I get really nervous when I send nudes and I don't know why?

[punkmonks]

I trust my boyfriend wholly and completely and I know he'd never abuse any photos I send him, but I just get very apprehensive when he asks me if I could send him nudes. He never forces me to and he understands that it's difficult for me, but I wish I could take the pictures confidently, not just for him but for me as well. I have no reason to be so scared; we've had sex and he's seen me completely naked, so why is a simple pic of me in my underwear so hard to send? And the times where I have been able to send him pictures he treats me like I'm some ethereal being and fawns over me for a solid half hour. I love recieving that sort of attention, but the act of taking and sending the picture is really nervewracking and I have absolutely nothing to be afraid of. I trust him, so why is this so difficult?

[LibraPisces66]

Sounds like your guidance or intuition is trying to tell you not to do it. And he shouldn't be asking if he knows it causes you apprehension. Never say never. You are 18, with your whole life ahead, and these pics are now out there forever. Do you know you will be with HIM forever? Let him see you nude or near-nude in person only. Listen to your guidance.

[OlderAndWiser]

"I trust my boyfriend wholly and completely and I know he'd never abuse any photos I send him. . .." How many girls felt that way and now regret it? Next time he asks for naked pictures, tell him, "I'll do something even better! Come over and I'll give you a live show!"

[punkmonks]

We're in a distant relationship, so that's not really very much of an option. :\

[OlderAndWiser]

If you are not present and seeing him on a daily basis, then you don't have a sufficient basis to trust him. Don't do it!

[punkmonks]

I'd agree with you on most accounts, but I talk to him every single day. We Skype about twice a week and I have no reason to believe he'd lie to me like that. He's very much a feminist and believes that it's absolutely not ok to publicize private photos. At all. I have confidence in him that those pictures have and will only be seen by him.

[OlderAndWiser]

So does he send you naked pictures of himself?

[punkmonks]

No, because I don't ask him to send any. I'm sure if I did he wouldn't hesitate, but I never really have a need to see his dick.

[YachtDance]

That's completely normal. You're putting yourself in a very vulnerable position... so to speak.

[coolbreeze2]

because its natural to feel awkward even with someone you trust