Girls, Sexually frustrated why is she saying no?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my girlfriend for 9 months now.. we started dating in matric & we left school 2gether... she's a virgin.. on our second month together, we connected so much to the point where she was ready to give her virginity 2 me.. we went to a lodge bt at the lodge a mistake happened & we never had sex... the 3rd tym we went there, we were in a shower together & I went down on her, she told me it felt amamzing & that she's never had a guy go down on her... as I tried 2 put my penis in her vagina, it slipped & I missed becuz her body was wet & I've neva had sex in a shower before so I wasn't used 2 how its done... she stopped me & stared at my penis for a while.. I had no condom on then she said she didn't wanna hav sex & changed her mind... then we had dry sex as we usually do.. the 4th tym, we left early & never got 2 have sex becuz her dad called & she had 2 leave (she's not allowed 2 date)... We've had arguments since then till now about other issues that don't involve sex... & if I ask her if she wants 2 end the relationship, she cries & says no... We haven't been 2 the lodge in 2 months now & she doesn't seem interested in trying again... im really sexually frustrated & the relationship is getting boring for me, why is she saying no to sex now?

[BaileyisDarcy]

She's not ready yet. Plain and simple.

And if you're getting bored of a relationship, it's not because she's not putting out. It's because you seem to be stacking all your interactions on the hopes that she does put out and you don't seem to be in it for anything else.

If you're only with her for sex then I suggest you leave. That's not fair on her.

[AnnVdB]

You guys need to sit down and talk this through. I mean a relationship is nothing without communication. Sit down together, share your desires and wants and also relate to the other person and get to know what exactly she wants or is afraid of etc...

[throwit]

She's probably nervous and doesn't want to have sex too early. Maybe she's still unsure about you and doesn't think you deserve to be the one to take it.

[FantasticRain]

Maybe she's new to this and a little bit scared... And you say she isn't allowed to date.. so that'sust be the reason..

[beautifulangel76]

She obviously isn't ready yet. Give her some time and be patient.

[gbtalk]

Dude cos she is not ready, if you can't wait or like you said "the relationship is getting boring for you" end it and get it from a girl who will put out. Sorry to be harsh but from last statement you seem to be interested in sex.