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Girlfriend won't do Anal, should I dump her?

I love her, and love spending time with her, but all my friends GFs do it, one even showed me video proof.
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  • Talk to her bout why she won't do it. It's probably either, "oh, that's gross, it's where my poop comes out," or she' afraid it will hurt. If you get the "oh, gross" response, you probably will never change her mind. But if it's the fear of it being painful, you have a chance. You need to approach this very gradually. Is she too uptight to let you look at her anus? Give her a naked massage and when you are doing her back, work lower and gradually spread her cheeks and tell her how cute she is back there. When you are having sex and she is on the verge of orgasm, briefly touch her anus. It may set her over the edge. Do the licking food off her body thing. Start with whipped cream on her boobs but work around to whipped cream on her back. Put some on her butt cheeks and see how she responds to being licked there. Eventually, put some in her crack and lick there (it probably helps if she's had a few drinks to lower her inhibitions.) She may go wild if she feels your tongue on her bumhole. If she seems receptive but still nervous, get a slender vibrator and very gradually insert that with lots of lube. Give her lots of foreplay first and continue rubbing her clit when you insert the vibrator. If she is finally loosened up enough, engage in massive foreplay, use lots of lube, enter her very slowly and then pause and allow her muscles to relax to accommodate you before you begin thrusting. There are also some videos available on sex techniques that demonstrate anal sex in a positive light. I went through this with my ex-wife and she eventually enjoyed anal sex. (It's not why we eventually got divorced.) Good luck and be patient.

  • yea dumb her, she is not good enough for u and not for filling ur needs

    • I knew this would get MHO lol

    • Empirical evidence of an asshole breeding grounds right here

    • behold the manboy douches of the future!

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  • All of your girlfriends have said it because it's painful for women since we don't have prostates at least not natural born ones anyway. She should be the one to break up with you for wanting to inflict pain on her just so you could pleasure yourself. If you want someone who looks like a female, but is also into anal you should check into the tranny scene and find a male to female trans person. I'm sure they'll be open to doing anal with you. Just make sure you treat your T-girl like a proper woman should be treated. -3-

    • eeww

    • If you have a problem with it then don't complain if a woman says no to anal.

    • Amen. ^^

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  • I think you need to look up the definition of love! Dumping someone because they won't comply to your every whim is not it! If you "love" this person and enjoy spending time with her, you'll accept that that is not something she is interested in doing... maybe you could instead be patient and discuss why she doesn't want to and you might find it may be fear that can be over come or in time she'll warm up to the idea... .

    • the definition of love giving not being selfish like his girlfriend she dosent care about him or his needs

  • Ur a compete nob head. Do u like something rammed up ur ass? Probably not and its more stimulating for guys so why don't u give it a go first? . I go by the rule of u do it to me I can do it to u! Dump her but that's only coz she deserves better than u.

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  • Your a jerk if you do over tha, i can understand if she has an inability to even perform in bed... but just because she doesn't like anal? get a grip... lol obviously you only want her for her body and not for who she is... move on... don't date a girl... because your obviously not mature enough to be with someone. If you want to be joined at the hip of your friends and be peer-pressured into things then obviously you let them boss you around all the time, complete turn off.

  • There's video proof? Is this scientific evidence that all women are doing this?

  • You know what? you are so lame but i admit you made me laugh Lmao. If you are really serious yes just go ahead n let her find someone better than yourself. You know you need to lay off that p*rn for a bit too, fucking with your head.

    • you mean he will find a girlfriend better than her

  • Yes, break up with her for her own benefit so she can find someone who actually respects her.

    • I agree

    • Don't worry he's going to find a MAN also LOL

  • Most women don't like/ don't want anal. If you care about having anal more than your girlfriend then dump her. But it seems kinda silly to do so to me.

  • Break it off. If you can't accept/respect her wishes then please feel free to leave 👉👉👋😒 He deserves better.

  • Yeah. Do her a favor and just walk away.

  • Yeah, she deserves better anyways

    • yeah he will find a better girl not a selfish bitch like his ex

  • So Let me get right, you have a Coochie right THERE, but yo G*Y a*s wants to stick it up the Cornhole? NOT ONLY THAT, but you're going to dump her for not allowing you to? OH MAN #Suspect #Fruitloop !!! LOL i1127.photobucket.com/.../ezgif.com-add-text_7.gif

    Dump her and go get a MAN then, THEN you can have all the buttsecks ya want LOLOL

    • I ain't knocking those that have Anal sex BUT DAMN you gone dump her for that? lololol

    • #Fruitloop Lmao

    • @SomeoneImportant HEHEH #FruityBootyass LOL

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  • wow men these days...

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    posts like these make me really really wish i was gay

  • That's a weird reason to dump someone. That's like dumping a girl because her hair is red, her cooking sucks, or because she has a weird laugh.
    If these things bother you, you don't really give a shit about her in the first place. Of course you should dump her.

  • If it's important to you, yes, of course.

    People who don't want to do anal will shout no, but whatever. It's your sex life. Things are rarely perfect, so if it's just a nice to have, well it's up to you, but if you really want it, then you're not going to be happy.

    And if you really want it, you're not going to want it less over time, it's going to bother you more and more.

    It's actually the sort of thing that matters MORE long term than short term. Short term you can do without for a bit.

    • It's interesting, if people ask this about oral, most people say yes. If people love oral, fine, if they don't fine, if they love anal, fine, if they don't fine. But the high horse 'oh this is so terrible if you loved her you wouldn't care' is just complete bullshit. Should we say 'if she loved him she'd just do anal'? Sex matters, if they want different things, they're not meant to be, deal with it.

    • I was just thinking the same thing. I think that is because they don't understand how anal can be important to someone, so they don't see anal as a good reason to break up like they would think oral would. Since anal isn't important to them, they don't think it should be important to anyone else. This is one of the problems humans have when trying to respect the differences of others.

    • @heavensgift2girls definitely. True on every issue: they know what is supposed to be important and everyone else is shallow.

  • It is a very bad reason to dump someone, but your obsession is going to make the whole relationship toxic, so you should dump her because of that. This is a real "It's not you it's me" situation. She deserves better.

  • No, if I was you, I would not dump her solely based on something she does not prefer. That's like throwing away a big diamond due to it not being your favorite color.

  • Yes you should dump her. Because if you are really willing to dump her over a stupid reason like that then you must not truly love her in the first place.

    • this is a big reason not a stupid this is his need and she dosent care but about herself selfish girl if she loves him she will give him what he wants

  • No, I don't think you should break up with her. Anal can be really painful, and some people just aren't into it. I've heard a few girls say that it feels like you're pooping backwards. Does that sound fun to you? Why break up with her for that? It would be silly. There are other ways to get off besides anal.

  • Well if fucking her in the ass means more to you then she does then I hope for her sake you dump her since your such a piece of shit. I expected a post like this from a teenager, not someone that should have more respect for women. so I will gues it is a lying teen who created the account.

  • This is a definite troll.

  • So am I just the odd man out here? What is up with all these dudes obsessions with anal sex?

  • If she doesn't want to, that's her call. If your relationship cannot function without it; if you feel that is so essential in a relationship and you can't be happy without it, then yes as it is probably a shallow relationship. If your relationship has more to it than fulfilling only your desires, then you should stick it out cos it's probably something meaningful. Just being honest.

    • Damned straight.

    • you mean if If your relationship has more to it than fulfilling only her desires he should kick her out of his life because she care only about herself

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