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Girls, do any of you refuse to suck dick?

So I've had 3 guys, and the first two dumped me cos I don't do BJS. I've been with my current boyfriend for 6 months and I've never sucked his cock. He keeps asking me and I keep avoiding it. I don't want to put a penis in my mouth. I hate it. I hate sperm as well it's disgusting. I don't want it anywhere near my face never mind in my mouth. Anyway he's been giving me oral 2-3 times a week pretty much from the start. It feels amazing and I like it. I let him fuck me and I ride him sometimes but I hate the idea of fellatio. I'm worried because recently he licked me out for over an hour. I came 3 times then he stopped and asked me to suck him off and swallow his cum. I said NO WAY! He got mad and we argued. Eventually he asked if I would at least toss him off but I wanted to go asleep. I thought he would wank him self off but he just went to sleep with a hard on. He stormed out the next day and said I had give him blue balls. I haven't heard from him in a week. Is he going to dump me too? What's the big deal? I'm on the pill and let him cum inside me but I just don't do oral. Am I selfish Do any of you girls actually like cum in your mouth and even swallow?
I don't suck cock either but receive oral
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I don't suck cock and DONT receive oral
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You are selfish and should suck cock- a little bit of cum won't hurt you
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You should suck cock and swallow if you get your pussy licked
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You should suck cock but spit out cum if you don't like it
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Is there any girls like me who receive oral n don't give? or no oral at all? I want to hear your views- I can't be alone in this. I did try to make some progress. I went round to his and we talked. He went down on me again. I tried to do him. I got as far as putting his soft penis head in my mouth and gagged! This time I did wank him off but he got pissy and huff with me wen I stopped when he started coming and he jizzed on the floor. I didn't want cum near my face! At least I tried.
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A few days ago I sucked dick properly for the 1st time. I didn't like it at first but I kept going managed to make him cum. I felt good I got him off with only my mouth. It wasn't a "complete blowjob" though as I stopped as he was about to cum. My boyfriend laughed and said I had give him a ruined orgasm but was greatful for my efforts. Cheeky git just cos he came on the floor and not in my mouth. Tonight I'm going to try and go one better. I hope Im not sick. Any advice for cum in mouth girls?
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  • I see this from both sides - he gives to please you but feels rejected that you dont want to for him. However, it is something you arwnt comfortable with and can't be forced to do it or enjoy it. The only way to learn to enjoy things is if we try them and have positive experiences associated with it. I think your reluctance is probably because the thought of it is overwhelming and the pressure makes you feel inadequate. But it doesn't have to be that way - you just need to try it at your own pace without presssure. First have a discussion with your boyfriend about how you feel about him, that your reluctance to do it isn't a reflection of how you feel about him but is your anxiety about not having done it before and its rather overwhelming to imagine it. You could tell him maybe he could help you as it is a new experience that you want to explore but it isn't going to all happen wonderfully to start with and you just need him to allow you to explore at your own pace. So if he's open to that then all he really has to do is lay back and let you do what you are comfortable with - the first time might just be about you getting comfortable with his dick in your face - try just feeling his incredibly smooth soft skin as it brushes you cheek for example. You might then add as you feel comfortable kisses, licks, sucks. Whatever but just do what you feel comfortable with. If he can just let you do that and escalate when you are ready and encourage you by telling you he liked it then you will build more confidence each time. You dont have to get him to come from it first, second, or even third time. And it can be a really enjoyable experience to give... I love the affect it has on guys, most guys just look at you like you are a goddess if you just stick it in your mouth-haha.

    • Thanks for your advice :) I made some progress but not there just yet. How old were you when u first give in my boyfriends words a "proper blowjob" And when I asked him what this was he said when's girl doesn't stop sucking as he cums In her mouth. He's not bothered if I swallow or not but I'm not letting him xum in my mouth.

    • I am pleased you have made progress - tell him he needs to be patient as if he keeps pressuring you then you feel less like doing it I bet. I must admit none of the guys I have been with have ever complained with how much I did. I guess I was in my 20s the first time I did it - first couple of times I spat it out but then I found swallowing easier - it was a bit by accident the first time and then it was like "hey that worked better". But he shouldn't be pressuring you...

  • I literally just finished a book on this topic. a REAL book.. not like a magazine. So Im going to ask you to put things into a male perspective.

    You might be seeing and hearing your boyfriend get mad because you didn't let him get off. But this is what he is actually thinking when you refuse to suck his dick...

    His dick is the very essence of his manhood. Its a huge part of his identity. and when a man watches a girl suck his dick he literally feels like a king. Its not just the physical pleasure.. he is receiving mental stimuli that is telling him that he is a MAN. And ask any guy... there are few things in a mans life that compare to an experience that reiterates to him that he is indeed a f***ing MAN.

    So when you refuse to suck his cock.. you are literally refusing a huge part of his identity.. you are hurting his ego. Your not just leaving him with a hard on... you are doing far more damage in ways you don't even realize.

    Definitely and most likely has to do with why you got dumped before. and If your not careful.. your going to make this guy feel a girl... and he will resent you for that and look for someone who worships his cock.

    FYI: I don't like sucking dick. I do it for the guy. It definitely helps to watch videos.. on youtube on how to get over that kind of stuff. and what a good "bj" actually is. Its not just sucking the whole time.. and a lot of girls do this if they don't want to swallow.. they whisper in the guys ear and tell him that they want their boyfriend to cum all over her or in between her legs... etc. He will wanna please you.. and the fact that you tell him where to cum actually is a huge turn on.. he won't think twice about it,

    • It's all of that? Shouldn't he be happy with my pussy or a handjob? I know I didn't wank him off but only cos I thought he would want to cum in my mouth at he end

    • You have no idea. I PROMISE you its all of that. and NO he will never be happy with just your pussy or a handjob. At the root of every mans being is his conquest to "BE A MAN". and while eating you out or a handjob doesn't hurt this conquest it just doesn't fulfill it. You need to worship his cock.. figuratively.. just make him believe it.. none of us girls actually like a penis its freaking disgusting! But hey we can be dramatic and good actors. He'll eat it all up.

    • Sexual tips to avoid swalling or tasting his cum. Get nutella.. or cookie butter or something that you can put on his dick while your giving him a blowjob. it will make it much more do able. If you don't want cum in your mouth then in the sluttiest and sexiest way possible tell him that you want his sweet warm milk all over your breasts.. or over your stomache.. or in between your legs. He'll get an image in his head and he'll follow through cuz hell want to please you.

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  • He made you cum 3 times and you couldn't even give him a handjob... really...😒

    • No because I thought we would want to xum in my mouth at the last moment. He keeps going on about it.

  • That's incredibly selfish. I think if both partners enjoy receiving oral sex, it's really selfish for one to be willing to provide and the other not to. I don't blame him for being upset; I certainly would be if the tables were turned. Giving head is really not that bad. Cum is not nearly as gross as you're making it out to be. I think you've convinced yourself that it's disgusting, and you're looking for excuses to back up your fear and revulsion.

    I think you either need to get over yourself, or find a guy who doesn't enjoy oral. They're out there.

    • Actually tonight i gave it another go. I'm going to bed shortly but will update my question with details of it tomorrow. Well your obviously feeling strong on this matter. So u give as much oral as u receive? Do u allow cum in mouth and swallow? i have made some good progress since my first question which u will see in my update. Whixh actually makes me think, how old were you when you gave your first full blowjob? (As In not in a warm up to sex but a blowjob through to him ejaculating) I hope my update will make you see me as less selfish. Thanks

    • It's about equal in my relationship. And yes, I do swallow his cum. Not always, but most of the time. And how old was I... hmm, 16, I think? Anyway, hope things go well for you two.

  • That's a bit selfish, don't you think? I mean I don't have any intentions of ever swallowing a man's cum, let alone have it in my mouth, but I'm always willing to suck my guy off because I love him and he does the equivalent for me. You can't expect to have a relationship where only you receive the pleasure you want; it's a two-way street.

    • I sucked him off and have now went one better

  • Omg it's just a cock, it won't hurt you.

  • well, if you want to keep receiving oral, you gotta do some too. it doesn't go only one way.. i used to give my boyfriend oral, but then he only ate me 2 times, so i stopped giving him oral as well..

    • Does he not get on your back to give him oral all the time? How long have you stopped giving Bjs? Only twice? That would SUCK. Ha ha my guy loves to eat me. Maybe you should ask him to eat you out like guys keep asking for their dick sucked!

    • i don't remember how long. my boyfriend is not a fan of bjs. and he's not a fan of eating me out. i keep asking him, but he hasn't done it yet.

    • A bit harder to get eaten out if he isn't bothered about Bjs. I've always had guys eat me out. It's my favourite part of sex. If they didn't I would probs have to try and give Bjs to get it but since I don't have to I don't. Lol. Are u fully shaved and fresh when u ask him? If so I can't see why he won't unless he has the same mentality I do to giving oral.

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  • He is puttin in overtime and u " nothing" very selfish

    • How often do u give Bjs? I do a feel a bit selfish but I can't help it

    • I lick my mans asshole and he does to me bj no problem

    • Eugh no thanks

  • All girls don't like sucking dick, you're not bad, even girls who suck do it to please their partner, it's kind of deceptive to say I like your dick, but I really don't, these guys have to accept the fact ! that women don't feel sexual pleasure during dick sucking, and they are on the contrary disgusted, for thousands of years people have had sex and reproduce without sucking dick, this is not an essential part of sex, and everyone has things they like and things they don't like about sex, that's normal, your boyfriend should respect that, he acts like spoiled boy ! I advise you to leave him because it gives impression that he is with you for sucking dick only haha, and just as he will find a lot of girls who accept dick sucking, you too will find a man who finds your beautiful naked body in front of him a real treasure, pls what a man does with your boobs, vagina and ass this It's normal sex, so you don't have to suck a dick to give back ! don't do something you don't want to do, or just because a lot of people do, be okay.

  • I dont really like cum either, I still suck my bfs dick but I take it out of my mouth right before he cums. I also give him handjobs a lot but when he is about to cum I always quickly stop and let go of his dick so it doesn't get on my hand 😂

    He still cums, just without anything touching his dick since I let go :P

  • He goes down on you that often and you can't return the favor? How selfish! I don't blame the guy for getting mad. Sex is a give and take thing. You have don't have to swallow or anything if that grosses you out, but at least give the guy a blowjob...

    • I'm trying. I got to about 30 seconds until I gagged recently. But u hate the thought of him cumming in my mouth or on my face! Ok so u give Bjs but what do u do when they cum?

    • I personally don't have an issue with it. I swallow... It is okay to not like cum though. Not all girls can handle it. It can take some time to be comfortable with giving blowjobs, and it's a little easier if they are hard instead of soft. Everyone has a gag reflex, and that takes time to control so don't worry about gagging. I did read your update though. If you tried, he should give you some credit. It's something to take slow and work on not rush in to... especially when you are not entirely comfortable with the idea. I do think he over reacted when he got pissy with you over stopping. Not every girl out there wants cum near their face. In the mean time though, you should not be accepting oral from him if you are not willing to work on giving him oral. It's about fairness.

    • I'm seeing him tomorrow. If we decide to be naughty I will let you know of any progress ha ha

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  • you're selfish. and these answers to this question? W>T>F

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