Guys, Should I tell him im done with him?

[Anonymous]

So I've been hooking up with this guy for a few months now and he's really cool, funny and not to mention HOT! Before i go on we are just friends with benefits. Okay so the sex is great but im at the point that I really want something serious now but not with him. I want to move on but i dont want to hurt his feelings. Im seriously considering just dropping him and not saying anything but i think i would feel terrible afterwards. Should I tell him before moving on or Not. I mean it's not like he's my boyfriend... Please help?

[FreundwithBenefits]

Hey anonymous, first off, I want to say bravo for not just disappearing into the mist. Most people would do that, especially in something short-term like this, so you have a lot of balls for wanting to end it this way (I know that sounds weird, but just bear with me). This is very natural for a woman to feel this way, as sex usually means commitment on an unconscious level and now you've realized consciously that you want commitment, but not with him. Great. If it's a friends with benefits relationship, you probably won't hurt his feelings to end it. I understand that you want a relationship, but not with him and you don't want him to take the rejection personally (if he has similar feelings). You might just tell him you're seeing someone else you might like to be exclusive with. That excuse let's him know it's over without feeling like he should push for something more to keep it going. Hope that helps! Good luck, and let us know how it goes.

[Asker]

Thanks so much for the advice! I finally met up with him yesterday and explained to him that Im currently seeing someone and that I'm considering taking it to the next level and that I had to break things off with him. Thankfully, as you said, he took it well and in fact he himself has found someone that he is looking to become more serious with lol. I thought that was so funny, considering the fact that I was so nervous about hurting his feelings. He was also going through the same thing, not wanting to say anything to me in fear that he would hurt my feelings as well! We both laughed about that lol. So all in all things ended on good terms and both of us couldn't be happier! Thanks again!

[Anonymous]

jeez, you're friends with benefits , just chill. if you dont want to be with him, just say so. he'll just go to the next one, and so will you. do you think he'll care? you're just friends with benefits lol he def won't care! so stop trying to make a storm out of a cup of watter

[koibito]

Be truthful with him, that you found someone you like and as a sorta friend you felt like you should tell him some closure on why you left.

[Klaatu51]

if u wanna sth serious.. then better b honest with yer feelings basically...:-)

[No_Drama_]

Yes, please be honest with him and yourself. If it's done. Be done.

[Nathand]

be honest, so he can find another chick.

[Anonymous]

Change your boyfriend, if you feel so..