You know, if I'm on a diet, and I really want a cupcake, and maybe people around me are pressuring me to just go ahead and eat one, but I choose to abstain, then I feel proud of myself.
What I'm getting at is: If you think that staying a virgin (say, until you're married) is important, and you really want to have sex, and you feel a lot of pressure to have sex (from other people, or from society at large), but you resist that temptation and pressure, I think it's cool to be proud of yourself.
But I don't think it's fair to compare yourself to other people and judge other people.
Not everyone has the same beliefs about abstaining. Not everyone faces the same kinds of internal temptation or external pressures. Not everyone has the same experiences and opportunities.
Like, if someone who *isn't* on a diet eats a cupcake, should they feel ashamed about it? If someone has no desire to eat the cupcake, should they feel proud for not eating it? If there are no cupcakes around, should the person feel proud for not eating one? Eating a cupcake or not eating a cupcake doesn't have the same meaning for every person.
So yeah, I think it's fine to be proud of yourself to sticking to a goal that you've set, such as a goal is to abstain from sex, but I don't think anyone should feel superior for being a virgin (nor for not being a virgin).
... I really love cupcakes and sex. :/
Lol I love the cupcake comparison.
This deserves MHO and bookmarking for future reference. Very well said.
lol, i wouldn't say I'm special compared to others individually, but i look at it as being special in terms of, "i'm gonna b a guy's first and last one day" or "I'm waiting on mr right". not to say that non virgins dont think like that, but I don't know, maybe it's also cuz it's something people dont expect from me, and i like being different to what people thought i was.
i think ur final remark was a little sad tho. to some girls it's not "just a DICK".
Who knows. Personally, I dislike anyone with superiority complexes regarding their virginity status. Having sex or not having sex doesn't make anyone special. I tend to just roll my eyes and laugh when I see anyone (virgin or non-virgin) acting like they're better than others just because of that.
I agree.
Sex is one of the most pleasurable thing for a human being. Holding yourself on for that special pleasure might be considered something special but then again people masturbate and attain at least a sense of that pleasure. So being a virgin is not a big deal today. I am a virgin and i am neither proud of it nor ashamed. I think its ones personal choice to have sex at what point of their lives. Having said that dear sex is surely not just having a dick or pussy its way more then that. We are called social animals for a reason.
Well girls have a reason to be proud - since they are the ones who in the end decide if they're gonna have sex. Guys have sex when they can, not when they want. I'm a virgin and I have been told that I'm a loser, yet if I was a girl, people would commend me for not "putting out."
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Heh, i've never met anyone like that but you have to remember it does go both ways. As i was reading this it made me think of several promiscuous people i know who have talked down on people who are still virgins. Both sides to anything are going to have those extreme nuts. Have to ignore them and move on.
It is interesting to compare the opinions of the guys with those of the girls. There is a strong theme among the guys that pride in virginity is justified. While among the girls the sense is that pride attached to either virginity or its loss is foolish.
I side with the girls on this one. Its not virginity that is on trial here but pride, and pride is what should lose its appeal.
I would also point out that while lust is one of the noted 7 deadly sins, pride is also a member of that group. Ironic it is to commit one sin in boasting about not committing another.
I just LOL'd. I've never seen any virgins that act like that, but who knows. Just ignore them.
I actually used to be very embarrassed by it. Where I'm from, most girls rather brag about how many guys they've slept with in a month
I don't get why people make such a big deal out of either? It's just sex. But personally I want to do it with someone I love and ideally he's the only one I ever do it with.
I've seen the heartbreak and insecurity that comes with sleeping around and it's not for me
ahhahahahahahaha well say it next time you meet one
Though its something to be proud off, they stayed away from something that most people couldnt
If someone thinks they are better than others simply because they haven't had sex yet, they sure don't have a lot going on with their lives
lmao you're something else. I think because it's so rare now and unlike other girls they don't spread them faster than the google homepage. just shows they have more respect for themselves and don't give it away to the first person they think they love.
Virginity was (and still is) valued in religion and now it is in society. Virginity is seen as being more pure, like the girl has been untouched and untainted by sex. People give them props for holding out. Personally, I don't think it's that special and I pity anyone that feels they're more valuable because they're still a virgin.
Doesn't matter it's just your opinon no need to pick on people
I don't have a problem with virgins until they start to act like they're holier-than-thou. Like you being a virgin doesn't make you better than me. Can't fully blame them tho. Seems like people place them on a pedastool.
Because we've saving ourselves for that special someone like God intended. Having sex with a different person every week cheapens sex so much.
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never seen that. everyone I know doesn't want to be and sets a deadline for themself
It means they got a strong will. Anyone can lose their virginity but few can hold it.
When I was a virgin, I just felt good about it. When I lost it, it was in one of the worst possible ways you could do it. Don't worry, it wasn't rape, it just, well, wasn't really how I wanted to lose it. Your first time, is supposed to be special
the oversexualised craziness that the rest of the society experiences... its good to not go with the masses...
They are proud that they have not resorted to having sex just because society says they should. I commend them. And you are probably just jealous. They can wake up every day and say i am not a dirty pirate Hooker and i have morals.
Losing virginity is trend in America...
Government has imposed penalties on virgins?
Well I'm not proud of my virginty but I'm not ashamed either. I guess that some feel proud or special because sex is everywhere today, it's not hard to find sex anymore.
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