Guys, I just found out my boyfriend has two snapchat accounts. The new/second account is filled with porn stars. I'm hurt/torn. What do I do and say?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. 1 yr into the relationship I downloaded snapchat n immediately hated the app once I started reading about it being a sexting app. seeing my boyfriend had a previously super high score didn't help so I told him I wasn't comfortable and I was just going to delete it. He assured me he only uses it for sending silly pics (I was still skeptical) but I told him a cple guys tried asking me for pics which also is why I was uncomfortable and deleting it. He said he didn't want me to worry so he was going to delete it. I told him I wasn't asking him to but he insisted he wanted me to feel 100% comfortable n he deleted it too. 6/7 months later, I saw on his phone he downloaded it again. I asked and he said he only downloaded it once to see a pic his friend sent, then deleted it. I let it go. Then a wk/or two later I saw again he downloaded it. I logged in and saw he had been using it with many others. I confronted him n he admitted he had been using it but didn't want to tell me bc he didn't want me to worry. I was very hurt that he had been using it deliberately behind my back for the past few weeks. He admitted he kept downloading it n deleting it so I wouldn't see it when he came home. We had a huge talk about trust and honesty going forward. We've never had an issue with that before snapchat.. he kept saying he just didn't want me to worry and promised he wasn't doing anything wrong or talking to any girls. I made him log on to show me his friends list and there were a cple porn stars in the feed. I told him I am not comfortable with the app n I dont want it in my relationship. He told me he would delete it.. Again. I said if he ever felt the urge to download it again at least tell me, dont hide it. He said it won't ever happen again. Now 6 months later I was snooping n found out he created a 2nd username. I logged on n its entirely dedicated to pornstars! I dont mind him watchin porn but Im not ok with snapchat! I feel completely disrespected.

[Anonymous]

I don't think these other dudes get the point. You forgave him twice (shouldn't have happened twice in the first place). It is about him doing it behind your back. You have a great point when it comes to the tables being turned. It is unfair for him to have done this to you. These girls are probably way out of his league anyway because these internet famous chicks are just spamming their followers with erotic pictures/videos. Also, he has you and your permission to watch porn on the internet. Go get his grandma high or something.

[Krillanr]

I have trouble seeing the priority of it, but I'm very relaxed with these things, it seems to me if he says he doesn't want to worry ya, then ya either believe him or ya don't, and if ya don't care if he looks at porn then? I care about your issue but I'm logical in my thinking so the emotional value eludes me.

[Asker]

Should I be concerned with the fact that he keeps hiding it from me? It makes me question that if he is continuing to hide something like this what else could he be hiding.. I am bothered but at the same time I am trying to be logical and tell myself it's just porn. He's already told me him watching porn has absolutely nothing to do with me... I know he only does it when I'm not around. I'm extremely bothered by him hiding it though and I'm more bothered that using snapchat to look at porn makes it a bit more personal.. it certainly makes it that much easier to start chatting back and forth with them and wether he is responding to them or not- he is still receiving naked pics of other women.. Of course I'm bothered by that. he would not like guys sending me naked pics!

[Krillanr]

Ah I see, ya if it's a personal connection with the people in the pictures then I understand you being bothered, that ain't right for him to do while dating ya. There are a number of reasons he could be doing it, and a number of ways you could react, but try to suppress your emotional conflict when you decide what to do about it. I think you're in the right for how ya feel, but don't put him on trial, go at it remembering ya care about him instead of being angry. You'll get much better results. Also be clear about how ya feel, that it genuinely bothers you, approaching these things in a sincere way is what will gain you the most progress, in my opinion.

[Asker]

Thank you, I truly appreciate your feedback.. I am not the type of girl that wants to lash out, if something is bothering me I rather analyze the situation to try and be logical and fair while still addressing my feelings. I do feel guilty for snooping, but I saw things in the google history which lead me to believe he was still using snapchat.. To me that's fair game to look into since we have had an ongoing issue with that specifically. Outside of this he hasn't given me a real reason to worry about him and other women.. I feel like using this app he is teetering on the fine line of temptation and I don't think I can be knowingly ok with that in my relationship.

[inoeht]

The fact that he made a second account to conceal activities that he isn't proud of (or that he engages in said activities) is already proof enough that he might be up to other "hinkey" business. Honestly, if I had a girlfriend doing that, I'd probably dump her.

There's no reason to waste your time with someone that doesn't want to waste their time with you. :)

Also, 2 1/2 years as bf/gf is a fairly good amount of time. This might be another indicator of the real way he feels about you.

[Scrambled]

This sex worker that i slept with invited me on snapchat. Lol... I never went with it because at the end of the day I would have to pay again, but still very interesting. Need to find these pornstars.

[sid312]

Really ur hurt over a guy with porn stars? U should be hurt if it were regular girls not porn stars! Just fantasy

[Antizzl]

I am really sorry you're going through this. He's such a pig and you should break up with him. by the way any chance you can get us this contact list of porn star snap chatters?

[Sexualchrist]

So he's snap chatting with porn stars?

[Asker]

I dont know if he is personally snap chatting with them But it certainly makes it that much easier! I would much rather him go on friggin pornhub than to look up "dirty snap chat usernames" and "sexy selfies".. In my opinion, snapchat brings it to a more personal level.. he's basically getting naked pics from other girls wether he is responding to them or not- thats whats happening and Im bothered by that. If the tables were turned he wouldn't like me to have my snap chat filled with naked men

[Sexualchrist]

Yeah, that's pretty fucked up.

[Nathand]

enjoy his hobby with him.

[qwerty1313]

Guys can love their girlfriend and still watch porn. its just girls don't give them all the attention they want. They still love you as much as he did when you started dating but its impossible for you to be at his side to give him a blowy or handy whenever he wants/

[Anonymous]

its porn so no worries if he's talking to women in real life thats a different issue

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a player, tbh. I know because I am one lol. Guys who are players will sneak around to get some on the side no matter how good their woman is. That's what he's doing.

[Anonymous]

you should create an account, find some fake pics and catch him, then he will know that you know everything, if he doesn't feel bad about it then dump him!