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Do men get bored of a woman's body if its not "ideal" or just bored in general?

This is how it happened I was in one committed relationship for 9 years I have small breasts like (in-between an A and a B) My boyfriend always said he loved them and I had no insecurities I felt good not overly good but I felt loved and comfortable 5 years in to the relationship he told me I would be hotter with bigger he was drunk so it slipped out Basically killed my soul and sex was painful emotionally it felt weird when he touched me, this went away after a few moths but I never forgot what he said and I began to feel insecure, id often bring it up and question him. We break up after 9 years for other reasons (he was immature didn’t want to be responsible, do drugs) that was 6 months ago. Anyway he told me last night that he went to a party and felt up some giant tits and realized he liked mine, but for the last couple years of our relationship he started craving bigger breasts because of my insecurities. The ones he created so im just really depressed about this, I don’t know what to think. I feel used. Im afraid this is just normal for guys and this is what happens if you have small breasts, he just gets bored?
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  • I think chics wit small tits ask these questions as a SHIT TEST to see who the quality status alpha males are and who the beta males are. haha. They secretly like when the guy wants bigger tits, because in her mind, that makes him look like he is higher quality alpha male (and when you think about it, it's true). The beta dudes don't really mind (or claim not to mind). Just something I've noticed in the past (I've been with tons of women, of all types, which is how I recognized this).

    No matter how many compliments chics wit small tits get, they'll ALWAYS feel insecure and inferior to chics wit bigger tits, and I hate to be an asshole (okay, maybe not, because my asshole ways do get me laid the most haha), but it's true, guys will always want bigger than a B cup. I'm Tall, hot, successful, big cock and can get pretty much any woman I want, which I usually choose least a C cup.

    It's a 'status' thing, even women want a dude who has some muscles and has a bigger than average cock (women who say size doesn't matter are lying and we ALL know it). It's the same with dudes and tits. The average or below average beta dudes may not mind as much, but higher status alpha males will choose women with bigger breasts. Just the way it is.

    I've even noticed that I'm subconsciously more of a rough prick in the sack wit women who have smaller tits. Ironically, they seem to love that shit though (like a degradation fetish or something). They know subconsciously that I can get a higher status female with bigger breasts, so they try harder to please in the sack and do more of what I want. One plus I'll give here though, it does seem smaller breasted chics have tighter pussies.

    But aside from that, I think most guys if given the choice would definitely choose a woman wit bigger breasts. He may tell you that it doesn't matter, while secretly checkin out the chic at the next table wit big knockers. It's just like if most women were given the choice, they'd choose a dude wit a bigger cock. They may tell their boyfriend or husband size doesn't matter, while secretly having a fantasy of a guy wit a bigger package. SIZE DOES MATTER! But you're welcome to try and change my mind on that. I'm in Northern California (near SF) and I'm a successful dude. Get at me if you're up for the challenge. ;)

  • Your boyfriend was a fool for getting drunk and letting one comment slip from his mouth.

    Every person is aware of the flaws in their partner. Giving voice to that knowledge serves no good purpose.

    However, his comment, no matter how insensitive, was a single event. Your insecurities are what killed the relationship.

    You placed a responsibility on your boyfriend that no man could meet. You required of him that he find you to be his ideal and that he never let you suspect otherwise. If he failed in this mission... even once, you would begin to withdraw from him and blame him for the loss of intimacy.

    Rather than need him for validation, you should find value and attractiveness and sexiness in yourself. When you see yourself this way, it is easy for any man to find you attractive. How much more easy would it be then for a man who already gives you his love?

    It is not his job to make you feel good about yourself. That is your job and only your job. Offloading this responsibility onto your partner may feel good in the short term but it leaves you vulnerable to exactly the outcome you experienced.

    You are like a leaky bucket that can only remain full by constantly filling it. Better to repair the holes in your self conception. Then love that is poured into you can finally feel like abundance.

    • good criticism -thanks

    • You are welcome.

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  • He shouldn't

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  • All men, I truly believe, build up a mental image of their perfect girl. As they experience more things with different girls, that image will change. They will probably never meet that girl, she is just a figment of his imagination. He will gradually lean that there are more important issues than physical ones. Things like personality, little character traits, things that just can't be defined etc etc. Simple little things like the way a girl tilts her head when she talks to you. Some small things like that can be so attractive, sexy even. These become more important that size of breasts, size of bum etc. If a guy truly loves you, he will never get bored with you, certainly not with your body or the way you look. There will always be something else that will show he never really loved you in the first place.

  • I'm so sorry you're in so much pain. Your reaction is disproportionate to what he said. You might have said you'd like his to be bigger. If you said that to me, I'd tell you, "Get used to it, woman. It's through growing."

    I feel confident that you'd benefit enormously from some therapy for you wounded self image. It was injured long before you met him. He just exacerbated the issue. Get a little help and I think you'll be amazed at how much better you feel about yourself.

  • Women don't have to be our ideal, anymore than a man has to be a woman's ideal. Lets say you love the way your man looks, but think he would look even better with bigger biceps. It doesn't mean you are going to lose interest just because he isn't ideal on one body part.

    I understand you being upset. There are a lot of things that guys and girls are sensitive about and he drunkenly said something hurtful one night. That doesn't mean that he didn't love your breasts. Guys generally like all breast sizes, even if they aren't our ideal size.

    There is nothing wrong with smaller breasts. A lot of guys actually prefer smaller breasts, and no I am not just saying that to make you feel better. The preferences that guys have varies a lot more than the media would have you believe. There is no perfect woman, and there is no perfect breast size.

    People do often prefer to look at something different once in a while, but it doesn't mean we don't love what we have at home, or that we want to cheat.

  • ideal varies fromvguy to guy basically...

    • so he lied to me from the beginning, or got bored?

  • if I truly really liked and cared about a girl, and we were together for a long time, and we just clicked and everything, I would never get bored with her body or anything else about her.

  • *Your* man got bored. Not all men.

    I love small boobs. I want small boobs. I've tried all different shapes and sizes and like small ones the best.

  • Tbh I'd say he lied from the beginning, and he saw past that for your personality. I'm a small breast lover and will never get bored of my gf's or suddenly want a gf with bigger breasts

    • well i need to find a guy like you then, im so happy they exist i can see why i think small breasts do age better, some good some bad in most things in life. And we smaller breasted ladys need love and affection too

    • Glad that helped, and we do exist! Honestly, ditch the push up bras and pretense, just wear clothes that hug your figure and you'll have us guys queuing up! Good news too as my preference for small boobs has nothing to do with 'these will look good in 10 years time', it's based on the here and now but it's good to know!!

  • I like small boobs. Right around your size, between an A and B cup. I get bored for other reasons.

  • I think it's personal, I really like every kind of body in a woman if she is not morbid obese and she is attractive in some way for me, but not all men are like myself.

  • I find big breasts less appealing than large ones. If the girl was amazing I'd accept larger ones but I prefer smaller ones. That's just me though.

    • Smaller ones*

  • The harsh truth is that we all do, no matter how hot the woman's body is.

    Even when in rat experiments, the males reach orgasm much more quickly when they are copulating with a brand new female, versus a female that they've lived and copulated with before.

    • so do you not ever want to get married or what do you expect by age 30-35?

    • When did I say anything suggesting that?

    • well generally that means dead end road on the vagina quest, one forever...

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  • Surprisingly, while it might be like you think, I'm actually more relieved when her breasts are small to non-existent because no bra's no fear of squishing her chest into the mattress during rough backdoor sex and it makes everything more fun just to feel such a unique body over and over again.

    For me personally I wanted to celebrate it genuinely and heartfelt like this and this is a body positive message; once you go flat you don't go back. I love flat women ,,😊💕😊

  • We get bored after a while with a girl simply because there are new vaginas we haven't seen yet.
    It has nothing to do with how pretty you are or how pretty another girl might be in reference to you, it is simply a case of "I've seen this one, but I haven't seen that one"

    • ok then why do men get married? and how do you think it would play out, for you if you did?

    • Social obligation. We are expected to, told it is what we are suppose to do since childhood. I am married, it turns us into house cats, looking out the window at all the free cats having fun and doing what they want while we have all of our freedoms taken from us. We anestitize ourselves with p*rn and conform because if we don't, we are shamed by society for making an effort to do something that makes us happy for a change.

    • perhaps you got married too young, do you feel it will end in divorce? and is desiring other women the only reason?

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  • I watch a different women in p*rn videos every time. Actually I can't watch the same woman more than once.

    • so what about getting married one day? do you beleive you can love a woman, or is that different than sex?

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