How to watch porn with my guy?

[Anonymous]

I've heard things about couples watching porn with good and sexy outcomes. I think it would be really hot to watch it with my boyfriend. Only thing is, he doesn't have a reaction I'm happy with. He gets too into it and often will just forget that I'm there! I've wanted to try watching stuff where the girl isn't better looking than me, so that could feel turned on instead of insecure. Maybe even something where there's equal focus on a hot guy so there's something in it for me. I read stuff from guys on here where they say that they'll poke fun at a video, how fake it is and all that until something hot comes on. That's good. I'd like it if my boyfriend did that instead of just getting hard the second he sees big boobs. I want to watch porn with him for ideas. I think it would be fun to watch a video, and then play out what we saw in the video. But my guy gets too turned on by the video. He'll watch it for two minutes, jump me so quick that I don't even have time to get turned on, and then it's over in about three minutes. It just leaves me feeling like crap and unsatisfied.

[AustinMan]

My lady and I watch porn together. We use it the way you talk about: as a warm up, a source of what to do, like when that wench on the screen goes to her knees, I 'make" my wench do the same thing. Before long, we're into each other and kill the porn.

Talk to your man. Have a calm, direct, matter of fact conversation. No drama. No tears. No insecurities. No name calling. Just tell him you need for him to treat you as the primary one and the porn as an add on. Ask him for what you want without any accusations or accusatory tone.

[SNAG93]

There isn't much porn which focus on guys, but I think if u look at James Deen. He has some good films. If u r looking for natural girls, then NubileFilms is good. But im not sure cos i dont ur preference. I also think u should suggest to ur boyfriend that he needs to last longer cos u r feeling unsatisfied. Also communicate with him so he knows that u r part of the equation as well and that u want to try things with him.

[Asker]

James Deen is so ugly though!!! hahaha but he's enough to make it even with my guy. What's better about him (I THINK it's him, could be another popular male star) is that he makes a lot of videos with Stoya who looks a lot like me. Pale skin, skinny, black hair and small breasts. Thaks, James Deen sounds good actually. :)

[smexiliciousss]

haha im sorry tell him he's not allowed to touch you at all until a certain point itll drive him nuts

[Asker]

Do you think that'll bring his sexual focus back on me, too?

[nothingtosee]

Suggestion: Tie him up to a chair, naked. Then, put some porn on (porn with scenes that turns YOU one) and then stroke him softly and very slowly. Keep him on the edge the entire time and tell him he's not allowed to cum until afterwards. Tell him that if he cums before the movie ends, he will be punished. lol If he's able to control himself, let him cum while you stroke him, BUT, when he cums, don't speed up or stroke him harder. Keep stroking him softly and slowly, concentrating on just the tip, maybe using only 2 fingers.

Or, as you two watch, when he's tied up, ride him and tell him he's not allowed to cum until after the movie is done. The idea is to see how many orgasms you can achieve while you watch.

As you two watch, tell him what turns you on in that scene, or tell him that what you are watching is one of your fantasies.

[Shaft50]

It may pay to choose a site like softcore tube, but go to that site by yourself and shop around for what you like. Softcore is good because it's generally geared for couples so the guy/s are generally good looking too. Find something that appeals to you and let your guy know why it turns you on... personally, I think he needs to stop being selfish and focus on your pleasure, but that's just me.

[Asker]

Thanks, I'll have a look. And true. His lack of foreplay is the whole reason I'm trying to introduce porn. His idea of foreplay is to rub me so hard I can't even feel it for 30 seconds and then it's over...

[Shaft50]

Ouch! That's not good... I hope he doesn't turn you off sex altogether... pm if you want any other tips

[DaveyBaby107]

Do you watch it naked while holding his penis or giving him head? Hell, sit on his lap and let his penis fill you while watching. If you can only get him to focus by finding a certain kind of video, you've got bigger issues. Doesn't matter how hot the video is that my girlfriend turns on.

[Dragan]

Porn will not give you ideas. If you want superb sex, multiple orgasms for you and him, then learn tantra.

[jakeofalltrades]

try watching amateur porn, it not always the best quality but it is just your average people doing it.

[Anonymous]

If i can find those bookmarks I can post a few links to some of the few videos with an average girl and typical "hot guy". I remember them to be a bit of the reverse, most of the focus on the guy and him being the "eye candy". Is your boyfriend insecure of himself?