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How can I tell my boyfriend I want to call him "daddy" during sex? How would you respond if your girlfriend wanted to call you "daddy"?

I'm very submissive in bed. I've been trying to get my boyfriend to be more dominate during sex, and he's pretty open to everything I've suggested so far. It's not that he's not into it or anything, he's just inexperienced (i'm his first girlfriend etc). I've been very open and comfortable with talking to him about stuff so far, but I feel like the daddy thing could be easily misunderstood. I like the idea of calling him daddy because I find "master" or "sir" too harsh, while "daddy" is the right amount of dominating and sweet. It also has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with incest/my actual father etc. It's just a sub/dom thing. Since he doesn't seem to be "naturally" into the BDSM thing, I'm scared he won't understand the idea or think it's weird I want to call him daddy. How should I bring it up? What should I do if he thinks it's weird? How do I explain it to him?
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  • Try to organize something where you just talk about new things you'd like to try in bed, whether it be new positions, locations, or roleplay like BDSM where you can bring up the daddy thing. I'm not too familiar with it myself, but my boyfriend actually told me not too long ago he'd be totally down for that and I was kinda like... ahh idunno, find it a bit incestuous. I read up on it a bit on reddit though, and it kinda managed to sway me, you should check out the many posts regarding it on r/sex and r/bdsm.

    Just tell your boyfriend that you'd find working in a super mild D/S dynamic to be super hot, including calling him daddy. If he brings up the incest thing, assure him it's purely from the dominance perspective. Which many threads in those subreddits will go further into explaining pretty well.

  • You can ask him indirectly instead of directly to see how comfortable he is. Be like "How do you feel about girls calling their boyfriend daddy in bed?" if he asks why just say you saw it in a p*rn video and you wondered if you would be into that since you want to try everything that he would be into

  • Explain it to him the way you've explained it to us.

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  • There are a number of tumblr sites that deal with DD/lg fantasy. Do some research and find one site that presents your idea of what the relationship should look like. After you have done your research, sit down and share what you found with him. Having this reference will make it easier going for you.

  • Don't ask permission, just say it. Asking permission takes away the effect of it, I never ask a girl if she likes her hair pulled, I just do it. This is the same thing.

    • You'd stop if she asks you to though won't you?

    • I think hair pulling is a lot more " generally accepted" though. If my boyfriend takes it the wrong way like some of the people below seem to, it could make things really awkward.

    • I don't think so. When discussing it in public it gets frowned upon, but I doubt any guy will not like it. A lot of girls say "Oh I would never do that, why would I call him daddy? That's gross" then any guy who's in that conversation reacts accordingly. Not saying every guy likes it, but no guy doesn't like it.

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  • Oh, he will understand the idea because he knows what "daddy" means, Have him explain it to you.

  • ... another obligatory @rthomas43 mention

  • Just put your hair in pigtails, dress up in a school girl uniform and then meet him in the bedroom and call him "Daddy" and ask him to teach you how to do something sexual like you never did it before.

  • Well I have never ever heard an explanation that doesn't involve "no I am not thinking of my dad... Well okay, what else would daddy be duh" and I am pretty surei would feel uncomfortable with the idea because it makes zero logical sense to me.

    I am convinced that people learn these BDSM things from cosmopolitan.

  • Talk to him about it BEFORE you actually do it. Ask him about it, and explain your reasoning behind it.

  • Honestly I would leave her.

    • Really? Why?

    • Because that's way too weird for me and I'm into some pretty kinky stuff. Family is just wrong. Pick a different name he can call you.

    • I'm into the BDSM thing but I'd just be creeped out if a girl asked that.

  • just imagine if he calls you "mommy" ok...
    feels like it would be ok but weird/silly at first isn't it?

  • I would love to be called "Daddy" during sex

    • Just do it call him "Daddy"

  • I think that is more than anything, an individual thing. Before you have sex you should ask him if it would be okay with him. Don't do it during sex before you've talked about it

  • Let it slip once if it freaks him have an excuse ready, but if he don't freak and it seems to excite him, do it again!

  • It's kind of incest. I would feel uncomfortable with it.

    • It is in no way incest at all.

  • I wouldn't mind and start calling you babygirl, pumpkin, and princess during sex. :).. Just not all the time though :P. (And I'm not into BDSM, although i'd like to try both dom & sub at least ones.)

  • If he is comfortable with you then he should be more than ok with it! I know I am :)

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    • I don't really have daddy issues at all. I think the reason I don't think of it as a "family" thing or something is because I've never referred to my father as "daddy" or "dad." I know it sounds really weird, but since I've been able to consciously think I've referred to him by his name. My ex boyfriend also liked it when I called him daddy.

    • Your ex probably didn't like it. He liked the sex. There's a difference.

    • Lol no, he wanted me to call him daddy. He would make me beg for his dick.

  • Not acceptable. Sounds mentally disgusting.

  • It makes me uncomfortable when girls do that :/

  • I think you should just try it and see what happens

  • It is impossible, since she is one year elder than me.

    • That doesn't matter lol. I've heard weirder things. Had a guy 3 years older than me call me mommy... so daddy isn't too bad.

    • Still not, it makes feel I am dating a girl who is much younger than me or I am too old. It is very favorable to let her call me "sir" or "master", but no way for "daddy". (We do not have sex very frequently since we are sort of religious.)

  • Not all guys like to role play, test him out and play the submissive role after baiting him with your lusty character (come up with a fake name)
    If he isn't into it or he thinks your being silly and refuses to play along then mabe he doesn't have the imagination and spontinuity to pull it off yet. Then download this app called sex role play and have him read it out loud to you and say that's what you need to feel excitement and you need to be dominated. Should do the trick

  • I'd love it

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