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Why does he like slapping me?

During sex, my boyfriend slaps me on the face. After the first time he did it, he only did it lightly and he asked me after if it hurt, because he doesn't actually want to hurt me, and I said no because it didn't. He's been slapping me harder lately. Tonight, he slapped me so hard my ears started ringing and I had to tell him to stop this time, because it did actually hurt. He stopped right away and was very sorry. Like I said, he doesn't actually want to hurt me. Why does he like slapping me, though? It's a little strange.
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  • I've been in your situation. At first I didn't mind, but after a while he started really hurting me. I always felt like I couldn't tell him to stop since I used to be okay with it. Let me tell you, if you don't like it, you can tell him to stop. I wish I had, because now I feel as though it will be very difficult to let someone into my life without fearing that they will also hurt me and not treat me with respect. Please just talk to him before it gets out of control. I never thought it would be a problem until it started translating outside of the bedroom. If you don't set ground rules, it will.

  • If I didn't like it... I would give him one chance and tell him I didn't like it. (He should have ask me about it in the first place.) Then if he did it again... I would knock the hell out of him and never see him again. If someone hits you and you don't like it... it is abuse.

  • He just likes rough sex. Its actually very common. My boyfriend likes choking me during sex. At first he did it too hard but now he doesn't because he now knows the limits. Just express to him what your limits are and he will accommodate to them.

    • Yeah. See, I do like it a little. I just don't like it when he hits me THAT hard. I'll try to talk to him about it, but I can only feel comfortable talking about fetishes and sexual desires during sex. So I'll have to wait till then.

    • That's how I was too. Try showing him how hard he can hit you by moving his hand the way you want. Men tend to understand more when they are shown, rather than told.

  • Lol haha reminds me of what my ex used to do, (broke up yesterday). He used to smack his cock on my face when i was giving him BJ's or HJ's, like why do guys do that? Any other guy that do those?

    • Its a dominance thing.

    • @TonyRyan is it just a sex thing or does it mean something? Is it on p*rn i don't watch that so I don't know, thats why I'm asking my bf used to watch it a lot be4 with his friends so that makes me think.

    • Not sure, I don't watch p*rn but being well endowed makes certain types of guys more aggressive in bed. And it's just a sec thing, it doesn't mean anything outside of the bedroom.

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Most Helpful Guys

  • You should definitely slap him back lol scratch him with your nails, bite him if he kisses you or on the neck lol. flip the switch and get on top and control him.

    seems he likes to play rough and its a control thing, toy with him and see his reaction.

  • Most likely p*rn .

    And a lack of empathy for females.

    I'd laugh if you slapped him back at some point to show him how it felt.

    • Well, tonight's slap was during a blowjob. I couldn't help but bite down a little, so his own wince of pain sort of did the job lol

    • hahaha

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  • Have you actually thought about ASKING HIM why he does it?

    • No, I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable lol I'm guessing it's some sort of fetish but I want to know what it's about. Like, people want to know what people with foot fetishes get out of feet.

    • I can't for one moment see in asking him how it will make him feel uncomfortable. But if you feel that way, then sadly you may just have to live with it.. I know I certainly couldn't.

  • If it hurts then it has to stop - Warn him if he hurts you again you will break up with him.

  • fuck its really... innapropriate..

  • Yeah, it is strange to me.
    May be it is one type of fetish

    • That's what I think, but I wonder what he gets out of it.

    • You only go it Tell him that you are getting pain then he will change

  • I slap my bitches all the time, i got @Harley_Quinn on lock right now

  • It most turn him on. Ask him not to hit u hard or on the head. Little strange he's hitting you on the head. Less strange if he was hitting your bum

  • It sounds like a fetish to me. He doesn't intentionally mean you any harm or ill will.

  • Probably sex passion is the reason..
    Ask him to slap on butt instead

  • It's just a phase, you can expect punches soon

  • It doesn't mean anything deep and meaningful, don't worry. It's just a thing some guys like doing. My ex used to choke me and slap me with his dick, and I'm sure it didn't actually mean he wanted to kill me.
    Many guys are into these aggressive stuff, it shows dominance and power in bed. If you don't like it though, tell him. No one deserves having sex they don't like.

    • Lol, definitely wasn't trying to kill you.

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