Why do girls feel so helpless around sex?

[CootiesInfection]

i always see all these questions like, its my first time giving a blowjob, what do i do? Well you suck his dick, thats what you do. You never see guys asking these type of questions. And its not like they couldn't do with a few sex tips but they're never paranoid enough to think they're incapable of something just because they've never done it and they're never too afraid of failure to actually have sex despit being the ones that are most expected to "perform". I'm pretty sick of all the girls who are always complaining about how oppressed they are cause people judge them sexually, its like, jesus christ people have been judging us sexually since before we were 10 years old but that never stopped us! You have no idea the kind of oppressive imperialist p*rn filters my parents placed on my computer, and i learned to be knoweldgable and confident about that shit despite everyone thinking i was some kind of demon child for having a penis and wanting to use it. I was like fuck you, i love titties, you can take my gameboy, you can take my freedom, but you will never take my love for titties. Why can't girls be that way about dick?

[Anonymous]

Well some girls have never done it before so... they don't know what to do lol. Just like, you wouldn't know what to do your first time... Every guy is different, just like every girl. Sure the sensation feels amazing to everyone but it's about techniques and that differs from person to person. And some girls are like you described, they're forward about what they want sexually but some girls-especially younger teenage girls are a lot more conservative with sex- it's just the way some girls are taught to be like. And yes, there are many, many guys who do have questions about sex. But guys are open to talking about it with their friends or they watch p*rn . And still, i have friends at 30 years of age who's husbands can't satisfy them sexually. Letting them put their dick in you is fine for the guy but it's a 2 way street and you have to think what pleases your partner too, and that's more complicated than just sticking it in. And i guess you haven't been harassed on the street long enough by catcalls and looked at degradingly just because you're a woman wearing shorts or wearing normal clothes to understand that it's frustrating. So yes, we are being judged sexually.

[omeglemissy69]

It's not necessarily helplessness, it can be just curiosity and trying to figure out a way to blow the guys mind. I mean you wouldn't know since it's not you who had the blowjob, before and after the tip so you can't compare, but why can't someone ask a simple question? People usually like to please, most women end up faking orgasm, because the guy can't understand it's not about just "stick it in" situation, no matter the size of it. If there is no technique then it's boring and lame... I guess you'd feel the same with a blowjob, if you can't move much and you get someone just sucking without tongue playing and those details, it would get boring for you. Guess girls that according to you feel helpless just because they ask a question just want to have an ace up their sleeve and do something really well, compared to some guys that can rub a girl dry then hump them for 3 minutes, grunt and roll off, him being satisfied, disappointing the partner. Maybe guys asking a few questions as well wouldn't be a bad idea. Just my personal thought tho

[CootiesInfection]

i'm not saying you can't ask questions, i'm just saying whats the point of joining a cooking forum to get expert tips if you've never cooked in your life. at least get in the kitchen and make a mess of things before you seek expert help. why should emril give you expert tips on how to make a souffle, if you haven't even broken a few eggs?

[omeglemissy69]

Ok. So let's take it from your cooking class example. Sure you wanna do something nice for dinner let's say, special occasion, you don't want to cook soup and fish and chips. You want to let's say make a wonderful chinese meal or Japanese on, so obviously, instead of getting everything and wasting time to ruin because you have no idea what to do, you didn't see anyone make it before so you don't know. You want some advice and help. Same with a blowjob., You might have seen your mom make a soufle so you have an idea, but you didn't see her give a blowjob to someone to have a general idea. it's not the same

[CootiesInfection]

thats assuming you have at least some experience cooking. and of course you dont watch your mom give head but if you've seen p*rn its just as well

[omeglemissy69]

you need some experience of course, but if you do something all of a sudden you don't know what to expect if you've never done it before. Guess that's what they try to do. If I'm not interested in a topic I just don't bother opening it to read, I just move along and see the others. sure from p*rn you can guess some of the movements but you don't know the suction pressure that is applied, to make sure to not bite, to play with tongue. Guess that's what they are trying to find out. But at the end of the day it all comes down to what you ARE doing, so sure tips can be asked but being in the situation will be different, that's when you'll see what to do and how to do it

[bombamboum]

You do realize that when you've never done anything sexually you're totally lost. You don't know what you're about to do. It's a huge step to take in life.
So yes, as much as those questions can be annoying after a while, I don't see why they don't have the right to ask them.

[zmonman]

I agree with this as long as it goes for guys and girls to ask these questions.

[CootiesInfection]

even a moron knows where to put it. he might not know how to put it or how fast to put it but that won't stop him from figuring that shit out for himself.

[bombamboum]

That's it, I'm reporting you. No need to be an asshole about it.

[CootiesInfection]

OHHHHH IM SO SCARED. dude why are you such a pussy. go tattle to your mommy no one cares

[bombamboum]

If you think sex if just about putting a penis in a vagina then I advise you to ask question on to know what sex is about because apparently you don't.

[CootiesInfection]

well its definitely not about juggling bowling pins

[XRabbitHeartX]

Well maybe girls just want to be good at it you know? I don't see how it's a bad thing. You should be pleased that girls want to know how to satisfy you and make you happy... far better than dealing with a guy who knows nothing about how to please a lady in the bedroom -.-

[CootiesInfection]

you know i think it would be a good thing, if it actually resulted in men being pleased.

[kheserthorpe]

Guys should be asking more, girls should ask less.

Guys don't give a crap about a girl's technique, only that she's hot and her body is good, which is why guys are constantly asking if their dick is big enough - that's how we think about sex.

Girls however care quite a bit more about male technique, and assume we're the same, which is why they're always asking for technique shit.

[CootiesInfection]

so basically girls expect us to be like them which is why they're always afraid that we're going to be judgmental sex shaming assholes

[kheserthorpe]

Girls expect us to be like them, and unsatisfied if the girl is sexually unskilled. We expect them to be like us, and unsatisfied if our bodies aren't good enough.

[Afrochick]

if our dick is big enough lmao right?

[Mesonfielde]

I think girls are not that way about penises because they are afraid of pregnancy, heh.

As for why they are so uncertain about how to do what, well I have no idea. I think it's fairly self-explanatory. Penises are far less complicated than vulva, too.

[heatherlu]

Plenty of guys on here ask questions about how girls like things. It's not just us girls. I'm sure they're very sorry for trying to make it good for their guys and feel suitable chastised and will never go to efforts to better their sexual skill set ever again.

[SexyTexas]

LMFAO "I was like fuck you, i love titties, you can take my gameboy, you can take my freedom, but you will never take my love for titties." Thank you for the laugh of the day!!!

Girls are taught to be chaste, but google girlsaskguys penis size & that amount of questions from guys is alarming lol!

[CootiesInfection]

yes that is true, but to their credit, girls always say size is not a factor until they need immasculating ammunition

[linkywinky]

So you're shaming females for wanting to know how to be the best they can be, in order to give you the best head they can give you?

... allllllright.

[CootiesInfection]

i'm not shaming anyone. see this is exactly what is so fucking stupid about girls. always pointing fingers like LOOK! LOOK! THAT PERSON IS SHAMING ME. LOOK HOW BAD THEY ARE. everywhere you go, someone is going to shame you for something. grow the fuck up and learn not to give a fuck. so what if i am?

[linkywinky]

You're not shaming me, I never said you were shaming me personally. Calm down, yo.

[CootiesInfection]

dildo.

[LondonElle]

You lack empathy and the knowledge that not everyone is you. Considering the amount of venom in your question this really effects you and it really shouldn't.

[CootiesInfection]

OH MY JESUS THERE IS VENOM IN MY QUESTION AND I AM TRYING TO POISON YOU

[LondonElle]

The point is it's poisoning you.

[CHARismatic110]

Lmao tell em why you mad son!

Hence why males and females are different. We'd rather gain some insight and some knowledge so that when the time comes to get down to business, we are prepared. As opposed to just diving in head first (no pun intended) and "figuring it out" as you go along.

Males and females are wired differently. Period. Come on bruh, buy a vowel and get a clue already!

[JackKerouac77]

Well gosh, dude. You've just got it all figured out.

And so humble too! :)

[oldanddecrepid]

I think there are a lot of guys out there that should be asking more questions... guys tend to think we know everything about sex bc we are guys! Guys are exposed to p*rn ... which supposedly makes us experts lol.

Whereas, most girls are not exposed to p*rn , so it is more common for young women not to know as much. So that is why they are asking stuff on here.

[CootiesInfection]

well p*rn is like an action movie lmao. does it actually show you how to shoot a gun and kill mobsters? No. but when it actually comes time to hold your first gun and shoot some motherfuckers, you get figure out what about those movies was totally full of shit. and if you're wrong, you die, whereas with sex, the worst thing that can happen is you cum too soon and fall asleep on top of them

[Taffi]

"most girls are not exposed to porn". I'm sorry, but this isn't true at all. Most girls have watched p*rn at some point in their teenage years.

[CootiesInfection]

yea sure they do. they just lie about it more

[oldanddecrepid]

Sure they are exposed to it... but not like guys are.

[I_M_LEGEND]

people here are often inexperienced. This is why I chuckle when a 20 yr old tries to give me advice on relationships or imply how money or looks don't or shouldn't matter. I feel like smacking them and know they'd prob get their heart broken with those beliefs.

[CootiesInfection]

yes perhaps its down to the fact that everyone expects teenage girls to be the experienced ones at sex, and they feel they need to maintain this illusion that they actually know what the fuck they're doing

[Anonymous]

I agree with you. But I also think that it depend from the personality. It's the people's need to be like the norm, like what others do it's the best. Maybe sex comes more naturally to guys, some girls don't masturbate and haven't experienced orgasm.