Sexual Relationships
+1 y

Should I hire an escort to lose my virginity?

I'm in my mid-20s and I have never had sex, nor have I ever had a girlfriend. I really want to have a girlfriend and feel love but I'm shy and introverted and I've been extremely unlucky when it comes to women and I can't see myself getting a girlfriend any time soon. A friend of mine suggested I hire an escort and recently I have considered doing it just to get my virginity out of the way as it's embarassing to still be a kissless, sexless virgin at my age. Please be honest, should I hire an escort or not?
0 2

Most Helpful Guys

  • No no no no, no and no.
    Bro your thinking about virginity all wrong. It's not something you have to get rid of as soon as possible. It's something that is Suppose to be saved for the one you love. Look at your elders not mom and dad but grandparents. They have the happiest and longest lasting relationships.
    If you feel that you absolutely need a girlfriend than I am sorry action is the only thing that will help. I am the same way.
    Here is what you need to do.
    Step one: start networking and spending time with friends in social environments ( not your house..)
    Step two: start talking to people who you don't know, start with hi how are you, even how's the weather. It doesn't matter.
    Step three: start talking to women just conversations ( look into there eyes and if you can't remember there eye color you fail)
    And step four: just ask women out hell you don't even have to know them. They can be walking around the mall, fair, event, etc . Stop them and say anything and ask them if they want to hang out later for some coffee or something.

    I have asked out more women in 2 hours than I could ever date in a life time, it's a numbers game eventually someone will say yes.
    Dating is fun, so go have fun.

    Bonus: I used to say "hey listen, this is crazy, but.. Can I have your number, so I can call you maybe?"
    About 6/10 would say yes.

    • Thanks for the advice my friend but I'm that introverted and shy I just don't know if I could do those things you mentioned. I have tried to ask girls out in the past and get rejected constantly. I become a nervous wreck around girls I find attractive, the very thought of walking up to a complete stranger and ask them out makes me want to be physically sick.

    • Bro, you have no idea I am the same way. You know how I do it. I buy some bad ass new clothes, cologne and wear my expensive watch ( it psychologically makes you feel more attractive. Which in turn makes you more attractive lol.) Than I just walk up to people someone and don't think lol and get rejected quick lol but immediately after I go up to someone else with the same method. Canned lines also help. Once you get rejected two or three times your almost numb to it. Get a friend to go with you. And go before he does. Also do things you enjoy doing. I like chess so I go to chess club. I dated a girl who went to chess club.

  • I just dont get it why people dont respect their body/ value there virginity... I am a virgin and I am really happy that I have saved it for my future girl... sex is sharing your body with someone... and I dont think u would go so down to share it with a escort... people have been brainwashed into thinking of sex as just a normal thing.. to do... I think you should wait for the right girl who would truly love and stop aiming to loose your virginity you are just 20.. treat your virginity as a million dollar diamond.. whether one is a girl or a boy..

    • Have some self control... its ur life.. just dont loose it under peer pressure

Most Helpful Girls

  • I think it's sad that society brainwashes people so badly with the concept of virginity that they feel like it's something that they need to "get out of the way", as if it's something that physically stops you from doing the things you want to do, or achieving the things you want to achieve.
    Let me tell you, it'll most likely not change a thing, except that you'll be a few dollars poorer. Not exactly sure how amazing that would be.

    • in fact if the reason for his sadness is that he is a virgin, then probably it would help him more or less.

    • @thomasjjeffy I feel like his sadness might be more deeply rooted than that. Losing your virginity won't magically make you feel less lonely or sad. After you've paid the escort and closed the door, literally nothing has changed except for the amount of money you have. And instead of feeling sad over being a virgin, he'll then become sad because he doesn't get have regular sex unless he pays for it. Or that he can't get a girlfriend. Or that he feels lonely. Or whatever. Paying an escort to have sex with you won't fix that kind of sadness.

  • nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!! don't do that!! nope. erase that from your mind. you are fine, you are not defective! it's worth waiting for!! don't pay for it from someone who will feed you bullshit and lies and an illusion of what sex is suppose to be. you have to find it on your own, in your own way.

  • But then you will have to live with the fact you paid to lose your virginity, and there is no way you can change that once it's done.

    I'm sure 99% of women would prefer a virgin to a guy who has only slept with prostitutes.

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

Related Questions

Can you function with no sleep?
Is it socially unacceptable to ask what a guys penis size is?
Do men like pink vaginas?
Weird comment from boyfriend?

What Girls & Guys Said

7 26

  • Loads of guys do this, but they don't seem to have an improved outlook on life.

  • If you want love she isn't going to give you it.

    Why don't you try online dating?

  • If you want to why not?
    Why ask us?

  • Do it. It doesn't matter if she's innocent girl who loves you or a prostitute who loves your wallet. If you want sex, have sex. They both are girls.

    Pros:
    ●She's also a girl. (With different circumstances)
    ●Easy sex.
    ●No longer a virgin.
    ●Builds confidence.

    Cons:
    ●You'll likely to develop a habit.
    ●Loss of romantic feelings.
    ●Sex can't fulfill the place of love.
    ●Morally incorrect.

    If it's just about virginity, then do it but if you want to fulfill your sexual desires then don't as how long you will keep paying for prostitutes. You also need love in your life. You also need a girl. If not today, maybe tomorrow you'll have to kill that shy nature and approach a woman.

    Good luck fella :)

  • Nothing will change in your life if you lose your virginity. You won't suddenly stop wanting sex and you won't suddenly become attractive to women. In order for it to have any effect, you'll have to keep getting escorts to have sex with.

  • No.. You're first time should be real and with someone who genuinely wants to be with you. Save the escorts for the bachelor party when that time comes.

  • I wouldn't do it. You should have your first experience with a girl that cares about you back. Besides I don't think prostitutes let you kiss them. So you'd be a kissless non-virgin which is just weird.

  • I think your problem is self-esteem, and you aren't likely to fix that by paying for sex.

    When it's someone you don't care about at all, it's just sex. You could accomplish the same thing by masturbating and it would be free. My opinion is no, don't do it.

  • It depends. Do you have enough money to do it on regular basis or do you think you are going to be able to get agirl after that time to time? Becouse lemme tell you: Not getting any is EVEN more excrutiating when you know exactly what are you missing out on. If you think you are up to it both emotionally and financially I say why the heck not?

  • no you will feel like shit and regret it for a long time. try online dating instead see if you can find an "easy girl"

    • I've already tried internet dating, I got no results.

  • Because a guy that's had sex with a prostitute is way more appealing to women than a virgin...
    ***eye roll***

    • Well, most girls I know seem to look down on virgins like myself.

    • I'll just say this. A guy who's been with a prostitute is an automatic deal killer for me. I don't care how much I like him.

  • Just do it.

  • If that might take away your sorrow/sadness, then do it. Give it a try.

  • Don't do it. If you want to find someone, you have to be someone they want to find. Cultivate interesting hobbies, travel, read cool books. Go and do things at places where other people are. Join and actually attend meetup groups. Do stuff like 'events and adventures.' Being introverted is hard, but you have to expose yourself to other people, even if for only a little while.

    If you do nothing, nothing will ever happen to you.

  • Whatever floats your boat. Personally, I wouldn't pay anyone to have sex with me no matter how repulsive I am.

  • its no ones business your still a virgin…yea your still going to have to use a condom and thats crap…. so your still gonna be a virgin, when you really want the real deal…

  • Don't do it: a prostitute is nothing more than an expensive Fleshlight. Masturbation thus, not real sex.

  • No, wait for the love of your life. It may be awhile but, it'll be worth it. Losing it just to lose it isn't smart. It'll be better if you lost it to someone you love or loved.

  • In the long run will this change anything?

  • Nope don't do it.. Change yourself but don't lose it to a prostitute...
    Really you shouldn't worry about your virginity or what society thinks about your virginity... You are still young to be in a relationship... And trust me you will find one but only if you try and meter new people and make friends... right now because you are introverted the world doesn't know you... Put yourself out there... Asking the people and become a little outgoing... And you will definitely find someone

  • Show More (13)

Latest Questions

Is it true that guys sleep generally naked, while girls sleep wearing pyjamas?
Why is being a virgin woman a CRIME?
What are your views on paying for sex for the thrill? At a strip club?
How long does a guy's cock need to be for professional porn?
Home >  Sexual Relationships  > Should I hire an escort to lose my virginity?