Ok so... I'm a white guy but... Why am I so attracted to black women?

Question

I posted this anon because I'm sure someone will try to throw racism in the mix at some point but, rest assured I'm nowhere near racist. Im not saying that I do not find white women attractive but, when it comes to an attractive woman white vs an attactive black woman, the black woman is, in my humble opinion, so much hotter and will always garner my full attention. I literally cannot help myself but, I am so incredibly turned on by and attracted to black women. I've never dated a black woman because where I live its virtually impossible as I believe that the majority of black women in this part of the country just cannot see white men as dating material. To me, this is simply irrelevant. I honestly feel so drawn to them; the feeling when I see them is simply primal and almost supernatural. From the warm soft color of their skin, the darker spots on their bodies (elbows, knees), their hair (both pubic and on their heads), their style, their almond shaped eyes, full lips, to their irresistible curves, and the list just goes on! 

I'm sorry, really not trying to sound hateful, trollish or racist, just trying to figure this out.

Any ideas why I feel this way? Anyone else ever felt this way? Thanks in advance for any advice or insight...

Zefram · Accepted Answer

I'm a 6'4 German-Canadian white man dating a 5'9 African-Canadian woman of Nigerian decent. I mean, I didn't go looking for a black woman and I wasn't super attracted to other races before we started dating. She was just some really cute, sexy, funny, smart, awesome chick I met at a party, hit it off with and finally worked up the courage to ask out a few days later... and she just happened to be black, the complete opposite race than me. But damn, after the first week of dating her I didn't shy away man, this woman was made for me. Just know that if you start dating interracial it can be tough. I mean, neither of our parents have been exactly accepting. Hers are old-fashioned super-closed Nigerians and mine are just old-fashioned 60's parents with an Archie Bunker mindset. It gets tough at times. You can occasionally get looks from other black guys and white women ranging from "WTF?" to "damn, good job" and at a dinner party not long ago I came back from the bathroom and just caught the end of our hostess asking my girlfriend if I'm "bigger than her black boyfriends". There's also the fact that sometimes, you just can't help but feel out of place as literally the only white guy in the church or at the family gathering but I guess that's vice versa for her (and we can't understand each other's families' languages, probably for the better). Since I started dating her however, I have found that I am WAY more attracted to black women now, especially when I'm alone, on the internet, though that could just be because it's easier to picture her.

And on the plus side, you get to make fun of yourselves/each other free of feeling like a dick for mocking another race. I tend to get "yes mesa" whenever I ask for something, even just a drink from the kitchen when she's up. The jokes abound.

Andrew21x · Accepted Answer

What exactly are you expecting people to tell you? lol
It's not like there's some scientific reason why you're more attracted to black girls... those are your preferences, simple as that
I myself am really attracted to Asian girls. Why? No idea. But who cares... it is what it is lol

LinaSo · Accepted Answer

There is nothing wrong with you.
i am a Indian girl and am very attracted to white guys - my understanding of this is because all the men i see are white and all so here in the UK white men are the image of beauty/fashion etc . That not to say that other guys are unattractive. also my other understanding is that as an artist/ designer is tat i am more attracted to colour and white people have that - they have colored eyes, hair and they can even change colour (like blushing).

but back to you... well sort of
in the 1920s white men were very attracted to black women in France the loved how new and exotic they were (but many would only have sex with them and marry a white girl because society didn't approve - which was another thing the forbidden attraction). your attraction could be a genetic thing.
your also may be attract to them as you mansion you like their curves, (since tells us that men that like curves want a girl with a strong body for strong offspring) subconsciously you may want kids.

all in all you have an attraction and it is NOT something that can be limited or wrong.
what you get attracted to is based on a collection of data from when you were young it then builds up and form a function in your head that determine what you attracted to.

aamy811 · Accepted Answer

Much like any "I prefer x race" question, I always feel obligated to say make sure you keep your eyes open to all beautiful women in the world and stay open to dating all races because they're all great.
Anyway. Go for it. We're not nearly as mean as people or tv make us out to be we're like "normal girls" as people say and we probably wouldn't laugh at you for trying to talk to us.
Now anyway be careful of not being obsessed with the idea of dating or being with black girls. Many white guys who I've met treat me as a little goal and not a serious person. Just something they did to prove they can get a black girl. Or want to have sex with us to get a fantasy out of the way and dot actually like us.
So pay attention to being in a real relationship you care about instead of just a relationship with a black girl. This is so important. Don't let us just become your fetish

LocketsandCharms · Accepted Answer

I think your attraction to the other race is a type of attraction. I think your interested in a different experience. In your eyes certain quality combinations attract you. You want it, you adore it, but you don't have one yourself. You desire chocolate but you don' really know what's so great until you have someone of your own. Your expectations are positive so that's a start. I'm game if your interested. ;)

Rainie_ · Answer

Your preference is really not unusual at all... Perhaps where you live maybe but in general I don't think you're preference is weird at all. And I think you got the whole racism word wrong 😂 How is it offensive to prefer black women over white women. Its like saying I like girls with straight hair, or I like girls with curly hair. Its a preference, thats all.

kxera · Answer

It's not that serious. There's no reason to be ashamed or feel weird. It's something natural. People have natural preferences. Most of my life, I've been attracted to white and Hispanic guys. Never seen it as a big deal.

Do you like black women just because they are black or do you just happen to find them attractive?

DesiDoo · Answer

Lol I don't find it race like or anything. I dont fit everything you said though. I hate the natural hair look. I HAVE to have a perm. I also don't have full lips. Some people actually say I have more of the "old fashioned white girl" features... My elbows and knees are a tiny bit darker though lol. I don't do pubic hair.. Just no.

I understand though. Like, I will always put my own race first (deep within my heart) but lately I have been more attracted to guys outside my race. Its mostly a tie between white guys and mixed guys (because they offer the best of both worlds). However, if a black guy I liked approached me right now, I probably wouldn't give any other guy (regardless of skin color) a second thought.

So its good that you're attracted to black women, but do you still appreciate the beauty of your own race as well?

RestlessYouth_ · Answer

Lol it's not uncommon at all. A lot of white guys are attracted to black women, but many keep it as a "closet fetish", I didn't realize how many until I actively started using the internet though. During slavery countless white masters were sneaking into slave cabins, their wives knew this but as long as they were the "fun on the side" they didn't care. You feel this way because black women are beautiful, all women are, but you just are taken with the beauty of black women, don't allow society to tell you this is "abnormal" because you're "supposed" to be attracted to white women.

KDA20 · Answer

Your choice who you like

beautifulangel76 · Answer

Don't worry about it that is what you like and that isn't something you should be ashamed of. I'm black and I'm only attracted white guy period.

RBD12 · Answer

Its ok to feel this way. Black women are human. Find one you like/love and date her.

DezzDezz · Answer

I think that it's ok to love what you love so embrace it and have fun!:)

Diego9O · Answer

If you like them you like them. Don´t feel bad about it, it´s just a preference that isn't related to the person with who you might fall in love. Everyone have personal choices but those are not and will never applied fully when it comes to dating or falling in love with someone.

GlassHeart · Answer

We're all humans no need to be embarrassed of finding another human of different race attractive

redriverronin · Answer

You should very easily be able to have a relationship with a black women, I have dated many black women from different backgrounds. Black women are very attracted to white men but most white guys aren't attracted to them though so most don't let their feelings be known. Just try having a conversation you will be surprised at how sociable and personable they are ever when they are very very attractive. Compared to a white woman who is totally cold and standoffish and 3 points or lower on the 1 to 10 scale next to a black woman who is a 7 to 10, trust me you will be a very welcome change for most of them.