I'm an asexual male, with a foot fetish. Is this strange?

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I've never found the woman's sexual organs attractive in the slightest, these include the vagina and breasts, of course. In fact, they rather disgust me as I find them ugly and unsanitary and I would never touch them, strange I know. But what I do crave deeply, is a woman's feet. I've had it ever since I could remember, dating back to my infancy honestly. It was hard growing up and learning in this environment where societal norms would have you "Do this to make babies and pleasure each other" but I have no desire for it, but I do have a foot fetish. Is there a term for this or am I just weird beyond explanation? Thank you.

shessoheavy · Accepted Answer

An asexual is someone who does not feel any sexual attraction. Asexuality is a sexual orientation and like any other is just the way you were made. Asexuals can experience romantic and aesthetic attraction however. So, you could find someone to be handsome/ beautiful and want to form relationships but with no or little desire to engage in sexual intercourse with anyone; though some asexuals don’t feel those forms of attraction either. There are also grey areas where you may only experience sexual attraction occasionally. Also masturbation is related to sex drive or libido not always sexual attraction.

So asexuals can have libidos and experience arousal. If a fetish does not involve sexual attraction, then an asexual could have it. I am an asexual with a fetish; my fetish is women's fashion or maybe just femininity. I have never had a sexual thought. I used to try to force myself to have them before I know about asexuality, but I never was successful; I have never came to an orgasm while thinking about sex, but have several times when not. My fetish is a bit confusing for me, because I often wonder if it came about naturally, or if it was created by me trying to think about women while masturbating but being unable to think about sex with them. anyway, just do not think that an asexual person can't have a fetish, because that is BS. The key to detemining if a fetish is sexual is whether or not is based on sexual attraction.

404filenotfound · Accepted Answer

It sounds less like you're asexual and more like you have paraphilia that interferes with "normal" sexual behavior; a fetishistic attraction that's so strong that it completely overrides attraction to the genital area. You're probably not going to find a healthy realitionship where you indulge your lusts without reciprocating in some way:

Ask yourself how fair it would be to expect someone to let you have your way with their feet knowing that you'd "never touch them" where they need to be touched to find sexual satisfaction, seems a bit double standardy no

If this "fetish" interferes with other aspects of your life, you may want to seek out therapy.

hanscuit · Accepted Answer

Nothing wrong with having a foot fetish lol im actually friends with a lot of gamer guys who have a foot fetish to be 100% honest. And its not weird, some people just aren't attracted to what "Society" brainwashes the rest of us to think of as "normal" or "Attractive" I dont give 2 craps what society says im my own person, and i think you're just fine lol

Lifeisnihilistic · Answer

Well, yes and no. It's just not average. You'd expect a male to be heterosexual and manly. But there are differences all around the world. Me for example, I'm bisexual and go crazy with blue hair. You're just asexual and podophile (foot fetish), that'd be your ''term''. Not strange but not average. I hope you can find a nice couple or at least friends whom let you be the way you are xD.

RobCammarata · Answer

yep. But I think you know this.

Hephaestus · Answer

Then you're not asexual.  Fetish is a sexual desire towards something... thus totally contradicts asexuality

Klaatu51 · Answer

then u r not asexual at all ;-)

Skadouchebag · Answer

Well, I do know that the foot fetish results from a miswiring in the brain. The area of the brain for sex is right next to the one for feet, and adjacent brain regions can sometimes crosswire during development.