Should I have the threesome… yes or no?

[InLoveConfused]

So, here's the deal. My boyfriend and I are working on 2 years together, I am pregnant with his baby and we are due in 4-5 months. There is no shortage of sex by any means (never has been an issue) and it is Incredible every time. I have bi-sexual tendencies and every once in awhile think about enjoying a females company sexually. We have attempted a 4 some with his friends (first time for both of us) towards the beginning of our relationship. It was going alright, I wasn't really enjoying it but it sounded like they were so I put on a" show". Come to find out, he couldn't get it up and seemed to be bothered that I was "enjoying myself"... He was so ashamed, and his ego bruised a little but I explained that it wasn't enjoyable for me either and then we had sex, no problems at all. NOW, a year and a half later, he wants to have a threesome with another girl. I am not going to lie, I have thought about it, but I have a little bit of a hang-up. I am WAY more emotionally invested in our relationship, I am completely in love with him, and I can't seem to wrap my head around the idea of his penis inside another vagina. I am okay with oral and everything but sex is REALLY personal. I told him this and he understands but says inevitably I am the one he is with, and the one he is taking home. I do know he has a history with this, one of his exes was fully bi-sexual and very active about pursuing females. (not sure about TOO many details of their relationship but..) So, the real question here is... Is he getting bored with me and that is why he is seeking out other vaginas? We do many different positions, and I have NO problems turning him on... Or I guess I just don't know how to feel about it. Should I have the threesome and stick to my grounds and just say no penetration? or... Should I have the threesome let him stick it in and suck it up? Am I being too selfish?

[Esplorare]

No, you are not being selfish at all. You are carrying this man's child, he is about to become your life partner as a parent, and he's telling you he wants to experience sex with other women. -_- That's f*cked up.

This seems like a great way to completely demolish your relationship. There are certain acts of selfishness that have the ability to completely deteriorate an emotional and mental bond. They often sneak up on you then before you know it, your relationship has dissolved and there's just a small, fragile bit of solidity left. When your heart is involved, don't accept the sleazy, meaningless sexual stuff. It will ruin everything. Sexual gratification isn't worth risking greater things especially now that there's a child involved...

[InLoveConfused]

My relationship is dissolved? So in your opinion he is bored?

[Esplorare]

Your relationship will be dissolved if you encourage him to sleep with another female.

[Esplorare]

I can't really say if he's bored, but if he really respected you like that, as the woman who's carrying his child, he wouldn't even offer that shitty suggestion

[InLoveConfused]

Okay, I wouldn't say its encouraging him to sleep with another woman.. I mentioned to him, because of my pregnancy and my hormones going berserk, for some reason i keep dreaming about fooling around with a girl, and he re-brought that up and that's what started the conversation.. Also, would it be bad if there was no sex just playing around?

[Esplorare]

... girl. -_- Are you serious? You're asking if it would be bad if you share your man like some sort of sexual object? OF COURSE IT WOULD BE.

[Esplorare]

No offense girl, but your attitude in this relationship is so sleazy and tactless. Your relationships are always going to fall apart if you suggest that you both treat each other like sex objects to be shared and traded among other men and women.

[InLoveConfused]

So, I am not suggesting anything.. I am just confused and trying to figure things out.. I didn't tell him yes. I didn't suggest it.. it came up in conversation and I am taking time before making a decision.. not sure how that is tactless but okay.

[Esplorare]

it's tactless for you guys to be trading each other like sex objects. You're supposed to be in a committed relationship. And no offense, but you would be beyond stupid for letting your man fuck another girl while you're carrying his child.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

letting your man have a threesome is like allowing him to cheat in front of your face. if you are uncomfortable then do not do it. you don't have to do everything he asks for just bc it will please him. have some limits. what if this girl outfucks you and then takes your man? you are pregnant, do you really wanna expose ur unborn baby to all this bacteria? also do you think if u are due in 4-5 months you can really compete sexually with a girl who isn't pregnant and probably is in shape? im just being real... I would only have a threesome with someone elses boyfriend not my own. that's just asking for trouble

[InLoveConfused]

I was a little un-informative.. I am NOT doing this while pregnant.. but it came up in conversation last night, and I asked him that too, I am great in bed but what if she is better? or sexier? I understand though, completely what you are saying.

[GirlsLie]

I think you should have a little fun with it, maybe you and another girl doing things in front of him or oral like you said, things like that sound fun to me too but i'm like you, I think sex is too personal and you have every right to feel uncomfortable about that and honestly I would be a little upset if my boyfriend insisted on that, so no I don't think you're selfish.

[InLoveConfused]

I like that you think the way that I do, I know that it's natural for him and EVERY guy to think about 2 girls but in reality he has committed to me and if he wants to run around and stick his dick in whatever then by all means go do so, but you won't be getting anything from me. I think it is very reasonable to say we can both fool around with same girl in same room but, no penetration.

[GirlsLie]

I think you're right and you should do whatever is fun and makes you happy as well, it's also ok to not be comfortable enough to do anything at all like that.

[AustinMan]

I think you need to get your baby to six months or a year old before you enter into any outside sexual experimentation. What about if you role play a fantasy where maybe you're in a bar and he's a stranger that picks you up, takes you up to his room and treats you like the slutty girl that's inside every girl?

[InLoveConfused]

Yes, I did realize after posting this that I am not planning on doing this while pregnant... I already have enough emotions going on right now I wouldn't be able to handle it. Jealousy would rear her ugly head and it wouldn't end well.. Plus I won't risk anything with my baby. I've asked him about role play, he's never done it so he's unsure. I'm totally into it, never done it but could be fun! Thank you for your opinion!

[AustinMan]

In a moment of intimate conversation, tell him you won't react badly, that you want to hear his darkest, nastiest, kinkiest fantasies. Then role play those.

[InLoveConfused]

That is a great idea. Really, I hope he goes along with it.

[AustinMan]

He will. We all want to play out our darkest fantasies. What are yours, by the way?

[InLoveConfused]

My fantasies? I have a lot, he is aware of lots of them just haven't pursued too many, we've done being tied up, both LOVED THAT. I love using whipped cream etc. I've always wanted a fireman, I WILL GET HIM TO DO THAT ONE WITH ME. Or Naughty school girl/Teachers pet. etc.

[AustinMan]

Sexy costumes for all those are online cheap. Handyman, cable guy, mailman, IRS agent, cop, picked up in a bar by a stranger. If you like a true account of just how much fun that last one can be message me.

[Domingo]

When you did the foursome, was 3 girls one guy,2 girls 2 guys? If your hesitant about a 3some it shouldn't be an issue to lay down some ground rules like no penetration. Gotta lay down the rules and be on the same page before moving forward

[InLoveConfused]

It was 2 girls 2 guys, no guy on guy though. I agree with that, thanks for your opinion!

[Domingo]

I see. I'm just trying to understand but did you guys swap during the 4some? Cause if you did it doesn't make sense that you would be apprehensive about him penetrating another female if both of you got to switch partners during a foursome

[InLoveConfused]

yes, but it didn't work for him. he couldn't get it up.

[Domingo]

I guess my next question is, since you did swap (even though he couldn't get it up) if you was penetrated by someone else in that one situation how come it would bother you if he were to be inside another female if you do decide to try out a 3some with another female?

[InLoveConfused]

He was inside of her, it just wasn't getting hard.. he was still kind of limp but was inside.. and we had a discussion that night about how it made us both feel, and how i didn't like it and he didn't either.. and believe me she's attractive.. so I just find it weird that he wants to now..

[Domingo]

Ok I understand now. You said his ego was bruised and any guy would be in that situation. Maybe he wants to redeem himself. Maybe that "show" you put on made him insecure that another guy does it better than him cause if you did put on a grand show than he might feel bad that your reaction to sex isn't like that with him. But if you guys do move forward lay out the ground rules first. The do's and dont's.

[InLoveConfused]

And understandably so, it wasn't that great i moaned a little.. haha. But again I understand, thank you so much for being so helpful!

[9mfeo]

If you guys have a threesome, you don't have to let him have penetrative sex with the other woman. I would say that you call the shots here, what with you being the bearer of his child and all.

[InLoveConfused]

I appreciate that, and I can honestly say that deep down I probably know that you are right.

[itsallover]

Only do what YOU feel comfortable doing.

[InLoveConfused]

Thank you. :)

[abundantlyrich]

If you want big love... sure go ahead.

[InLoveConfused]

What do you mean by big love?

[abundantlyrich]

three some :)

[LouiePaarthurnax]

You're not comfortable with it, so you shouldn't do it. And if he really loves you, he should respect your decision and stop bring the threesome topic up.

You are NOT selfish at all for wanting the guy you love and the father of your child all for yourself.
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[InLoveConfused]

Thank you! That is a good way to phrase it.. I'm just worried because he's been in relationships previously where that was okay..

[LouiePaarthurnax]

Well, every relationship is different so we can't expect the same things, can we? I say don't do the threesome.

[wiedieaskimwalde]

So you are in a serious relationship and want to be unfaithful to each other with the same person? Why?

[InLoveConfused]

I don't know exactly and wouldn't phrase it like that.. there is that certain level of excitement.. etc.

[wiedieaskimwalde]

Why wouldn't you phrase it like that? Isn't sleeping with someone who isn't your partner being unfaithful?

[chrisbigman]

Don't do it.

[InLoveConfused]

Reasons?

[chrisbigman]

You already know a few.

[InLoveConfused]

What are your reasons and opinions?

[chrisbigman]

All I'll say is that I wouldn't do a "three-some".

[sealteam42]

Don't do it trust me things act the same at first but over time it grows and eats away at you this is coming from experience

[InLoveConfused]

Appreciate the input! thank you!

[sealteam42]

Np I just don't want you to loose something that you have and that is good even more so that your going to have a baby

[Cowboy6666]

People are brazen face who share their gf!!! With other dudes

[InLoveConfused]

It was a one time thing and he clearly didn't like it, there was no climax from anyone during this process.. we are talking about him wanting me and another woman.

[Cowboy6666]

So are you comfortable getting 3$ome with another girl?

[InLoveConfused]

That's the thing.. I do enjoy other woman, but I don't like the idea of him having sex with another woman.

[Cowboy6666]

That's called envy.. I wonder how women do this in pornos... :D

[InLoveConfused]

I have wondered that same thing myself.

[Kratos34]

Probably he is just getting bored now that's why he is seeking other pussies. Men need new pussies all the time if the one they have is not getting them excited. Seek out new fantasies, keep him interested in your vagina, start being kinky.