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Girls, I had a penectomy operation and no longer have a penis. Would you date me/have sex with me/have a relationship?

I was unfortunate to be diagnosed with penile cancer 2 years ago... most cases are of older men but mine was in my mid 20s Sadly I had to have 90% of my penis amputated. I am lucky that there was enough left for me to be able to pee from standing up (although only barely so most of the time I sit down) When aroused I can grow up to an inch but that is all. I live a healthy happy life but I reject dates off girls and dont go out much for fear of rejection or being laughed at. Only my family and best friend know about my condition. I'm wondering how big (no pun intended) a problem it would be for me not to have a penis. Sex wise I would give oral sex although it is frustratingly difficult for me to reach orgasm ( I am constantly horny as its so hard to masterbate) and I cannot offer penetrative sex. I want to know honest answers please only. Would you be willing to DATE, have SEX or pursue a RELATIONSHIP with me if you found me attractive?
I would be willing to DATE have SEX and try a RELATIONSHIP if I liked you
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I would only be willing to DATE you for fun couldn't have sex and can't see a future together
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I would have SEX with you only (curiosity of seeing your condition) (I wouldn't mind I miss getting laid! Lol)
Vote C
I could have a RELATIONSHIP I don't need sex at all
Vote D
Aslong as u were a nice guy and could give me oral I would do DATES and RELATIONSHIPSand try and help you Ejaculate however I could
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Thanks for the answers it sounds like women won't think I'm a freak based off your majority voting. I think il make baby steps towards dating again. Oh to see and feel a woman's body again... I can't wait! Not to mention some companionship and person to buy gifts for and enjoy Christmas etc. Maybe this is the time I get back on with my life and put the whole hell behind me. Not having a penis doesn't make me any less of a man- I can satisfy my future partner in other ways.
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  • I'm sorry to hear that. If you were a nice guy and the girl really liked you, she wouldn't change her mind afterwards. Just don't blurt out on the first date of this, that would make me uncomfortable. I do agree with your opinion that if you think your women needs penetration that you will allow it on occasion (maybe like a stripper for a birthday present). Another idea would be to purchase a dildo to tie around your waist so it feels like the whole thing to her. Overall, I have a VERY high sex drive, so it would also be good for you to find a woman who isn't crazy about sex. I have other friends that are like myself, and some that don't care about it that much.

    • I have a realistic looking prosthetic penis- two actually one flaccid one hard whixh I can wear but she might still want the real thing. I am realistic and would allow a stripper or what not not for special occasions

    • Then that's perfect :) Communication is key!

    • I would possibly feel jealous a little of my girl/wife having sex with a stripper- even if just as a treat but if she would stay by me the rest of the time I would support her and allow it. it would just be sex after all. I'd like to think our relationship would be about much more than that. I suppose to make it feel less awkward I could get a lap dance off a girl strippper while she gets her penetration fix lol I could use the strap on prosthetic to give Dr penetration myself but guess it's never going to feel as good as a real penis. He would have to wear a condom though. I don't think I'd like him cumming on or in her.

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  • If you can do well with your fingers and tongue, it shouldn't really be a problem. Also, if you're a really nice guy and I genuinly liked you, I'd make it work - but honestly, there's something special about having sex (and I mean all they way with penis in vagina) with a loved one and I would probably feel like that was missing from our relationship

    • I understand that. I'm willing to allow my future partner occasions when she can fill that need if need be

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  • A relationship is fine.

    • Oh wow really? It's nice there are women out there like you. Would you not be jealous of relationships with full sex available?

    • I honestly don't care too much for sex. I think emotional connections are far more important.

  • I truly feel bad for you, hope everything goes ok

    • An thankyou darling it's ok it could be worse I had 5 years of great sex before I had my penis amputated. My only regret sex wise is I never got to have a good blowjob and all the columns I read on sex guys say how good it feels to cum in a girls mouth. Never mind at least I'm not a virgin... I used to be a bit cocky (another unintended pun) and full of myself as I was quite well endowed- well 7 inches anyway but if nothing else losing my willy has made me appreciate other things in life and now I love just to kiss a girl or hug I've been frightened to go any further but it's time to stop being scared. Im a total willing oral giver and I aim to become an expert in that area lol

    • I might have had more but my first girlfriend I thought was the one wouldn't have set with me as she wasn't ready. I hung around for 2 years with her until I found her texting another guy! I wasted 2 years with her the best I got was handjobs even though I licked her out- she didn't want full sex. We wee engaged but I had to cancel it. Sometimes I wish I had had a bit more experience with other girls I might have got a blowjob at least. But like I said it could be worse I got to have full sex eventually. Then I became a bit of a player and I got punished. I'm happy it didn't spread and now I'm healthy.

  • Date and have a relationship? If I liked you, absolutely. Not sure about sex, but that's my attitude regardless -it's got nothing to do with what you do or don't have.

    • Oh ok. Sex not for you? Or have you had bad experiences?

    • Combination living situation and some bad history.

  • It wouldn't matter to me. As long as we had an emotional connection not much else matter in my opinion. I'd be fine and id try any way I could to make you happy XP

    • I don't think you would want to do the things to me needed to get me off :( it's a bit grosse. I can only cum from masterbation by rubbing my balls and rubbing what's left of my stump. I guess I'd I as my balls sucked that could work but I've never met a girl who would do that. But I would be a giving lover and a good partner I think. Loyal and caring.

    • Awww I'm sure you'll still find someone. You seem like a very good guy.

    • If only I could meet a woman who knows my condition but I'm scared to show anyone or tell girls in case they laugh at me. I get some attention as apart from losing my penis I am fit and work out a lot. I'm told I have a nice smile.

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  • If you were a nice guy and we cared a lot for each other, I can have a relationship with you. I don't sleep around, so I wouldn't have sex until we were really serious. IF it got to that point, you still have your mouth and fingers, and I could try to help you get pleasure as well. That's what caring people would do!

    • I can definitely still use my mouth and tongue :) although it's been a LONG time since I got to make use of them with a woman. Seeing the positive feedback on here make me think I might not be on my own forever. I also might see a naked woman's body again ha ha.

    • Never rule out hope. I chose to believe there are good, compassionate people in this world. Good people deserve happiness; something that changed you that was out of your control is not your fault. I'm sure you will find the right woman that understands and cares for you, and you can care for her. :)

  • I would give a relationship a try it's not all about sex it's about having someone to be there for you to be your rock

    • Thanks honey nice to hear

  • I'm sorry but I would be totally fascinated to see a guy without a dick. I'm sorry but it's the truth. I would be nice about it though I would not laugh or take pics or anything like that. I feel sorry for you I would love to give u an orgasm. It must drive you mental not getting a release.

    • If only you could. I'm a bit cautious of showing anyone my genitals though so I would have to trust you first

    • I'm trustworthy. You will find someone. How so you get off? Do you watch porn or rub your balls or something?

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