I can't understand how my boyfriend could be attracted to me because of porn? I really need advice?

[Anonymous]

I know he loves me and wants to spend his life with me. This is beside my point. I understand that you can be in love with somone and not want to spend a day without them, while still not being attracted to them. My boyfriend doesn't watch porn because he knows it upsets me. I wouldn't know if he does at home, but he has no internet connection at his family house and he doesn't have an iphone anymore, which is what he used to use to watch. We are usually together. But he still used to watch porn, and I feel really insecure compared to porn stars. How can he find me as attractive as he says? Speaking on a purely physical level, he says he loves my body and that I am perfect. Though when discussing my idea of getting implants, he has also attmitted that he did like porno girl's boobs better. He also said said that he liked a particular porno girl's butt better. He says he has seen girls that look that good in real life. He was just being honest, and it wasn't rude of him. You need to understand the rest of the conversation to know how these comments came about. I feel so ugly and average. How can I feel horny and sexy again? I don't. I'm dryer than a nun right now. How can I believe him when he says he loves my body? I don't look like a celebrity, a porn star, or even what of these real life girls he's seen. Again, this is beside love. I know he loves me, and everything else about our relationship is great. But sexually, well, I'm over it.

[Onyx277]

Men don't care about porn stars or have feelings for them. They DO care about real women though. Porn stars are no more than sex objects. People don't look like that in real life because it is just a fantasy. It was a bit inconsiderate of him to say he liked a porn star's body parts better. However, porn stars have all of those fake implants and shit to get paid on screen for money, that is all it's about. Even though he thought a porn star had nice tits, it's not like he would marry her and spend his life with her.

Porn is a lie. It is not glamorous. Look up the facts and see the truth. They are miserable with their lives. There are things you can do to make yourself feel sexier. Get your hair done, get a tan, buy some lingerie or something. If you let it sexually ruin your relationship with him it will eventually ruin the whole relationship. Porn stars mean nothing to men, and all they are there for is to get a nut off. It is not the real world, so you gotta let it go and let yourself live in the real world.

[HyperOrphic]

Because people who watch porn understand that porn is... porn. It's all fake - these are hired actors/actresses that are picked to just be appealing. You are attractive to him because you are REAL. You're not an actress painted up with implants who starves herself. You're a real beautiful girl with a real personality.

Porn is a means to get off. It doesn't mean your partner isn't attracted to you and wants you to look like these porn girls. I have a friend who is female who watches porn, not because her boyfriend isn't attractive, but because it's different and helps get her excited. It's normal.

[emerald77]

I'm sure he loves your body and you. Otherwise he wouldn't be with you!

[Rloco]

It's hard to explain because I know what he means. The girl I have a crush on is perfect but I still find some if the other girls more physically attractive. It's because they aren't really. There are girls that are also more physically attractive in real life. But there is something that you and my crush have that they don't. There is another thing that is so alluring and mesmerizing. I can't explain it. But the thought of my crush is on a whole other level. There is something extra and that is infinitely more appealing about you than any of these pornstars. I don't know how to explain it but it's an attraction that cannot even be compared. There is physical, mental, and a special attraction that can't be explained. I have a feeling the third is what you have with your boyfriend.

[AustinMan]

Bottom line: porn stars are just pixels on a screen. It's their job to look as hot as they can by whatever means necessary. Porn is about fantasy.

You're real, flesh, blood and above all, warm skin. Porn in entertainment. You're his lover. Count your blessings, get into his body, and the rest will take care of itself. If YOU want implants, get them but do NOT do it for him or anyone else but yourself.

[LonelyLillie13]

he is not a porn star so dont worry

[sobg71124]

Porn? Trust me, you have nothing to worry about in comparing yourself to that. A bunch of artificial, soulless, stretched out, anorexic, disease-ridden, ugly, strung-out whores, with no morals or self-respect. Really? It's not hard to believe that you are infinitely more attractive than any of them.

[Dakota_The_Rota]

Don't be so insecure.

[drayday4]

I can say the woman I loved most is not the prettiest one I ever dated nor does she have the best body out of the women I dated. But the more I cared about her the more beautiful and sexy she became to me. And a lot of porn stars don't look as nice in person

[Anonymous]

well... unless you led him about pornstars bodies i would be concerned of him mentioning them, ask him honestly who he would prefer you or one of them, keep in mind they dont really look like that, seriously look it up, so much make up and implants.

if love isn't the issue than ask him about your body compared to theres? and what does he like about your body?