Best footwear is stiletto pumps. Bright red is sexiest. Mae West, a vamp from the 40s, once said, "A woman in red stiletto pumps can make a man bark." Woof woof!!

[MysteriousChick93]

I don't talk to any guys currently an i know how to dress. But i don't do it for men but for me an my confidence. I would lovr to wear sexy lingerie for a guy though that was my bf though. To work i can't wear lots of make up. Minimal only. weekends i do though.

[AustinMan]

You have the heels, aka CCM-CFMs? You know what that means?

[MysteriousChick93]

Lol i know how to dress but i don't do it for men

[AustinMan]

Maybe you should think about it? The most approachable women are those who prioritize their interactions with males. It's just the way it is. Again, not overly sexy but classy.

[MysteriousChick93]

Well i don't make guys i don't even know my main focus. It has to work both ways interaction

[RationalLioness]

Not necessarily, but I've received similar feedback. Some may think you're taken or you're not into them.

[MysteriousChick93]

Okthank you

[HeroX]

You'll find the one someday, and about being shy when you meet the right person, after a couple of days you won't be shy around him.

[MysteriousChick93]

Yeah maybe

[HeroX]

Well goodluck :)

[MysteriousChick93]

Cheers

[jacquesvol]

Two sentences you wrote:
" i've only dated. confident or arrogant dudes"
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"So since then i've not made a move on a guy."

If I had seen you dating only confident or arrogant dudes , never making a move I'd have shrugged and passed my way.

[MysteriousChick93]

I have made a move on guys in past. Also Those sentences do not go. together. Im admitting guys I've. dated. An since last year. not asked anyone out.

[jacquesvol]

I suppose you've been seen with those "confident or arrogant dudes"

[MysteriousChick93]

No as i've dated outside of my area

[murphchapter2]

nice guys are flirting for keeps!! LOLthats how normal people get together. Assholes flirt to play cause they are arrogent. Go talk to nerdy intelligent men and you will have the best relationships...(Big Bang Theory) isn't far from the truth

[MysteriousChick93]

Lol i see haha. I know no nerds

[MysteriousChick93]

An what's how normal people get together

[murphchapter2]

well at least more low key guys, I'll bet your really hot, the jack ass guys have no fear so they are always in the front of the low key guy and that is why the low key guys never think that you would be interested

[MysteriousChick93]

How do i spot low key guy though

[murphchapter2]

through normal conversation without all of the bravado. Try to have an intelligent conversation with a you would be suprised

[MysteriousChick93]

An duno if guys think that. I want a good guy i hate the fearless ones

[MysteriousChick93]

So guy i like at store. Raised eyebrows when i walked in. Watched me walk to get a drink. Then when i was right infront face to face over a till. He got shy looked down to ground. Then looked back up an said hello you alright. I got shy nodded he then messed up on the till. Overcharging me nearly he apologised. He seemed nervous. The other workers never say mich at al when i come in he does though. If he's stocking shelves he will rushover an say sorry. i dontknow if its customer treatment or him liking me. But he's extra quiet with other customers from what i see

[murphchapter2]

if you only see him at his job, then slip him your number or email, call him over to the cooler and ask if they have something that you know they dont stock, slip him your number and ask him to call, at that point you can have an honest straight forward conversation

[MysteriousChick93]

He's been away i think but is now back. So tomorrow i am. going to slip my number

[murphchapter2]

Lol I wish that I was him

[MysteriousChick93]

Lol why?

[murphchapter2]

Not many guys are this lucky. The thought of having a hot girl pursuing me is so hot and believe me I would never squander this opportunity

[MysteriousChick93]

Lol there's hotter women hence why iveheld. off making a move as i was unsure if i had a shot

[murphchapter2]

trust me, with your views and approach to this any guy would be lucky to have you

[MysteriousChick93]

Ah thank you