How can I get my girlfriend to give me bjs again?

[Anonymous]

Girlfriend doesn't give bjs anymore. She used to do it once in a while but now she doesn't do it anymore. She says she doesn't like it. I get it because i didn't like eating girls out before but i learned to love it because of what the girl feels and it turns me on. I love her but this is kind of a dealbreaker to me. I dont have a large penis so i make up for it by being very generous in the bedroom. I understand that she doesn't have to reciprocate all the time but it would be nice, you know? Our sex life is pretty great. We have the connection i was looking for but her not giving bjs is a big thing for me. I eat her out pretty often because i love it now and it kind of hurts me that she doesn't reciprocate. I've been with her for almost two years. I dont know if its something i can fix. Im at the point where i want to leave her.

[Anonymous]

You need to be open and honest with yourself and with her. If you don't need oral sex, then just stop thinking about it and stop bothering her about it. If you need it, then you need to tell her. She needs to know. If this is something that is making you want to break up with her, then she needs to know that tool. Open, honest, frank and loving communication is very important in every sexual relationship. These are important things to talk about. And if after knowing these things she still won't give you what you need, then you need to break up with her and find a woman who will give you what you need and enjoy doing so. Many of us women enjoy oral sex, sucking cock and swallowing cum, so you shouldn't have that much trouble finding one of us either.

[Anonymous]

Some girls just don't like giving blowjobs. I didn't before, but learned to like it a bit more. I sill don't love it. And cum grosses me out. Maybe that's her problem. Ask her if there's a reason she doesn't like it. It might just be because she doesn't like a dick in her mouth, but maybe it's something else. Do you swear badly? Do you wash it often? There may be an odor coming from it that turns her off. Do you shave? Does she like shaven or hair?

[Asker]

Im shaven and clean. I swear. Many times i shower right before. Its not something i want her to do allthe time. I just want her to want to do it. Many times ill just eat her out without her saying anything and other times she'll ask me for it and i happily oblige. I just wish she would do that for me.

[Anonymous]

Wow if you are willing to leave because she doesn't give you a bj then you shouldn't be with her in the first place! to dump a girl over something so stupid is redicioulus! You're an absolute idiot! no it's not something you can fix if she doesn't like it teen she doesn't like it. Tell her you miss it and maybe she'll do it again, but breaking up with her because of it, you would be an ass hole!

[GoodDogNigel]

Rude, and with a disturbing lack of punctuation.

[Opinion Owner]

Get over it! You call me rude! Your the ass hole that wants to dump your girlfriend because she won't give you a blow job! Get over yourself! You are lucky she's even with you! She could do so much better, and I don't even know her! But truthfully no matter who she is she should have to put up with a duche bag like you!

[Asker]

I dont understand how im an asshole. You have dealbreakers too dont you?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh and by the way go f*** yourself, cause obviously your girl friend doesn't want to anymore!

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah like if they don't brush their teeth! Like really? im sorry I'm being rude but seriously you're such an ass if you do that! Like honestly you don't think that you do things that piss her off? Get over yourself!

[Asker]

I know there's things i do that piss her off. But there's also things she does that pissme off. These things happen in relationships but itry to not do them as much as i can. I know i have my faults. But dont both partners deserve to be happy?

[GoodDogNigel]

I'm not the guy with the problem, that's the asker of the question. Also, the correct word is "you're" as it, "you are".

[Opinion Owner]

The only thing that she can do to make you happy is give you a bj?

[Opinion Owner]

Wow good job you can spell! You must be so proud

[Asker]

No its not the only thing. am i the only person that would do something they dont like or want to do simply because their partners likes it?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh yeah sorry asker didn't mean most of my hatred towards you most of it is for goodognigel for being a f****** idiot! He probably doesn't even have someone to f with!

[Opinion Owner]

You said you like it now so don't make it seem like you only do it for her, you do it for yourself now too

[Asker]

Oh yeah i know. I do it for my self now too. But i can't be the only personthat feels this way. im sure there's been girls who gave bjs but the guy didn't reciprocate

[Opinion Owner]

Well take it from a girl who hates bj, just because she doesn't like it doesn't mean she won't do it if it means that you really want it. You should just tell her being like "hey I miss them, you do it so well. do you mind giving me one?" Maybe more smoothly but just tell her. It might not happen all the time but for her to know you miss it and you really want it can help you out with her a little!

[Asker]

I could try that.

[stephx]

is your sex life really great? I can't imagine why a girl wouldn't want to give bjs if she's completely satisfied with the sex she's having with her partner... maybe you should stop giving her oral too? when she was giving you bjs how did you respond? it's a turn off if the guy doesn't respond well while receiving bjs... maybe that could be why? how about hygiene?

[Asker]

Im clean. I take showers before we get down. I dont want to stop giving her oral because i know she loves it. I responded pretty well. She knew i liked it.

[kizzle111]

just tell her bro, thats the best u can do right now because it's kinda unfair your pleasing her and she's not doing the same and if it doesn't change then u can move on

[Asker]

I guess i could try.

[electrollama]

You have to respect her decision. There's nothing you can do about it.

[Asker]

I do respect it. I just dont know why she used to do it and then stopped.

[electrollama]

Maybe she never really enjoyed it but felt pressured before.

[Asker]

Thats the thing i never pressured her. She did it on her own. There were these 2 times we got drunk together and both times she gave me a random bj.

[electrollama]

Not pressured by you, pressured by her own perceived expectations. Kind of like how girls shave their arm pits even if their partner doesn't care and they're rather not care about it. It's just perceived as something they should do.

[Asker]

Wow i never thought about it like that.

[Woooow]

So be straite up with her and tell her that u would rlly like it if she would do it more often.. Because it really makes u happy and if she still doesn't then move on if that how stron u feel toward it

[GoodDogNigel]

Was that supposed to be English?

[Asker]

I want to shake the fact that its my dealbreaker but i haven't been able to. I guess i could talk to her about i juar dont know how to bring it up.

[Woooow]

Br like so I'm gna be straite up with u and not play games... And tell her

[tzdc21]

I would tell her how much it means to you, and if she refuses to do what you've done for her, trying to learn to enjoy it because that's what you enjoy, then it's time to leave her.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you ask her?

[Asker]

I guess i could im just nervous about it