I'm going to be 24 this summer and I'm still a virgin. Is it more pathetic to be a virgin as you get older? Is it a turn-on or turn-off for girls?

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I'll be 24 in July and I've never had sex. Going to a state school in NY where the entire campus gets laid and I don't makes me feel left out almost like I'm the black sheep of the campus. The older I get the more pathetic I feel that I haven't had sex yet. All my guy friends have sex stories to share and I have never have any because I haven't had sex yet, so yet again I feel left out. And some of the crueler guys that know I'm a virgin ridicule me for it, then I feel even more pathetic. I'm also not exactly Cupid with the ladies either. I have zero game and I'll best honest I'm average looking at best. I'm 5'9" and 230 lbs rocking a decent beer guy so I don't have a rock hard body with chiseled abs. And when I do talk to girls and start to get closer to them I get shut down especially when I tell them I'm a virgin. I've been told "I can't have sex with you because you're a really good friend and it would ruin our relationship/friendship" or "I can't have sex with you because you're a virgin, and you need to lose it somebody you really love" and then my favorite was "I don't wanna have sex with you because you're a virgin and I want experienced dick". And when I get told these things I get down on myself because it seems like every time I try I end up going down a dead end road and it's a miserable failure. I hate setting myself up for failure, so typically now I don't even bother talking to anyone really. I genuinely kept to myself, I stay home and don't go out much. All the past rejection has made me this way, nothing feels worse emotionally then being rejected. So ladies I ask you do you find it odd if a guy is in his mid 20s and he's still a virgin or do you think it's kind of a turn-on? All opinions are welcomed because I realize everyone has different views on a topic like this. I'd just like to get to see what the majority ruling is. Lastly I appreciate you all for reading this tid bit and responding in an honest fashion.

evenlift · Accepted Answer

You really do need to improve your game.

If you're telling girls you're a virgin, then you really need to go back to square one with your technique.

Don't worry. There's no shame in lacking skill. The shame would be in failing to recognize the fact.

As for looks, you're not obese. So, your looks don't have to be improved for you to get some success. But, would you benefit from hitting the gym? Yes.

muspelhem_5 · Accepted Answer

I lost mine to a woman who was a bit older than me and she just seemed to find it endearing :) Anyway she was very nice about it, and my experience with women is that they are generally loving in bed.

Don't be so afraid of doing something wrong or of being wrong. You are great the way you are.

biracialQT · Accepted Answer

I personally don't think it's weird, my brother will also turn 24 this summer and he's also a virgin, he's waiting for the right girl and just hasn't met her yet, so you're not the only one. But if there is one thing i know, it's that giving up will not help you further in life. Go out there maybe stop looking for a one night stand, but start looking for something more long term.

Viper22 · Accepted Answer

Women, like men, vary on their sexual preferences. I would find it a turn-off if guy was a virgin, but that's because I seem to go for emotionally unavailable sex addicts. Many women will find it a turn on, but my guess would be if a girl really likes you, she will be indifferent.

GingerKink · Accepted Answer

I don't think being a virgin is a turn off, but lacking confidence is. Work on your confidence and you'll get plenty of pussy.

BKLodhi · Answer

Nope. In my personal opinion its a matter of choice. I'm saving myself for that special someone. So, you are not the only one. Stay strong & focus on your studies. Peace.