This is a tough one... if he's stressed out at work, or life, or even has low testosterone it's going to lower his sex drive. And, this might be hard to tell, but any p*rno surfing is going to also lower his labido... kinda like it drains his sexual urges.
But all things being equal I would say this...
1) What are you doing to be receptive to his aggression? Or maybe worded better... what are you doing to invite him to be dominant?
I ask this because I found that with my ex-wife I had this same issue... she was an accountant and had to be "masculine" in her work, and would come home being masculine and dominant in her life.
So if you want to inspire his inner beast to show up then you have to attract it out of him by being the most feminine and submissive (but only in a sexy way) that will turn him on.
Things guys might like:
- purposely acting girly, dainty, helpless, and in need of his help. Think of role playing, like an actress. This means smelling good, looking good, and softly touching him while whispering in his ear. The idea is to show him that you're turned on by him.
2) Help him to see that you're not going to reject him, especially outside of the bedroom. If you're overly critical of him in regular life it'll carry over into the bedroom. So be soft and gentle and loving of every little thing he does, if you think this might be the case.
3) Work out with him. Like jogging, or chasing frizbee's. Get sweaty together. Get his heart racing. And hug and kiss him. Hang all over him like a school girl with a crush.
4) Don't nag him, like it's a chore. Instead be sensitive about your questions, but loving and direct. If you're curious about his views on your sex life then he might be more willing to open up. It's not about judgements, it's about sharing.
5) hmmm... maybe warm him up with a blojob? :D
~ Robby
I had a woman that wanted me to be really agressive. Like she wanted me to pull her hair but super hard. and once she asked me to choke her.
I pulled her hair as hard as I was comfortable doing. But no chance I was going to choke her. I just am not that kind of person. I would be very afraid of hurting her. plus, with the messed up laws today she could call the police, they could see mark on her neck and take me to jail. screw that.
Some people, men or women, just are not comfortable being someone they are not. So I would suggest maybe starting small and building up from there. but you have to be patient. You also need to decide how important this is to you. Is it worth your marriage? because some people don't have that in them. Like my girlfriend wants me to be louder. But that is going to be forced for me. plus it distracts me and causes me problems with either cumming or keeping my erection since I have to take myself out of the moment to worry about volume or what to say.
he may not want it, he may not be able to do what you want. but if he is willing to try is the key point. so see if you can do small stuff and work up to what you want.
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Thank you very much that was very helpful
Since I wrote it, I can safely say my pleasure. Send along any questions. Buy him a paddle for when you're that proverbial Bad Girl.
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While you are having sex just make him feel that it's fine that he won't hurt you, but like i said tell him while you guys are doing it that way he most likely will get caught up n the moment and be more aggressive.
Punch his dick :)
Marry someone else! Hohohohohohoho!
Tell him while he's inside you that you fucked his best buddy. Maybe he will go ape wild
Omg that's funny and awesome it coulf definitely go onr of two ways though
Yea. Could go either way. Take a chance. Goes wrong way own up to it just being nonscence then he will definitely go ape wild. Maybe even rape you. Woop woop
Have you tried beating hm over the head with a 2x4 during your private session? I can't guarantee he will get aroused but that will definitely bring out the aggression in him!!! :D
I was thinking more of a hard slap across the face might help
LOL! I was only joking. Instead of slapping him, have you talked to him to be more aggressive towards you?
Tried that, it hasn't worked
Kick him in the balls repeatedly.
I don't think that will help lol
Then a pillowfight. I think you need some playfighting of some sort.
Lol fight yes not sure a pillow would be helpful
Your profile pic was nice I think you love your husband very much he is very lucky.
And he also loving in the same way that is why he is not aggressive so just say him that I love if my gun dominates me then he will do anything for his dear.
Good luck
some guys are simply not aggressive and can't function in that capacity, its called submissive, lol yes I know you know what that means, but what it really means is that your looking for something that isn't there. Would he allow a 3 way? It could be your treat every now and then, but you would need to make sure that he could handle watching someone bang you.
from his face, can't imagine that he is not aggressive in bed
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