Guys, what can I do if anything to get my husband to want me again?

[Anonymous]

We have been married 2 and a half years now and the sex stopped in the first yr. He tells me he's tired or stressed but he takes care of himself in the bathroom a few mornings a week and he thinks i dont know. He works a lot , we own a business so i know he is tired , but no sex for over a yr? I ask him whats wrong and he says he has a low sex drive... really? Doesn't seem to me thats the case if he's masturbating. What do i have to do to get him to understand i need him to want me? Im getting tired of waiting.

[Ratiocinative]

When someone is not respecting you and your time the best thing to do is not give them your time. Schedule lots of activities with your friends. Maybe go out on a weekend or even a week vacation with your girlfriends.

Do NOT be rude or act upset, but do not ask his permission either. Just tell him. "Hey honey, going out tonight, see you when I get back" or "Hey honey, going on vacation this week with my friends, be back Saturday, have a great week!"

Be polite when you see him, but don't make any advances on him, don't ask him about his day, don't ask him about a date night, don't make him dinner. Basically pretend like you live alone unless he initiates contact with you. Wait for him to come to you. Eventually he will get to the message and (hopefully) realize he's not meeting your needs, apologize, and try to work things out.

[OlderAndWiser]

He may be masturbating out of habit more than out of need. It is possible that he is having an affair but I wouldn't jump to that conclusion, especially since he is regularly milking the moose. He may have low testosterone and a low libido can also be caused by other medical problems which are certainly a possibility in your age range.

If it is not a physical problem, you need to approach him and say, "I have a sexual need and I got married planning on us taking care of those needs together. That's not happening and it's a problem for me. What can we do to solve this problem together?"

In the meanwhile, ask him to use a vibrator on you to bring you to orgasm. After he has done that, don't talk about it but just start giving him a hand job or oral sex. Maybe - maybe - that will lead somewhere. Good luck.

[broadsword]

Try starting slowly tell him you know he is masterbating and as his wife you want to do it for him. Then after a few times see where it leads

[Not-Exactly]

Explain to him your needs and rights through this marriage. You can even workout a planed schedule through the week. But of course you can also be more persuasive than this.

[i1T2daty]

It's a long complex psychological story that doesn't really have a happy ending. It's the way we- both men and women- are wired. If you really want to hear the most convincing reasons (by far) I have ever heard, write.

[Klaatu51]

if it was bout sex drive i guess he'd fix it on his own basically.. he's just not interested ;-)

[Antizzl]

Married only Two years? No sex in a year? He's fucking somebody else. Don't take my word for it though. Put it in his face. Say who you fucking? He says no one, you say you must be fucking somebody cause you're not fucking me. You're not man enough to fuck me anymore? He will either fuck you right there or he will admit to his affair. Gotta be bold if he tries cower don't let him stay persistent. Don't worry if you come off as a bitch you haven't been laid in a year what does he expect.

[JackBig]

Its tricky but it can mean many things.. Depends if the relationship is healthy and how often you guys go out together.. I personally stopped being interested in my ex when her attitude jumped up later in the relationship showing her true colors.. I could not even think about sleeping with her, though we were not married we were together for 2 years

[countrydude]

Surprise him wuth a morning bj. Dressy sexxy ir sexxier wgen commung to bed. Or get naked... or masturbate while lying next to him. Then jump on him when he gets hard.
Or spice his evening drink with viagra or horneygoat weed.

[singlebee]

Wear something like this when he comes home... I am sure he won't reject you sex...

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[Nathand]

lose weight. Get better in bed. be more sexy. Lose the attitude.

Go MGTOW!!

[hypno-trip]

Just tell him directly? Undress yourself a bit?