Why do guys get too rough during sex?

I told my bf I like rough sex. Now everytime I feel like he is getting more and more rough. Is he just trying to please me or do guys really like it like that? I don't mind it but at some points I have to stop him because he is hurting me.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Some guys really like it rough and it sounds like your guy is new to this and doesn't understand that wanting it rough doesn't mean you are giving him carte blanch with your body. Away from the sex, tell him what you like and what you don't and ask him if he can respect your limits. If he says no, move on. If yes, make sure he does. If you get things worked out and you want to engage in mock forced sex where you resist and tell him stop and no but don't mean it, here's a Take that you need to read first:

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a7026-safe-words-for-role-play-sex

    • Thanks for the MHO. I"m glad you found it helpful.

  • I think he's just doing that because you asked for it. It's important to be honest with eachother - if you want him to stop, you have to tell him to stop!

Most Helpful Girls

  • Sometime when you're not doing it, talk about this with him. Maybe he thinks he's doing what you asked for but he's going too far because he doesn't know exactly what you want. Rough sex is a broad term and people have their own ideas of what that means.

    You need to set your limits with him and I would suggest a safe word, other than stop or get the F off me or ow, jk.

  • He probably isn't sure how rough you like it. Give him an idea of what is too rough so that he knows how far he should take it.

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  • Rough is a very broad range of behaviors.

  • guys like it like that, it helps them more

  • Can't speak for all guys... but for me personally, I enjoy being the rough dominant one!

  • You should ask him

  • Why do girls cry when u choke them. Im trying to get off their tears are ruining my boner.

    • Wow lol

  • Yell duirng six "Gear down, boy, Gear down!! Use the clutch!!"

    • during sex*** my fingers hate me

    • Lol that's funny

  • I can speak for most guys, yup we like to be rough during sex because that shows that we are dominating you 😉

  • Yeah.. Rough it.. Like a sandpaper..

  • You did not say bf this limit of rough sex only I like. But some guys real nature of doing the rough sex. You spk to him about this. If you speak with him frankly he will understand it.

  • We like to dominate, and take our frustrations out on the V.

  • scream when it hurts

    • I think he gets my screams confused lol

  • A pathetic attempt to prop up his own ego