They're shallow because they can be. They have so many men messaging them, and many of them are probably better looking, taller, and make more money. I got told that my height was an issue by a few (I've never let that bother me though) and a few wouldn't meet me because I didn't drive, even though they didn't drive either. Then when I did drive, they wouldn't meet me because it was an inexpensive car. That's just how a lot of the women on there are, and that's probably why they get fucked & chucked and end up single, bitter, and constantly end up coming on and off of the site.
As for being nice, I got no responses being nice. So I wrote my profile to sound like an arrogant asshole, but in a funny way. I basically said that it wasn't getting a girl that was the problem, it was finding one that could keep me interested. I said I don't like fat feminists or girls with short hair. And I said "if that sounds arrogant, it is. Go and have a cry to someone else, there are plenty of soppy guys here desperate for a girlfriend, they'll enjoy your attention". All of a sudden I started getting messages. Some told me I was funny, others told me I was an arsehole, but yet all of them talked to me and gave me their numbers where they wouldn't before. My girlfriend called me ignorant and said I sounded like a twat lol.
So basically the answer is bitches be cray.1 0 1 0Well I am glad it worked for you (sort of), but I couldn't bring myself to that level. No offence intended.
Interesting. Last message I sent to a girl and got a response back (yesterday) was pretty douchee, basically made fun of her profile and called her a crazy hot cat lady. I only did that bc I was bored and she was really hot so I figured it didn't matter what I messaged to her since she wasn't going to respond anyway. Almost all of my messages are the complete opposite of that and I rarely get a reply.
@guy532 - that's all I ever used to do, take the piss out of them in a funny way. I think it works because it's more fun than the usual boring messages, and it makes you seem like more of a challenge because it shows that you're not desperately trying to get laid and you're not a kiss ass. The reason I got written to more with my arrogant profile was that it provoked emotional responses from women, they either found me funny or they got mad. The thing is you can turn even a negative emotional reaction around into a positive if you know what you're doing, but you can't turn indifference around. If you don't provoke any sort of emotional response and you just sound like a normal boring guy she's going to quickly forget you and move on. Instead I say things that make people laugh and ask "how dare he say something like that? Is he serious? Who does he think he is?"
Women control the dating site world...
and by that I mean, guys will try and girls can sit back and have nothing to do with them. To stand out from all the nimrods just trying to get in their pants you have to show them what your really like in your profile. Try to get break away from the standard stuff and open up as to who you are. That will make you standout in a crowd of men.
My second point is, girls are way more picky when it comes to online dating. It is nothing for a reasonably good looking woman with values to just sit back and enjoy all the suitors that drop her messages. It is much easier to be very selective when you are looking onscreen and lots of guys are after you. So it may look like they are being a snob, when in realty, they are in no real hurry and just looking for their Mr. Perfect that fits all their criteria.
In reality, they should be saying... okay I am going to select two guys this week and go on a date, and see if one "clicks", rather than staying at home with their computer months on end, still looking for Mr. Perfect!0 0 0 0
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Okay, so I was on that exact site. That is actually where I met my fiance. But before that happened... Even the nice guys can flip. So I think girls just start to be really REALLY cautious. I had multiple incidents that started out great and as soon as I gave out my personal number, things went bad. Guys were so nice and sweet online and then two texts into a conversation offline, it was "can i see a naked pic" Jeez. It really isn't you. That site has millions of members and about 75% are creeps. I had a really great profile that I thought was everything that would explain what I wanted and who I was but I still kept getting creeps. Then I had a friend look at it and he re-wrote it to sound nothing like me and sound a little bitchy lol and I got soooo many responses. Its kinda like a resume, the shorter the better. Point out the best things, the eye catchers and leave some mystery. Girls love that shit.
1 0 0 0You are doing the right thing about being nice. Most of those sites have people that are not right in the head. They won't be able to trust if they have unresolved issues. It's tough finding nice people on dating sites. Keeping their interest is hard also because women have a lot of men messaging them. Keep trying. There are some normal nice women on there. I met my husband on date hook up. Know that's a friggin miracle! Lol that is a super sleazy site.
1 1 0 2I am glad it worked out for you.
All i got from this was , "women dont like me, therefore they are bitches"
0 1 0 1Wrong, you misunderstood. I understand and appreciate the fact that some women may not find me attractive, which is fair enough. I just don't understand their mentality, where they are constantly being harassed by other perverted men, and that they say that they want to meet a decent and honourable man. Then when someone decent like me comes along who pretty much satisfies most of their checklist of desirable qualities, who also does treat them with respect and dignity. then what do they do, they ignore me. They are not obligated to contact me, but seriously, what's the harm in exchanging a few messages.
Women really don't owe you an explanation. If they don't want to message you, its no big deal.. Besides, say they did message you to be polite but weren't interested in you, would you then claim they were leading you on and being a tease?
You're right they don't owe me an explanation, and yes I think it would be bad for them to lead me on, for the sake of being nice. All I saying here is that, women should not be so quick to write someone off. Seriously, you should see some of the profiles, they are bitching how there are no decent guys out there and are practically crying for a nice guy to come and chat to them. If our positions were reverse, and if I was a girl who was being messaged, by dozens of disgusting perverted men, and then all of sudden, someone nice and decent starts to take an interest, I would give him some of my time. And after a few exchange of messages, I would determine whether or not I feel a connection with him, and then act accordingly. I do understand what you are saying, but all I am suggesting is that some women, should take a chance, what do they have to lose?
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2 4since we're on this subject can some of you girls give me an honest opinion of my profile?
https://www.okcupid.com/profile/ilovedesk1
The crappy part is that there's hardly any girls that use dating sites in brisbane :(0 0 0 0Could you maybe post an example of a message you would send a woman?
1 1 0 2I know that every woman on the site is probably being messaged by dozens of guys (if not more). The last thing that I want to do is pressure someone onto chatting with me. I can't remember a message word for word, but I would say something like "Hello
Just "Hello"?
No it didn't display the whole message. I'll usually say Hello
For one, POF is a cesspool of whales, single moms, and damaged goods.
For two, online dating has so many thirsty men and so many trawlers mass messaging, it both bores and massively inflates the egos of a lot of women.0 0 1 0I am kind of getting that feeling. Would you recommend any other dating site?
okcupid isn't as bad. i've met a couple decent girls off it.
Thanks. Much appreciated.
Why are men so perverted and assholes when it comes to online dating?
1 1 0 3That's a good question, I wish I knew the answer. But we are not all like that, you do know that, right?
fishing :D
0 0 0 0when it comes to everything. not just online dating..
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