Should I cancel my date with a girl I really like because I have a small penis?

[Anonymous]

Because this girl is beautiful and I'm only 4 inches long erect and my girth is like between 4 and 5 too. It's really embarrasing and I think she deserves better. I wish I was at least 5 inches since she's only 5'1 in height but having a 4 inch penis isn't nice. A girl is better off with a dildo than a 4 inch dick. I've read girls say that no girl likes a small penis and when girls do say they have enjoyed a small penis, they are actually lying. Plus, I don't want to be the butt of her jokes among her and her female friends if they talk about me because we all know girls tell each other how big or small the guys they have been with are. I didn't ask her out to get in her pants by the way. I asked her out for a serious relationship. I'm really interested in her and if we get in the position of having sex, I'm afraid she might be highly disappointed because of my small dick so I feel like calling off the date to save the embarassment. Also it might be for her own good.

[DarahG]

Well.. I believe there are other ways you could bring pleasure to a woman. One of them being the "emotional" pleasure. If you truly love her, she will love you back no matter the size of your.. You know :P you can also learn how to use your hands, lips and tongue to bring her the max pleasure you can in between the sheets, and toys would also help... But I wouldn't care much about size, and I really mean it. If all girls were as superficial as you think half of the guys would be virgins haha

For example (and don't hate on me ppl). Look at chinese guys. Their average size if pretty low and they're 20% of the world's population. You don't get to that point without having sex haha

[JHAYES317]

@darahg 60% of young men are actually not having sex so…

[genessy0127]

dude chill down out of 10 girls 8 don't care about the size besides if you have good sex she won't mind if its long or not and hey i hope she's as beautiful from the outside like in the inside because a true girl knows size isn't something important i prefer a nice smart responsible funny guy with a average peni* than a lame guy with a large one don't work be confident :)

[genessy0127]

don't worry*

[Asker]

"i prefer a nice smart responsible funny guy with a average peni* than a lame guy with a large one" I'm talking about a small penis here, not an average penis.

[Asker]

Not to sound rude but I'd love to be average rather than small.

[genessy0127]

hey send me chat i can give you some advice haha :* and no your not being rude and for God saint size doesn't matter believe me

[Asker]

It's alright. I've decided that I'm going to cancel it. Thanks for trying to help though :)

[JHAYES317]

@genessy0127 that still leaves 2/10 who do…getting rejected 1/5 times would still suck

[lumos]

Waaaah waaah waah. I agree, don't go on a date with her. Not because of your penis, though, but because you clearly aren't ready for a serious and adult relationship.

[Asker]

You seem to have a lot of upvotes from girls. I guess a wiser decision for me is to cancel it.

[lumos]

Yeah. Please grow up and realize that a relationship doesn't revolve around your penis.

[Asker]

There are many posts on the internet where women have said they called off their relationship because they couldn't get any sexual satisfaction from their partners due to their size.

[lumos]

And those are equally immature.

[Asker]

Thanks for the help.

[cyberrr]

Would you call a woman who is insecure about her own weight immature?

[Asker]

@cyberrr Exactly cyberrr. She literally has no clue what we have to go through.

[lumos]

@cyberrr and asker, yeah, if she's so insecure about her weight that she actually cancels a date with a guy who clearly is interested enough to GO ON A DATE WITH HER... Yes, I would call her immature too.

[Asker]

Guys already know about her weight because it's visible. Girls don't because they expect the guy to be at least average.

[lumos]

So? And as far as I'm concerned, girls who are serious about dating are more interested in getting to know your personality first. If you have a great personality then they will be able to overlook some physical "flaws". Plus there are TONS of amazing things you can do in bed that barely even have anything to do with your penis. Your penis is not everything.

[JHAYES317]

@lumos ok but what if the guy has a shitty personality?

[Anonumus]

Here is the real truth.

You have to do the best for your self. So , yes go out and meet girls. Your penis will defensively play factor for girls to stay with you so at one point you have to re-arrange the way you see and evaluate yourself when it come to sex.
Now small penis means that you can do sex just the same , but there will be less number of women that will accept it. That also means that there always be women that wouldn't have just a big issue with your small penis.

You just have to try more , to be better in many other aspects and at the end you might find yourself in a house with a beautiful lady making love everyday.

[thomas24]

Focus on pleasuring her in other ways than using your dick.
Use your toungue. Go down on her, without any thoughts of her returning the favor.
Don't forget the rest of her body, you can incorporate the perineum into your oral sex.
It can take women longer to come than men, and many women are anxious about this. Whatever you do, don't make her feel bad about how long it's taking, and hang in there for the long haul.

If you are master of Cunnilingus and willing to set her pleasure higher than yours, she will not care about whether your dick is 4 or 5 inches - and the story she tells her female friends will be about your toungue.

[tinyclit]

You know there's way more to sex than penis in vagina sexual intercourse. Many women don't get anything out of that sort of sex anyway. Oral sex is the best sex there is. Penis size doesn't matter all that much for oral sex, somewhat bigger or somewhat smaller are all a-okay for oral sex. The clitoris cares way more about how strong your tongue is than your penis size.

[JHAYES317]

@tinyclit I mean true…but that’s like saying, “you suck at this?” “Ok don’t bother trying at all, do something else instead”

[Hinata01]

Dude, if she likes you for who you are, penis size should not matter! Rest aside, it's all about the motion In the ocean. if this makes you feel better, your size is able to penetrate her G spot, giving her total satisfaction with the action. I know that a man's pride correlates to his penis size, but if you can make her feel good in bed, you're sex life will not suffer and she will stay with you cause she'll love you unconditionally.

[Asker]

If I can make her feel good in bed? I'm not sure if that's possible with my size.

[Hinata01]

Like I said before, it's all about the motion in the ocean. From your case, you'll never know unless you actually have sex with her. Don't think about this too much at this point in your relationship with her. When you get to that stage, try out some different positions and see if she likes it. I'm 5'0 and I enjoy our passionate time with my bf. He's also small in size but I don't care. If he makes me feel good emotionally, then our sex should be good as well. I love him for himself as a person. And we're sextile together for 3 years

[Hinata01]

And we're still together for 3 years****** I apologize for any grammar and structural errors. I'm typing this from a tablet and it likes to auto correct me a lot

[Asker]

I'm canceling it. Thanks for the help though. A girl telling me to cancel has the most upvotes from girls.

[JHAYES317]

@hinata01 motion of the ocean doesn’t mean much if a guy is below a certain length because they will keep falling out

[kheserthorpe]

It's enough to hit her g spot. Angles. Angles are your friend.

[Asker]

Can you explain the angles to me please?

[kheserthorpe]

Do you know where the g spot is?

[Asker]

3 inches deep from what I hear. Not too sure.

[kheserthorpe]

At most is say. But do you know where? Like which side?

[Asker]

I have no idea.

[kheserthorpe]

Alright if you think of the vagina going in, there's a 'front' wall which is closer to her belly button, and a 'back' wall closer to her ass. Is that making sense? The g spot is on the front wall, a couple inches in. It is not super sensitive if she's not aroused. But it can become the most sensitive area INSIDE the vagina. So she's going to get the most out of penetration with positions where the head of your penis is rubbing with increased pressure on that side of her vagina. Rear entry tends to do this more. Add some rubbing her clit at the same time.

[BigGuy8]

Unless she made it clear she wants to see a big penis in your pants on your date, why would you cancel it? The date is not about your penis.

[Jellybeansr]

Don't sweat it man. If she likes you she'll look past it.
I have no boobs and I could tell he was disappointed at first but he still stuck around.

[Asker]

Boobs don't matter when it comes to sexual penetration but a penis does.

[Jellybeansr]

Penis length doesn't define sex. It's all about where you put your mouth really. You can do a lot of stuff. Like suck on her breasts. Besides blowjobs will be more fun for both of you trust me

[JHAYES317]

@jellybeansr do you literally have no boobs?

[thewanderingme]

for goodness sakes, NO! stop being silly about the size. most women don't really care as long as there's real emotion/connection between the two of you.

[JHAYES317]

@thewanderingme but there are still some women who do care…and it’s not worth the pain of rejection…

[jdfarmer]

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[get-shrekt]

definitely not! if she is disappointed, explain to her that you'll do your best to make her feel good, even if that means bringing other toys into the bedroom (actually, there have been studies that show that size has no negative effect on her pleasure, or yours, for that matter). dont feel ashamed or embarrassed. your dick isn't you.

[miserybusiness]

Waaaah waaah waah. I agree, don't go on a date with her. Not because of your penis, though, but because you clearly aren't ready for a serious and adult relationship.

[Asker]

Yeah. I'm canceling it.

[miserybusiness]

Yeah. Please grow up and realize that a relationship doesn't revolve around your penis.

[Asker]

You pretty much copy pasted lumos' comment.

[miserybusiness]

You seem to have a lot of upvotes from girls. I guess a wiser decision for me is to cancel it.

[JHAYES317]

@miserybusiness do you have an alt another girl said the exact same lines

[Kiwifun]

It's not about the penis, it's about you

[akadatank44]

Nah dude you'll be fine. Get to know her first. Don't bring up sex for awhile. You are thinking way to much about this. She will like you for you first

[Asker]

I hope so but almost all girls expect guys to be at least average, if not big.

[akadatank44]

Listen to the lovely ladies on here they know what they are saying. I recommend you stop thinking about it. Size matters more to gals than to girls. She will work with you at that point in time.

[Asker]

I'm canceling it. Thanks for answering. I listened to the lady who I gave the MHO with the most upvotes.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Ok, you have three options.

1. You tell her straight off the bat about your size.

2. You tell her about your size after a few dates of getting to know her to see if you want to tell her your size.

3. You don't go out with her and live in "what if" land for the rest of your life.

I personally think #2 is good

[Pete671]

If she likes you for you it won't matter, worst case scenario is that you'd be giving her friends a good laugh,

[GoldCobra]

Actually, I've read questions on here about girls complaining their partner's size is too big. I rememeber this one girl posted a question and said she can't even stick 2 of her fingers inside without it hurting her.

[bipolarmilly]

Do not cancel

[Fetastrophe]

Go on the date and give it your all. By give it your all, I don't mean all of your money, I just mean to be real with yourself. Know what you want, how to properly go for it and make it happen. Bang to impress.

[Anonymous]

2 inches is pathetic go and uppercut yourself

[Anonymous]

You should go on date but your size will be an issue in bed. The only option for you is to accept that you have a disadvantage when it comes to sex but if a woman , for any reason , is ok with you , then just don't ask much , support her and build an honest relationship.

I really cannot tell you if a woman will or will not accept your small penis , nobody can. Still the answer of what to do is actually the most simple. You expose yourself and leave the woman to judge for herself. Even if you feel that you have the worst problem when it comes for a relationship you still have to act normally and give even the last chance to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Look on the bright side, she won't be scared of anal.

[Anonymous]

you do realize penetrative sex isn't as good for females as it is for males at ANY penis length right? 4 inches isn't a big deal, if you were 2 inches i would understand so just learn how to be good at oral sex and you'll have her wrapped around your little finger.